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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?
so I decided to just work through it with him
Children are not miniature adults. Their brains literally do not work the same way. They're no more capable of reasoning in the same way as an adult ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?
After some calm discussion, he admitted that he preferred to lie to
tell us what he thought we wanted to hear (I'm a good boy, I've done
all my jobs, I've made an effort like you asked) so that we ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?
Not a psychologist, but I have noticed with my FIL (who I think it's fair to say could be verbally abusive with his kids, wife, grandkids, and occasionally even me.) that a typical MO would be to ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?
I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?
He probably doesn't know himself yet.
Before your step-son can bond with you, he needs to trust you. And building a trust ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?
It is, even for adults, often very difficult to figure out why a certain thing was done - especially related to talking, which by its nature is something that happens quickly, usually without much ...
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I don't know if my step-son hates me, is scared of me, or likes me?
If I were you, I would concentrate on my own behavior, not on his.
I agree with Philipp that trust is the key point here. So far, your stepson has learned to survive in a hostile, perhaps violent ...
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As a father, should i allow my 5year old son to see me nude?
At that stage nudity has no special meaning for children. They are comfortable running around naked all day (weather permitting) and they don't think anything about other people being naked or not.
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How do I help my child to love her mother more than her grandmother?
Don't make a contest out of it.
Your daughter loves her grandmother. Great, that's awesome.
As long as this doesn't result in some questionable behaviors, I fail to see a problem here. The whole ...
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My child's best friend's parent thinks my child is a bad influence
This is essentially a game of telephone right now. You don't know what the friend's parent actually said or meant, you just know how you interpreted what your daughter interpreted what her friend ...
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My child's best friend's parent thinks my child is a bad influence
Now is a great opportunity to introduce your daughter to the 10 cognitive distortions. They are an amazing tool for anyone, but especially people who have anxious tendencies or are worried about ...
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As a father, should i allow my 5year old son to see me nude?
To my knowledge and experience, when a child of that age sees someone nude, they literally just see someone without clothes on, without any further connotation to it. Their main curiosity will be ...
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