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L is now so habituated to weeing at this time of night that she basically doesn't wake up at all during the process. When we talk to her about it, she denies any knowledge of it happening at all... So first step, stop carrying her. Wake her, as gently as you can, and make her walk herself to the bathroom. I would pick a weekend to start this process, as ...


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Not to take the fun out of devising your own experiment, but the fine fluid dynamics physicists at the Splash Lab (at Brigham Young University) are trying to figure out how to prevent urinal splash-back right now! Fluid dynamics scientists (calling themselves the "wizz kids") set up a water tank and nozzles (emitting colored water) to mimic the natural ...


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You are dealing with two issues here: stool toileting refusal and the associated constipation. Constipation: Your doctor is probably recommending an enema because an impaction is preventing defecation at this point. I have an acquaintance who has had success in this same situation using a commercial suppository that is administered by eyedropper – you ...


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First, any fast moving stream of anything with mass is going to splatter when it hits something else -- it's really all about the angles (source & target) and velocity as to where it goes during the impact. Toilets are shaped differently, too, with some longer, shorter, taller, etc. You're potty training though -- not refining bathroom skills. Most ...


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A few people have touched upon this (he says sarcastically) but the best way to reduce it is by sitting down. An increasing number of men are sitting when they use the toilet as it's supposed to be more hygienic (as there isn't urine all over the place). I beleive Sweden and Japan are a couple examples of this. Failing that, don't tell him where to aim, but ...


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We recently crossed this bridge with our 5 year old. My wife and I miscommunicated who was taking her for a pee, neither of us did and there was no accident. After figuring out what happened the next day, we just rolled with it. After a few months with zero accidents, last week we took the pee pad off of her bed. So "stop doing it and suck up the handful ...


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A possible less-than-orthodox answer, provided you did all the standard advice already (e.g. usual behavior modification tricks and avoid hard/constipated stools as another answer mentioned). He may have a problem with the water splashing on him when the poop hits the water. Ours had issues with pooping on the toilet, but once they were resolved he started ...


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I think you are reading far too much into this. In fact, I was struggling to see what the problem was. You helped the young kid go potty. He needed help. If he'd poo-ed himself, you would have changed him, right? If he'd fallen down, you'd clean the blood off his knee, right? If you feel uncomfortable about it, you could mention it casually to the parents, ...


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I hate to say this (and I SWEAR it's not a pun) but it depends. For our daughter, pull-ups were more of a hassle than they were worth. She treated them like a diaper and was not interested in going into big-kid undies until we took them away and replaced them with training panties (the thick kind that can be soiled without causing a level 4 hazmat incident)...


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Potty training is so fun with kids. It's one step forward, two steps back, three steps forward, a shuffle to the side... In short, this sounds like one of the usual stops along the route towards full potty training. I don't see that you're doing anything wrong. Have you tried to talk with her about it? I don't know how verbal she is; my daughter was VERY ...


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You have my sympathy. Having one child with encopresis is awful. I can't really imagine accurately what it's like to have two children with this problem. Parents of children with idiopathic constipation often blame themselves and their toilet training problems (which were often present). First a quick reassurance: a rectal examination finding stool in the ...


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He himself is very concerned and tries to avoid it by holding his 'thing' and pointing it down. This way he is successful but i am concerned is there any side effects of this practice. There are no problematic side effects to this practice. Don't be overly concerned just because genitals are involved. Be happy, he's found a perfectly good solution to his ...


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Three ideas (one you might not like, but if it works...): Make sure he goes to the bathroom just before bed. Did wonders for our daughter. Try some higher-absorbency pullups. Since he's almost 6, maybe move to GoodNights or something similar for older kids with bladder control issues. You might just be overloading the capacity of the diaper. If you can ...


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One helpful tip is to get underwear printed with characters she is really into, then anthropomorphize the underwear when she has an accident. "Oh, no! Princesses don't like to get peed on :-(" Also, continuing the diaper sometimes is a confusing signal. It's faster to do underwear full time, with the possible exception of pull-ups at night, and just ...


