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Of all your suggestions, only one really says “it’s not ok to kick the dinosaurs”. The other are sending a different message, which can be summed up as Don’t do it when [some else with more power] sees it, because there may be undesirable consequences. The logical next step for some clever kids is to do exactly what you don’t want them to do the moment ...


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Something that hasn't been addressed is why the child is kicking the dinosaur. They are bored with the park or this exhibit ("Hey, don't damage the exhibits. If you're bored let's go and see the XYZ.") They are imagining fighting a dinosaur (Acknowledge the story. Compliment their bravery etc. Engage the imagination by talking about fighting a ...


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Just to add to what other posters have said, this can be a good time to give a child a lesson in empathy as well. Something like "Well, that dinosaur belongs to someone. Would you like it if someone kicked your <favourite toy, games console, etc>?". They would most likely say no, so then the obvious next question is "Why not?"


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Leaving aside the moral issues (as hopefully you are aware of those), and leaving aside whether you should intervene (a very good question itself), in their mind, this is something between the other parents and their son, so why are they involving you? If they want their son not to go, that’s their call, but they should not abstain responsibility for that ...


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Quietly and politely, tell the child to please not kick the dino and give the best possible (age-appropriate) reason. Something like "Please don't kick the dino. The dinos in the park are not for kicking. If other kids start kicking them, the dinos will fall apart and then next time we come to the park, there will be nothing to play with." ...


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Why not simply tell him the true reason? "You shouldn't damage the thing because it isn't yours." Because it is the correct and logical answer, this one is more likely to work than the others and get the kid to learn something useful. Then you could explain using simple examples: "If you have a toy you don't like, maybe you want to break it or ...


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Here are some pros and cons that I can think of: "The watchmen will reprimand you if he sees you" Pros: Communicating that social rules are enforced Teaching that actions may have consequences Convenient as you as a parent are not saying no Cons: Not communicating your own position on the matter (which means that the main message - that ...


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The things we hear about "love" as a child (and adult) are confusing, conflicting, and often do not at all reflect how "love" actually feels. Radio plays songs that describe "love" as a most extreme feeling. Same for half of anything they can watch in movies or television. (Some) religion require you to "love" both ...


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My child has been asking about his dad recently, as his friends have questioned him about it in school. What specifically was he asking about? Would meeting his father actually help answer these questions or what is else going through his mind? he has a drug, alcohol and gambling addiction This may be difficult for a 6 year old to understand and put ...


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In addition to Joe's good answer, I would say that passing this request on to your son is going to send a very clear message to him about your priorities. You probably don't want to do that. I suggest you go back to the friend's parents and say that you've thought it over, and realised that if you asked such a thing of your son he would not only reject the ...


3

Have you thought about why you don't want your kid to vandalize things? No "authoritative" answer will be as convincing as your very own and authentic feelings and thoughts on the matter. Even "I don't want you to break it, because I like how it looks" will work better than any fake answer parroted from the internet. Kids have great BS ...


3

There's nothing wrong with having celebrity crushes as long as it does not turn into an obsession. Having a favorite actor, actress, or musician is no different than having a favorite movie, TV show, book series, or video game. It's a fandom either way. If Tiffany helps him cope with the loss of a parent and is inspiring him to explore his Korean roots, then ...


3

You are experiencing abuse and need to get away from him as soon as possible. This behavior is not ok. Jail or prison sentences are very common with child abuse convictions. A misdemeanor conviction may bring a few days, months, or up to a year in jail, while felony convictions can easily result in sentences of 10 years or more in prison. According to ...


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When someone mistakenly calls me something that isn't my name, I say, "Please call me [My Name]." If they ask why, I say, "Because it is my name." It works just about every time.


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As a 13 year old girl, I want to give you my perspective :) Me and my boyfriend are both 13, and cuddling/hugging/kissing is pretty basic stuff for us, and as long as there is no sexual activity involved, it's totally OK. This girl seems right for your son, even if it's just in a platonic way. No reason to get too nosy, but I'd keep an eye on them to be sure ...


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should I be approaching it differently? You say you sulk for a little while. I strongly suggest you don't. Simply disregard what your son says about not liking/loving you. Most likely, it's not true. Instead, immediately answer him with something like "well, you don't have to like me. I love you very much anyway, and always will." I don't think ...


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Dealing with this kind of thing starts at home. What do you say/do when he kicks something at home? In my home there is an emphasis on looking after our possessions. "Don't throw that, you'll break it, and then you can't play with it anymore. We look after our possessions." Emphasis on looking after our own things, because they are valuable and we ...


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Actually both (2) and (3) are almost as bad as (1) because they only can be applied if someone knows what they did wrong. The question you need to ask yourself is not "How do I correct behaviour X?" but rather "Why is behaviour X wrong?" and "Why should anyone share my judgement of right and wrong regarding X?". And there is ...


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So yea there are some fairy tale answers here. I think they are thinking about this too deeply. 1st - it is a MAJOR issue if you kid wants to damage/vandalize random things. There is something wrong with him/her. Whether this is being upset about something, an issue that is not being dealt with or unstable discipline... the kid is lashing out. Let's ...


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Remember there are 12 year old fathers, girls mostly 13 at least. Talk this over with the other set of parents and give the young ones sexual education if at all possible in their parents view. And more importantly, the Pill or something to replace it, like a jab version. Yes, this may invite them to experiment but at that age they are likely to experiment ...


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