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First the orange is dirty. You solve that, and only then the orange has pesticides. You solve that, and only then does the orange cause allergies. You can bet that if you proved that oranges are hypoallergenic, there would have been another objection. Your wife does not have a problem with the orange. Something else is going on.


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As others have said, the primary thing is that you make this a fun activity that the two of you do together, not a chore. That means that you will wind up doing the bulk of the actual work; do not expect her to sort half the bricks, handle a camera competently, or anything else. As a rule of thumb children under 10 have an attention span in minutes roughly ...


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I take what I consider to be a pragmatic approach: if there is no toy which is obviously a gun, kids just make their own (60-80% of boys, 30% of girls, play with "aggressive toys" of some variety). Fingers, sticks, coat hangers (which double as pretty decent fighter planes and space ships, IMHO), pencils/pens, cardboard tubes (packing tubes make great ...


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You should buy an organic orange - many citrus fruit are treated with fungicudes etc. to prevent mold in stores and during transport (we consumers benefit only by accident). There is a question over at Seasoned Advice that discusses whether they may be washed off. That said, if you give your child a washed organic orange - under supervision, of course - I ...


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I don't think this would be essentially different from a backyard lemonade stand. Make sure it's something she does for fun, and not something she feels forced to continue with. That's the biggest downside I can think of, but it should be avoidable.


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If you ask me, except if taken out of the dustbin, or if it rolled on a dirty floor, or if you are travelling in a country with different bacteria, oranges are ok to play with and even touch with mouth. If there is a little doubt or objection from the mother, rinsing it should be enough. Also, there is an elephant in the room here, or two. Firstly, you ...


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Most important then if you should let your child play with toy A or toy B, is what you already posted in your question: What are the effects this kind of play have in the children's psichology? Remember toddlers and young children have trouble separating fantasy from reality. His nightmares and fantasies will seem as real as school to them. You have to ...


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As far as I understand your are struggling with several things at the same time. If I read you correctly... After a long day at work you want to disconnect for some time You are concerned that your kid is watching to much TV You want to catch up with what happened in the world during the day You also feel bad as you don't spend too much time with your kid ...


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Hide the snacks and limit what's available. Ask them why they like playing at yours. It could be that they aren't being fed properly at home, or a tough situation is going on at home etc. Ultimately it's your house. You can timebox their visits. It's easy as all you have to do is make clear what the times are and stick to them. You can say no. It isn't ...


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Sure, there are many great ideas. Playing at this age is about teaching, bonding -- encouraging your child. Peek-a-boo -- This and all its derivatives are great. They build language and trust. Hide your eyes and pretend you can't see him. Show him how to cover his eyes and pretend you can't see him or that you can see him. It's fun. Hide behind a blanket or ...


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You can look into "baby sensory play" to get some ideas of educational (mostly messy and/or elaborate to prepare) activities for toddlers, but I have always preferred the simple classics. Songs and fingerplays: Itsy Bitsy Spider Wheels on the Bus Old McDonald (Extra fun if you have stuffed animals to hold up as you sing about each) Bunny Foofoo ...


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At 20 months, my oldest was like yours - very physical. So, the main thing I did with him was to take him outside to play. Running around, climbing on the playground, climbing stairs; all of this within reasonable safety limits, though often a bit outside what others were comfortable with, but I knew my son's limits and how careful he was. Obviously this ...


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I've decided to share a few things we do right now which seem to be interesting and fun and (I think) help her develop (or at least don't slow her development:). Just an explaination: I write her all the time because I have a daughter. At this age it doesn't change much for boys I guess. Indoors Activities with children's books There are many books for ...


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"Is the screaming a phase?" Well, sort of. In terms of infant crying, yes - but for the reasons you stated, it just presents in different ways as they get older. At 7 months, your daughter is just about to enter the separation anxiety beginnings. It's not a need to panic, but it is a need to come to have realistic expectations about what this means. Your ...


