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First the orange is dirty. You solve that, and only then the orange has pesticides. You solve that, and only then does the orange cause allergies. You can bet that if you proved that oranges are hypoallergenic, there would have been another objection. Your wife does not have a problem with the orange. Something else is going on.


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I take what I consider to be a pragmatic approach: if there is no toy which is obviously a gun, kids just make their own (60-80% of boys, 30% of girls, play with "aggressive toys" of some variety). Fingers, sticks, coat hangers (which double as pretty decent fighter planes and space ships, IMHO), pencils/pens, cardboard tubes (packing tubes make great ...


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You should buy an organic orange - many citrus fruit are treated with fungicudes etc. to prevent mold in stores and during transport (we consumers benefit only by accident). There is a question over at Seasoned Advice that discusses whether they may be washed off. That said, if you give your child a washed organic orange - under supervision, of course - I ...


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If you ask me, except if taken out of the dustbin, or if it rolled on a dirty floor, or if you are travelling in a country with different bacteria, oranges are ok to play with and even touch with mouth. If there is a little doubt or objection from the mother, rinsing it should be enough. Also, there is an elephant in the room here, or two. Firstly, you ...


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Most important then if you should let your child play with toy A or toy B, is what you already posted in your question: What are the effects this kind of play have in the children's psichology? Remember toddlers and young children have trouble separating fantasy from reality. His nightmares and fantasies will seem as real as school to them. You have to ...


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Sure, there are many great ideas. Playing at this age is about teaching, bonding -- encouraging your child. Peek-a-boo -- This and all its derivatives are great. They build language and trust. Hide your eyes and pretend you can't see him. Show him how to cover his eyes and pretend you can't see him or that you can see him. It's fun. Hide behind a blanket or ...


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At that age, it is normal to spend pretty much all her waking time trying to interact with her - remember, the more interaction she has with you, your wife and others now, the faster her brain will develop, and the easier it is for her to learn social skills. That said, be sensible about it - you don't both need to be with her, so take turns - each of you ...


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Hide the snacks and limit what's available. Ask them why they like playing at yours. It could be that they aren't being fed properly at home, or a tough situation is going on at home etc. Ultimately it's your house. You can timebox their visits. It's easy as all you have to do is make clear what the times are and stick to them. You can say no. It isn't ...


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As far as I understand your are struggling with several things at the same time. If I read you correctly... After a long day at work you want to disconnect for some time You are concerned that your kid is watching to much TV You want to catch up with what happened in the world during the day You also feel bad as you don't spend too much time with your kid ...


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You can look into "baby sensory play" to get some ideas of educational (mostly messy and/or elaborate to prepare) activities for toddlers, but I have always preferred the simple classics. Songs and fingerplays: Itsy Bitsy Spider Wheels on the Bus Old McDonald (Extra fun if you have stuffed animals to hold up as you sing about each) Bunny Foofoo ...


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TL;DR Have fun together, but back off sometimes and just watch. And when you're too exhausted, just say so. I think your son is lucky to have a dad that is so engaged. You're certainly not doing a bad job of it! You just need to steal Iron Man's power source and put it in your chest. If that can't be accomplished, then you could try some of these ideas: ...


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I've decided to share a few things we do right now which seem to be interesting and fun and (I think) help her develop (or at least don't slow her development:). Just an explaination: I write her all the time because I have a daughter. At this age it doesn't change much for boys I guess. Indoors Activities with children's books There are many books for ...


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"Is the screaming a phase?" Well, sort of. In terms of infant crying, yes - but for the reasons you stated, it just presents in different ways as they get older. At 7 months, your daughter is just about to enter the separation anxiety beginnings. It's not a need to panic, but it is a need to come to have realistic expectations about what this means. Your ...


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This is late for independent play to start. This is a learned activity. This suggests that you start young. Here are eight tips that have most helped us in encouraging our toddlers to play independently. Start Young. Toys. Stop Playing For Them. Take Their Play Seriously. Give Them Your Undivided Attention. Connect During ...


