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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" / "Stop means Stop" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play? By accepting that no means no and stop means stop. That ...
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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

I'm a firm believer that "No means no", including tickling. Does that mean that you can't initiate tickling without asking consent? No, not necessarily, any more than you need to ask your ...
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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

What I do is Tickle Kid starts giggling, says "Stop" or "Red light!" I've noticed that this seems to be reflex, and this is true for basically all of us, we instinctively say ...
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Should I play Minecraft with my kids?

Yes, you absolutely should Your boys are trying to share something valuable and important with you. I doubt you'd be this worried about it if it wasn't digital - what would you do if they wanted to ...
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Should a parent stop "destructive play"?

Destructive play is fine as long as it's ok to destroy the object in question. For example, as an adult I still enjoy "destructive play" when I have an old IKEA desk I need to get rid of and can't ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

I think it's unrealistic to expect a 2 year old to be able to play by themselves for a long time. Some might, but not all. We tried the "cry it out" technique tonight but we know it'll take more ...
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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" / "Stop means Stop" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play? Saying no when you don't really mean it is common in these ...
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Is there such a thing as too much machine time?

I don't think you'll find studies on this unfortunately, but the concern with screen time is a very different thing than the concern might be with the Roomba or whatnot. From the American Academy of ...
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Should I play Minecraft with my kids?

Yes! I view screen time as more of a necessary evil than anything else. My boys get 30 minutes each per day, and I would be happier if it were less. You've given them a resource (30 min of screen) ...
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How to "get to know" my girlfriend's toddler?

Don't overthink it, just do it. (Nearly) every parent is inexperienced with toddlers the first time they have one around, learning on the job is standard. To help with this, toddlers can and will ...
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Games to play with child just under one year

You can look into "baby sensory play" to get some ideas of educational (mostly messy and/or elaborate to prepare) activities for toddlers, but I have always preferred the simple classics. Songs and ...
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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

While I support the general principle behind "no means no", human interaction and communication is more nuanced than that and many parts of it - especially in playful and romantic contexts - ...
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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

I think this is a really wonderful question and I am glad that you asked! I don't think that this situation should be different. "Stop" still means "stop" and "no" still ...
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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

Many answers are debating whether "stop" really means stop in this situation. I think it's irrelevant. Even if there are (arguably) situations where "stop" might actually mean ...
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Is my child's cooperativity a trait or a choice?

There have been incredible recent advances in the research on how genes and experience influence development. One of the most important things to take away from the newer research is that it's not a ...
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What age should you start enforcing board game rules?

What a great opportunity to teach communication and compromise. I would separate the kids into those who want to play by the rules and those who want to create their own game. Or play with official ...
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Five Year old structured playing

I don't know if what you describe is normal for your child's age, and I would beware of any advice you get on the internet about "normal" diagnosis based on the online post. I recommend ...
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How should I reconcile the concept of "no means no" when I tease my 5-year-old during tickle play?

The problem is that the basic assumption is not true, there are different types of 'no', and they do not always really mean 'stop immediately', sometimes it's just 'slow down' or similar. You must not ...
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How to "get to know" my girlfriend's toddler?

Children that age like to be read to, some also like to do puzzles, simple games (including memory). Some kids also really like to be tickled or scared ("I'm a monster and I'm going to eat you, grrr."...
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Can a 7-month-old baby be lifted upside down?

This depends somewhat on the baby's age and whether the baby has any problems with his hips. If a baby is cruising (standing holding on to furniture and taking steps this way), I don't think short ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

Your son wants interaction because you're the two people in the world that he cares most about. It is often boring playing on his own, and he isn't getting as much positive feedback by himself — he ...
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Is this a good game to play with my children?

Sounds like a lovely game. Your kids are learning how to celebrate wins without making the losing kid feel bad for losing, while also learning how to lose without explosive emotions. Children are ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

Toddlers are very social. We also had difficulties cooking while the children wanted to be with us. Having lots of toys and books helped somewhat. Another big help was a toy kitchen with a toy stove, ...
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The children are making home messy

It is a very common problem. I've been to plenty of houses that looked like the way you described yours. But I think the problem has several causes: 1) Too many accessible toys. The bulk of the toys ...
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What age should you start enforcing board game rules?

If you play a boardgame, or any game with them you should always enforce the rules. You can make then easier if you have the feeling, that some rules are to complicated or simply are bad rules all ...
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Should a parent stop "destructive play"?

Context matters If they destroy something that nobody cares about and doesn't have any real value, then why not, but they need to know that before. At best they should destroy stuff they made ...
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Should a parent stop "destructive play"?

The core challenge is to keep things safe and fair. At 5 years old my kid STILL destroys snowmen before they're finished. Towers get knocked over. Artwork gets torn up. Just about every creative ...
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