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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

So... I've raced bikes and from my experience, they are probably littering. As much as a race organizer may try to clean up after a race the distance covered and volume of waste generated during a ...
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

By tolerating the behavior, you're validating the behavior. Her age doesn't matter - it only make the problem your responsibility. Let's call things as they are: your daughter bullied another girl to ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

What's important here is not the "littering" as such but that people are being responsible. I presume you want your son to be a responsible person in general so I'd focus on that and if he isn't too ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

I don't see any reason why you should condone this behaviour, even if it is allowed by the authorities. If your child is interested in making sure trash ends up in the appropriate place, or isn't ...
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How should I teach my child to help but also do things on her own?

I would try modeling the behavior you would like to see in her. I suspect you are correct in your assumption that she learned her current behavior from observing you. Which means you will probably ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

The situation for bottles and food wrappers is rather different. Honestly, with food wrappers, your son is completely right: they're just littering. Food wrappers are tiny and weigh next to nothing. ...
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

I don't think you're in a black or white situation, where this 'bossy' behavior is either normal, or a problem that needs a parental solution-- It's both. It is quite normal for some five year olds ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

A grandmother here! Remember to always make your answer age appropriate: First, be so impressed that he verbalized a bad behavior Next, just point out the differences that he asks about-no need to ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

It's not littering for the same reason you do your son's laundry. The cyclist's team is more than just the cyclist. The cyclist's role is to pedal like crazy, the coach's job is to coach. The event ...
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

Is my daughter's behaviour acceptable, in the sense that we don't like it but could tolerate it because of the young age? Five is a rough age. Most kids are just finding their "voice", as their ...
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

To add to all the other excellent answers, I provide here a simple psychoanalytical interpretation of what is going on, using 'transactional analysis' (TA). (I am not an expert, nor professional ...
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Is it rude to allow a child only in nappy while playing in a fountain park?

I don't live in Sydney, but I live in New Zealand which has similar cultural standards. I think it is perfectly fine to let a child play in a fountain park with just a nappy on. I even occasionally ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

As requested, just posting my comment as an answer: I don't see the harm in agreeing with your son! If he becomes a professional cyclist and his performance is being hampered by holding onto or ...
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Parents salt food too much

You answer your own question in the prohibitions you put on the acceptable answers. If someone is doing something that you don't like there are only a few solution. Ask them to stop Do it yourself (...
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Is it appropriate to say "Congratulations" to premature parents?

My daughter was born at 27 weeks. Congratulations will be appreciated in any case, I don't think you've stuck your foot in your mouth. After all, they did expect to have a baby, just not quite so soon....
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

My speech, obviously to be altered depending on the specific circumstances: "Joey, littering is when you leave things like trash behind without permission. Permission is important. It makes a lot of ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

Use this as a pretext to develop problem-solving skills. Cyclists need food/water on a regular basis and need to take it from a bike running at a high speed. There is a real problem faced by ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

There different rules for different times and places Your son probably already knows that the rules at kindergarten or at other people's houses are different from the rules at home, or that some ...
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

What I do in this situation is a three-pronged approach. First, understand that the child is just mimicking what she sees. People boss her around all the time. People she likes, people she even "...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

The legal concept behind littering is knowingly leaving litter behind without permission. He can probably grasp that the cyclists' act intentionally knowing the race organizers will clean up behind ...
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Parents salt food too much

You've tried already to ask and your parents have said that they are willing to accommodate you, but they continue to salt according to their taste. I have two suggestions. Be specific about the ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

You can explain to your son, that as part of the race people are paid to follow behind and pick up the rubbish. BUT why can't the cyclists just put it back?
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How to stop 3-year-old from bouncing in every bed?

There may be many factors that are responsible : First the size of your house; i am saying this because if your have small apartment and your child spends most of the time in the room with a bed then ...
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

For the doll example, I see nothing wrong. Especially if it isn't anyone specific seat. If it's a seat for a specific person then the teacher should take care of it. The doll need a place to sit with ...
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Should I use the word please when giving preschooler's orders?

To me this depends to some extent on whether you are raising the child in an authoritarian household, where the expectation is that the child quickly and without question follows the instruction of ...
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Why my daughter thinks that f-word will make her stylish? How to make her good again?

There are two things at play with your daughter that seem to add up to her being an ill-mannered person, but which should not be added together. And when looked at separately, they paint a picture of ...
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Is it rude to allow a child only in nappy while playing in a fountain park?

Please be considerate enough to use a "swim nappy/diaper". One "accident" in the fountain can make several people sick. You wouldn't want that for your child, neither does anyone else. Appended: I ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

Your kid is 100% right. In his version of reality, those guys are littering, and it does not matter a bit whether it is allowed or not, or whether someone cleans up after the race. I feel the need to ...
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Our seven year old son has trouble responding to certain kinds of adult interactions

How is it going? is a very difficult question, and I'm completely unsurprised that a 7 year old struggles with it. It can mean a lot of different things depending on the context and the relationship ...
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