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You're trying to convince your child that TV is not good, while you sit and watch TV yourself. That's not going to work. You need to practice what you preach. If you want him to watch less TV, then you need to do the same. Instead of feeling guilty and giving him the mobile, you could try just turning off the tv and spending quality time with him, playing ...


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If only you could bottle and sell some of that excess energy, you'd be rich! Sometimes you just need to explain to the child that they have to play on their own for a while. They won't like it but after 5 minutes alone they'll usually find something with which to amuse themselves. The hardest part is for you to not feel guilty during those 5 minutes. ...


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To be honest, it sounds like the concern should be that there is very little time in the routine to play. Play is essential for children - both physical (running, jumping, dancing, etc) and mental play (board games, computer games, I-Spy etc) so if your difficulty is in fitting that into her routine I would suggest trying to change the routine or all too ...


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Consider you answered your own question, you turned out okay, rationally recognizing the inherent dangers. There are important, legitimate, appropriate, responsible uses of weapons for defense, hunting to provide food, and sports. Its not just about violence, or playing cops & robbers. Water, essential for life, is inherently dangerous. A child can ...


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One of the purposes of toys is to give children a safe way to learn about dangerous things. So yes, you should not only allow, but encourage your children to play with toy guns, knives, hammers, saws, bows, etc. The caveat is that you should also require them to treat the toy versions with the same level of care and respect that they would the real article....


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What a clever child you have! He understands the shampoo is to be used in the bath, so he tried to take a bath in order to play with it. That is fabulous! I do understand the problem, but I do think you should take a moment to recognize this problem is stemming from the fact that your child does understand what you have told him, each thing has a place ...


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I haven't read the book, but I would guess "clap hands" is just clapping the baby's hands or clapping your hands to the baby's hands, with or without music. I think hidey peep is when a child hides behind something or under a blanket, similar to peekaboo, but not using hands to cover eyes (search hidey peep on YouTube for a few examples). I'd think ...


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I think there are two separate factors here: one is imposing an appropriate amount of alone time as a consequence for an infraction, which is easy, because after the appropriate amount of time on his own, one or other of you (parents) can join him so he's not alone but is also not bugging his sister. The harder question is how to get an extrovert child to ...


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Remember that dealing with disappointment is another important life lesson parents need to teach. You don't have to be a martyr to be a good parent. If you want to spend more time with him without exhausting yourself, a few things you can try are: Just be a spectator. Tell him you need to rest for a while, but you will watch him, or at least stay in the ...


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You are not the first (set of) parent(s) to use too much screen time to entertain a child, and you won't be the last. The problem is that it works, and for tired or stressed parents, it's like a "pause" button: it stops the child from demanding something. However, that much screen time is not good for the child, a fact I think you're aware of. To get a ...


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Use a PVR to record the news, then watch it after your kid is asleep. Added bonus: you get to fast-forward the commercials. Now that you’re not watching TV, there are many things you can do with your child. Anything from colouring, to building, to some simple board games, to story telling, to arithmetic, ... really, the sky’s the limit. Or you could get out ...


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As I go for work i will be busy in my work after reaching home. When I get time I spend the whole day with my DS. I just find it hard for the activities but I go online for the activities so that I can engage my kid and has lot of fun. I would like to share few of the activities that i do with my son. I use to play Indoor basket ball: This one of the best ...


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Whenever you hold a human being by an appendage or 2 and then whirl them around, you create substantial force on their body, proportional to the rotational velocity at which you are spinning them. While this can be done at various ages, declaring it as "safe" is a non-starter. Any number of odd events could happen causing you to lose sufficient focus on ...


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I think that the correct answer to this problem is entirely contingent on locale. I grew up in Alaska, where guns are so prevalent that my school actually took us to the range for a day during middle-school home-ec class and taught us gun safety with .22 rifles. In that environment, my parents took a similar stance to @Perkins' parents, viewing "gun play" ...


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No, you should not trust any dog's instinct nor should you trust any strangers on the Internet like me. You are the responsible party and you need to do your own homework. You certainly should apply good parenting strategies: observe the kids when they are playing together, set clear rules of what's okay and what isn't, and follow through consistently when ...


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