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There is no one answer to this, and honestly it's an argument that is happening on a much larger scale in the world all the time. To put it in more common political terms: you were raised a capitalist, and your partner was raised a socialist. Both of these philosophies can work, but they're based on very different priorities. Your philosophy rewards ...


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Further to your own and @candied_orange's point as well, your son's first teachers of authority are his parents. In fact I would argue that a person's primal mental/emotional interface with authority is birthed and given dimensions within their nervous system right here. Each "no!" issued by a child's parents lays a subtle layer of acceptance of ...


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I also want to suggest a book. The Emperor's New Clothes by H. C. Andersen. It should be easy to find an illustrated version appropriate for a 9-year old.


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Never say, "because I told you so". When every rule comes with a why the world makes sense. When "because I said so" is the only explanation, authority is the only reason. Now this may lead to your kid standing in the middle of the street asking "why" when you tell them to get out of it. But if they live they'll have a healthy ...


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I find the most important part of a healthy skepticism is in dealing with situations where there isn't a right answer. In the case of puzzles, your son is either right or they are wrong. There is a truth-value that can be assigned to the phrase "I am right." In this case, the person who is arguing for the right side will always win. It doesn't ...


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There is a great book by George Orwell called "Animal Farm", I believe I read it around your son's age; I may not have picked up on all the symbolism on the first time through, but after reading it multiple times I can say it shaped my skepticism towards politicians and other figures. There are multiple times in the books where certain animals use ...


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How to instill scepticism towards authority, albeit in a healthy way? In order to simplify the process, we have a natural mechanism for scepticism towards authority. It is called "puberty" and generally happens by itself - as healthy as one manages. Since your son is 9y old, in 3 or 4 years you will be generally dealing with the opposite problem.


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The lesson you're trying to teach is political, and I'd say at a rather complex level. If you wish to pass on a certain political view with regards to authorities, I think that is too complex to infer by modelling societal structures within your family. Such a model would be too crude to be able to cover the nuances of when respecting authority is vs isn't a ...


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Skepticism is a disbelief in something or someone. Therefore it isn't a quality you should or can teach. Skepticism of one thing only arises when an alternate path emerges that is obviously better. For instance, sheltered children often have no idea that there are any other ways of life than their parents' until they reach teenage years. If a child grows ...


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I think the word you are looking for is "critical thinking", which I define as the inclination to always question statements of fact or authority. This is more than just mechanical contraryness, which I observe is a common substitute - critical thinking means that you always check things to your own satisfaction. A sometimes annoying (for others) ...


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"Healthy disrespect" for authority has a wide definition. Based on your question, I'm going to define it as "not accepting blindly what authority figures tell him, but not doing it in a way that explicitly defies the authority in a confrontational way". Basically, not automatically trusting authority figures, but not being a jerk about ...


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