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As Valkyrie said, no child goes to college in diapers. Don't put too much pressure on yourself or her as that tends to make things worse. If she has an accident, just gently remind her that pee pee and poop go in the potty--which she knows all ready, but you know how often you have to remind kids about stuff! Then find a way that she can help you clean up ...


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Potty training is one of the most difficult milestones for children and adults alike. For us, potty training was like a jail sentence; as soon as we realized that our child needed to go, we felt stuck, like we couldn't go out lest we risk an accident in the car seat while driving. For the child (and I am not a psychologist), I can imagine it can be equally ...


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Some children don't want to stop playing and sit on the toilet long enough to get all of the poop out. Also, being a new experience for them, they might not recognize the feeling of having some left inside. Having some entertainment could do the trick. Some books or toys or music (a portable cassette player) could keep your son on the toilet long enough to ...


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It takes some practice for kids to really learn what it feels like to need to use the potty. When we first tried potty training our son, we put him directly into underwear and it was a big flop. We think the underwear just felt too similar to wearing a diaper to him. So the second time we had a go at potty training, we let him run around naked from the ...


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Since toddlers (and babies) have been (and still are in various other cultures) potty trained this young and younger, apparently without a problem, The missing word here is some - some toddlers have been potty trained this young. Every child is different. Potty training combines two completely different developmental aspects: Physiological - Holding ...


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By age 7, the social ramifications of wearing a diaper are huge. This isn't the sort of thing the other kids at his school haven't noticed. If he hasn't started using the toilet after a couple of months around other kids, this isn't just stubbornness or your failure to win out, something is wrong. I've only run across a few cases of children this age who ...


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There are a couple of fun ways to do this that you could try: Draw a line on the wall or use a piece of decorative tape. Here's a funny example that's really nerdy: The text reads "you shall not pass!" Use it as counting practice. Show your kid where to look for the tear lines and tell them to only use n sheets at a time. Three or four is probably a ...


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With my son we spent some time with no pants or underwear, to increase body awareness. I took him out to the back yard with no pants or underwear on him and we played out there for long enough that he peed a few times (we did this for several days, I don't remember how many exactly). Pretty soon it got to be fun for him to "water the plants," and he was ...


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You are dream weeing at 10 pm. Every day, move it 1 minute earlier. 9:59 pm tomorrow, 9:58 pm the next day, etc. If it takes longer for her to dream wee, pause at that time until it happens reliably. Then start moving again. As the dream wee moves closer to her bed time (a month or two away), start restricting liquids close to bed time. Move it back at ...


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I had no idea potty selection was a challenge. We did what we always do: drive to our local outlet of a major worldwide Swedish furniture store. (I love going there, to me it's like a mini-vacation to Sweden.) They have a potty for just a few bucks. It's small, simple, and effective, and I highly recommend it. The bottom edge has a rubber inset so it's ...


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Some useful steps we used: Try to move her liquid intake earlier in the day - sounds like you have been trying to do this, but it is what will really make a difference at this age Make sure she visits the toilet just before bed - possibly encourage her to do this both before and after cleaning her teeth. Sometimes trying twice can help a child relatively ...


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I would suggest you make a routine with your child to go to toilet more often, even if he/she says it's not needed. Often just sitting there makes it happen and creates a nice feeling of relief. This way the whole subject will receive less importance which is often the source of the problem taking so long time to disappear.


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I'd like to begin by welcoming you to the community and reassuring you that, yes, this is normal. Many people are under the assumption that potty-training is something you do once and then it is done, but with most kids it doesn't really work that way. They have to learn the basics about how to use the potty. Then they have to learn their body signals, ...


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My son had this same problem. In fact, just tonight, he had a "skid mark" in his undies because he held his poo and it leaked out. It was his last day of school, so, like your son, he was too busy to hear nature calling. Btw- my boy is going to be ten in the fall! Way too old for this, IMO, but, it is leaps and bounds better than it was when he was 4-6 years ...


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That sounds perfectly normal! You might wait a few months before trying again, giving your daughter time to adjust to all the change she is experiencing. Give her time to grow into her role as big sister before you start toilet training again. When you start again, don't try to do toilet training and binky separation at the same time. A binky, like thumb-...


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