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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

Joe's excellent answer is sufficient in itself. I just wanted to add my experience as a parent (and maybe my experience with troubled kids.) This is one of the hardest phases of parenting: the (nearly)...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

What worked for a family member of one of my relatives was fairly straightforward: set rules or limits based on what works for the parents, and largely otherwise letting go. The parents spent years ...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

I'm not a parent, but once upon a time I was a somewhat similarly troubled young adult -- you mentioned she spends a significant amount of time reading, so maybe suggest she try her hand at writing? ...
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Should I allow my child to drop an activity just because he’s lost interest?

Parenting around the globe has the universal purpose of cultivating habits, and in a globalized world it is important to be able to accommodate habits outside one's self. That said, we are in a fairly ...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

This is based on my experience as a young adult whose life ground to a halt for a long, long time. First of all, I believe you should act, immediately. Your daughter is not a functioning adult. And ...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

Not a parent but a child who had massive difficulties entering adulthood. Social anxiety, depression, OCD, terrible self-esteem... Perfect configuration for failure. I tried university, ended up very ...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

your daughter sounds like me for many years. what i had was untreated major depression. my parents denied i had it for many years, and i tried to "power through" until i had a major ...
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My kid slops through her chores or takes forever to do it. I've tried everything

There is a possibility your child may have ADHD1, but they would need to see a specialist for diagnosis and help with any treatment. A small caveat, while I am not a medical professional but I am a (...
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My 9 months baby doesn't like to move, what should I do?

Let me preface my answer with a few general remarks about child development and stages: First, not all babies reach the various milestones at exactly the same time. In fact, most milestones have a ...
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Should we make a 13-year-old without any interests/hobbies do something?

I'm a younger person (in my 20s), and I think the definition of hobby is the issue when dealing with older folks. My parents also tried to get me involved in conventional hobbies like sports, dance, ...
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How can I discourage doing a poor job without being a nitpicking perfectionist?

Teach the child what it means when the job is, say, 10%, 50%, 80% or almost 100% done. And then teach the child where, when, how and to which percent completion to do various tasks. Regarding this: &...
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My 9 months baby doesn't like to move, what should I do?

This web page has some good ideas for encouraging your child to crawl. Putting a favourite toy just out of reach in front of them or in a half circle around them is a good way of motivating them to ...
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What to do with a disinterested 12-year-old boy?

How about some board games or tabletop games? You could start with a family game night for Monopoly. Or you could learn about and break out some tabletop RPG. This is a lot of work and a lot of effort,...
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