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You already have received a fine answer to which I want to add a bit. Kids that age pretty much wear their feelings on their sleeves, and while fake crying as manipulation isn't rare, the whole thing looked quite genuine to me. Genuine sadness is not a punishable offense; it is always an appropriate option (and one I would choose) to console the child in ...


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Maybe unpopular opinion: Tricking children, especially ones who are too young to understand and appreciate it as a joke, is at best unkind, and can be outright mean, regardless of intentions. For children who can understand it as a joke, it can still come across as condescending. Think about how you would feel, even as an adult, if a vendor did that to you ...


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I don't think there is much that needs to change here, you can't judge the way a child is raised by some isolated incident that happens to be caught on tape. Getting the icecream for the child at this shop is likely a treat / special occasion, intended purely to make the child happy. In that situation, with a child of that age, it's not a good time for ...


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Is there a way to execute corporal punishment in public without triggering unknowing and irrational fears in strangers? No, not in this day and age. I would not spank in public, but that doesn't mean I would do nothing. Removing a child to a private place for a little sit-down or a time out would be my choice. Removing them to a private place for a swat on ...


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Many good tips in other answers, to which I would add: bring entertainment (a restaurant meal is longer to sit through than one at home) treat it as a discovery experience (count the tables, find the bathroom, see how many times the word "cheese" is in the menu, try to guess people's names or how you think they might be related) teach and compliment their ...


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Valkyrie starts by raising the most important point: That what qualifies as decent behavior is very subjective. We have always eaten out with our kids (6, 3, 6mos.), since they were very little. If you want them to simply NOT bother other people then the thing that works for certain is to: focus on them I see so many parents at restaurants who are ...


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It's reasonable to set some limits on their behavior in public if they're significantly negatively impacting other people. I don't personally feel that children need to be completely silent, but I also think reasonable limits on volume and behavior are appropriate. These are situations where I'd step in and ask for calmer behavior: They are dancing very ...


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The vendor's behavior was inappropriate, and their failure to manage their customer's expectations was rapidly called out and punished by the child, as it should have been. I consider this kind of ice-cream vendor to be the same kind of person who probably played "piggy in the middle" with younger kids' schoolbags. I have never had the dubious delight of ...


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First question: HOW do you discipline? We have one that listens and one that is the incarnation of stubborn, and we find that One-Two-Three magic works for both, so long as we're consistent. We also go over our restaurant rules on the way there, or while waiting, or when we get seated (or sometimes all three), and remind them of consequences ("if we get to ...


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I stick by the old adage "Praise in public, discipline in private." My parents had no qualms about taking me outside if we were in a restaraunt, or back to the car if we were at a park or something similar. Since disciplining your child is your business and no one else's, I would take your child to the restroom or back to the car. A restroom works ...


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I don't live in Sydney, but I live in New Zealand which has similar cultural standards. I think it is perfectly fine to let a child play in a fountain park with just a nappy on. I even occasionally see children playing in a fountain park with nothing at all on. There are a couple of things to consider: A regular nappy is going to absorb water like crazy, ...


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this video appears to be bad parenting to me (I am not a parent and know little to nothing about parenting Actually Laughing, as the mother in the video did, is how most parents I know (family and friends) would have reacted in that situation. And is infact what I did when I watched the video. The look on that poor little guys face is so cute. What ...


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You goal is only partly achievable, since staying in one place and quiet for a prolonged period is not really a developmentally normal behavior for a 14 month old. This is not to say that the attempt will be somehow harmful, but just that the expectation of "good church behavior" at that age is not entirely realistic, no matter how many entertainments are ...


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Please be considerate enough to use a "swim nappy/diaper". One "accident" in the fountain can make several people sick. You wouldn't want that for your child, neither does anyone else. Appended: I think what you are referring to as a fountain park is comparable to our splash pad here (in the US). Unlike a pool, the assorted water toys are supported on a ...


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I know this will not be a popular option, but when we go to my daughter's favorite place we allow her to use "her phone" (aka my old phone) that has age-appropriate games and videos on it IF she behaves and AFTER she finishes her meal, (and while her parents play Buzztime trivia.) For those rare times she does begin to misbehave - usually because it is too ...


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My answer comes from my own online research from people who may not be professionals, as well as my own experiences and opinion. I am not a professional in NPD nor have I ever talked with one or been professionally diagnosed. I myself have a few self-diagnosed narcissistic tendencies: I tend to give myself massive amounts of self-esteem (possibly undeserved,...


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Our eldest was just like this. He would push anything with wheels, or even chairs without wheels. He wanted to be like us so if we were pushing a trolley that's what he wanted to do. There are some simple solutions: get him his own toy trolley, ideally a fold down one for easy carrying. Even let him load it with a few non-breakable items of shopping let ...


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There's two things that stand out to me: The vendor did what so many adults do, presumably to get cheap laughs: tease a child. While they may defend it as 'a bit of innocent fun', to the child it doesn't feel that way at all, and it certainly displays an amount of disregard or even contempt for the child. I wonder if we don't all recall situations from our ...


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You can't avoid getting judged for your parenting decisions. Just look at the responses on this page. If you didn't spank, other people would judge you for trying to logically reason with a three year-old throwing a tantrum, thereby dragging out the child's misery, not to mention annoying everyone in earshot. Here's some things to keep in mind, though: ...


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I am from Germany which is far away but culturally similar in this point. At least I think so. We assume it as quite normal to let them play in a fountain with only swim nappies on. Good practice is to put swim trunks over the nappies so that they keep close to the body when soaking water. Otherwise things might go through the water cannon you don't want to ...


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A great lesson I heard my dad give was: "Home is where the kind of self-discipline that is remembered, is taught". A great lesson I heard from a pastor was: "Never hit your children in anger, it is never spanking or discipline". And my honest perspective is: "Discipline is only as effective as the patient self-discipline of the parent; ...


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