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How do I help my child to love her mother more than her grandmother?

Don't make a contest out of it. Your daughter loves her grandmother. Great, that's awesome. As long as this doesn't result in some questionable behaviors, I fail to see a problem here. The whole ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?

If I were you, I would concentrate on my own behavior, not on his. I agree with Philipp that trust is the key point here. So far, your stepson has learned to survive in a hostile, perhaps violent ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?

Not a psychologist, but I have noticed with my FIL (who I think it's fair to say could be verbally abusive with his kids, wife, grandkids, and occasionally even me.) that a typical MO would be to ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?

so I decided to just work through it with him Children are not miniature adults. Their brains literally do not work the same way. They're no more capable of reasoning in the same way as an adult ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?

After some calm discussion, he admitted that he preferred to lie to tell us what he thought we wanted to hear (I'm a good boy, I've done all my jobs, I've made an effort like you asked) so that we ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?

I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me? He probably doesn't know himself yet. Before your step-son can bond with you, he needs to trust you. And building a trust ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?

It is, even for adults, often very difficult to figure out why a certain thing was done - especially related to talking, which by its nature is something that happens quickly, usually without much ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?

You've chosen to become an instant parent to an older child, and this is wonderful, for both of you. Just to be clear, recovery is by definition the process of dredging up the past to deal with it. ...
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