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You're trying to convince your child that TV is not good, while you sit and watch TV yourself. That's not going to work. You need to practice what you preach. If you want him to watch less TV, then you need to do the same. Instead of feeling guilty and giving him the mobile, you could try just turning off the tv and spending quality time with him, playing ...


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This is late for independent play to start. This is a learned activity. This suggests that you start young. Here are eight tips that have most helped us in encouraging our toddlers to play independently. Start Young. Toys. Stop Playing For Them. Take Their Play Seriously. Give Them Your Undivided Attention. Connect During ...


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One of my happiest moments with my (slightly older but similar age) kids was the first time watching Home Alone. After that movie was over, they spent hours playing pranks and setting traps all around the house. It was great fun and then they learned the lesson of ‘if you build it you must clean it up,’ and also had a few times where I pointed out that it ...


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Consider you answered your own question, you turned out okay, rationally recognizing the inherent dangers. There are important, legitimate, appropriate, responsible uses of weapons for defense, hunting to provide food, and sports. Its not just about violence, or playing cops & robbers. Water, essential for life, is inherently dangerous. A child can ...


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One of the purposes of toys is to give children a safe way to learn about dangerous things. So yes, you should not only allow, but encourage your children to play with toy guns, knives, hammers, saws, bows, etc. The caveat is that you should also require them to treat the toy versions with the same level of care and respect that they would the real article....


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To be honest, it sounds like the concern should be that there is very little time in the routine to play. Play is essential for children - both physical (running, jumping, dancing, etc) and mental play (board games, computer games, I-Spy etc) so if your difficulty is in fitting that into her routine I would suggest trying to change the routine or all too ...


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I think you and your son did everything just fine. You've taught your son how to handle Joe's demands in a calm and proper way. That by itself is great. Your son can handle himself, diffuse situations and keep his own emotions in check. You should be proud of yourself for what you've taught him. Don't worry about what Joe's mom did or didn't do. It's ...


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Can I buy second-hand toys, make them better with my 6.5 years old daughter and sell them for a higher price? Yes you can. But don't expect your daughter to be a true business partner. Make sure they are participating because it is fun to do and don't let it become a chore (preferably for the both of you).


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My first reaction, child labor rules and protections. You may intent and plan to run this as fun and a teaching experience. But it comes close to child labor and if checked you may run into problem if not carefully set up. And make sure your child will never have a valid complaint you made her work for you while she was too small to have a paid job out of ...


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You are not the first (set of) parent(s) to use too much screen time to entertain a child, and you won't be the last. The problem is that it works, and for tired or stressed parents, it's like a "pause" button: it stops the child from demanding something. However, that much screen time is not good for the child, a fact I think you're aware of. To get a ...


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Use a PVR to record the news, then watch it after your kid is asleep. Added bonus: you get to fast-forward the commercials. Now that you’re not watching TV, there are many things you can do with your child. Anything from colouring, to building, to some simple board games, to story telling, to arithmetic, ... really, the sky’s the limit. Or you could get out ...


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If your concern is simply at their home, then it is fairly simple: suggest they play outside somewhere, or you meet at a common location (zoo, play space, children's museum, restaurant, etc.) That allows you to still let your kids play together, but in a safe place. If you are not interested in having any contact with them at all, then a simple polite ...


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Whenever you hold a human being by an appendage or 2 and then whirl them around, you create substantial force on their body, proportional to the rotational velocity at which you are spinning them. While this can be done at various ages, declaring it as "safe" is a non-starter. Any number of odd events could happen causing you to lose sufficient focus on ...


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As I go for work i will be busy in my work after reaching home. When I get time I spend the whole day with my DS. I just find it hard for the activities but I go online for the activities so that I can engage my kid and has lot of fun. I would like to share few of the activities that i do with my son. I use to play Indoor basket ball: This one of the best ...


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I think that the correct answer to this problem is entirely contingent on locale. I grew up in Alaska, where guns are so prevalent that my school actually took us to the range for a day during middle-school home-ec class and taught us gun safety with .22 rifles. In that environment, my parents took a similar stance to @Perkins' parents, viewing "gun play" ...


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