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This weird stage is really common, and mostly developmental-- something that most babies will naturally outgrow. It's upsetting and gross, but not harmful. The baby won't actually choke or cause injury by occasionally over inserting fingers in the mouth. My son did it for a couple weeks at about that age, and it's recently had a brief resurgence (age 2)....


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Absolutely. What you're seeing is entirely normal in babies, particularly around 3+ months old. Among other things, he might be beginning to teethe; both of those things are associated with teething. Drooling is associated with basically everything for many babies, and sucking on fingers (or thumbs or other things) is also very normal. If the drooling is ...


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As an adult who does the same thing, I don't think it's anything to worry about. If they aren't already involved in playing a musical instrument or some type of singing outlet you could find a local option to help them get the music out. I know in my case it's that I really love music and find myself thinking about songs I enjoy or sometimes am noodling a ...


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Pointing is really the first way kids start to express their wants other than crying, so this is exciting for them. They also sometimes just want to know what something is. I find that the most important thing you can do is to communicate that you understood her. I find it useful to communicate back with words to my 15 months old, such as : Yes, that ...


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Fifteen months is early even for 100% picture books. It's far too early for understanding a storyline - it's too early for the level of imagination capable of understanding that there could be such a thing as a story. Most fifteen month olds aren't interested in books except as a very short and quick interaction with daddy/mommy. They probably aren't ...


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A 15 month old not only cannot read, but doesn't yet know that those black marks on the paper are words, or that what you are saying is somehow controlled by what is on the paper. This is something they need to learn, and they learn it in modern society through picture-only, no-text books. These are typically heavy cardboard so the toddler doesn't wreck them ...


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This sounds like pretty normal 15 month old "GOOD LORD I CAN MOVE MYSELF THIS IS AWESOME", but if it's truly looking out of control, you might want to consider talking to your paediatrician, just as a check. I think we do have a few questions on hyperactivity on the site. As far as the reading goes, children generally want to mimic their parents. My ...


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One of my nephews used to do that, more because he loved the way everybody paid attention to him when he did it than because he thought it was fun to choke himself :( Distraction was the key to eliminating the behavior. Teach him that he can get attention with other behaviors. Putting something interesting in his hands will give him something else to ...


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It is highly unlikely that this will do any damage at all, any more than, say, if one developed the habit of tucking their thumbs slightly into the folded fingers instead of over them when making a loose fist. The purpose of the toes is to help us balance on our feet and to aid in pushing off while walking, which has to be done with the toes flat on the ...


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I would add to EmandM's excellent answer that 3 is old enough to begin to learn about other people's bodily boundaries, and in general that one does not touch others in a way (or at a time) that is unwanted. You can tell him, "I don't want to play this way right now. Please give me some space!" You can also redirect to a type of touch or a time that IS ...


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What works for us is large pencils. There are pencils that are about double or so the normal diameter of a pencil; they're easier for smaller children to hold and control, with less developed fine motor control. Some even will have a slightly different shape (triangular). Ultimately the problem isn't how dark the lines are, but that it's simply hard to ...


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My 7 year old was recently diagnosed with ADD and this was actually a question on his assessment and yes, he hums all the time! He has done this since he could talk and honestly, it drives me up the wall but according to his psychiatrist, it is a way for kids with ADD to keep themselves "busy" and they really do not even realize they are doing it.


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My concern would be tooth decay- bread might not be sweet, but it's chock full of carbohydrates and for sure prolonged exposure to food right before bed (and without tooth brushing afterward) is a host for cavity-causing bacteria. "Tooth decay is caused by acid-producing bacteria in your mouth that feast on carbohydrates, be it sugar from candy or ...


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It sounds like he's looking for your attention, which is normal and natural in a small child. He wants to know that he's loved and wanted by you. If you are not enjoying this particular attention seeking behaviour, give him attention in a more manageable way. Play games with him, let him help with tasks around the house, do activities with him directly. ...


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I'd like to add that by telling her it's not "lady-like" perpetuates the idea that it's ok for boys, not for girls. Historically, seixist cultivation in small children is due in part to physical restrictions for girls, such as not letting girls be loud, run about, or pass gas with out reprehention.


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First off, don't treat truth telling as a special event, ie. something that deserves rewards beyond a simple "thank you for being honest". Telling the truth should be normal, expected behavior. If truth telling becomes something that is motivated by rewards, it will only last as long as the rewards do or as long as the rewards are sufficient motivators. (...


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This depends on the child's personality and the level of difficulty of the books he's reading. It may well be that he's excited (or bored) and wants to get to the good parts, or that the book can really be read and understood while skipping some of the fine details. Although you don't read that way, I would be willing to bet that if asked exactly what ...


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Consider that this may be out of your son's control. Habits are notoriously difficult to kick. There are plenty examples of adults who, despite being motivated to, simply can't stop biting their finger nails, etc. If you consider that this habit may in itself be something he's suffering from, exacting punishment on top of that seems a bit harsh. I bet you ...


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Biting her nails is only a symptom, so 1, 2, and 3 are not getting to the core issue. Indeed, it is also quite possible that you drawing attention to it is increasing her anxiety. Solution 5 might save the nails, but it doesn't address the anxiety. Solution 4 or some variant of it is the only way to go, addressing the anxiety. Possibly some way of ...


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What you're doing is perfectly fine. Her pointing indicates a want, either to have it or to know the word for it. Choosing to indulge that want is a matter of common sense; if what she wants to have is delicate, valuable, inconvenient or appetite-spoiling, she probably shouldn't get it (though obviously you can still tell her what it is). Her reaction to "no"...


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You would have to qualify the definition of normal to get an appropriate answer but I'll go ahead and assume you are asking based on the majority of other children. I would say this is normal. I used to hum all the time. Sometimes I would sing too, but mostly hum but then I started playing guitar. While sometimes I still hum, when I am feeling "musical" I ...


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It seems that your two-year-old is experiencing some sort of emotional distress that the bread is helping to relieve. Do you know why bread is so important to him? Is it specifically bread, or just food of any kind? Is it the sucking on it that placates him, or do you think he is actually hungry? Depending on your situation, I could see a few different ...


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I generally try to ignore the lie completely. Children have a slightly odd relationship with the truth, in that they still don't quite understand the barrier between fiction and reality. My script is generally this: Me: "Squiggles, why did you draw on the wall?" (Note: Never "did you", always "why did you") Squigs: "I didn'...


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Encourage him! It is one of the best things to see a child doing, as it is an excellent way to get knowledge into them (whereas forcing them to read isn't) and can be a strong correlator with intelligence. I was the same, and still vacuum up books at an incredibly fast rate (usually a few on the go at any one time, but getting through 5 or 6 a week is not ...


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Trimming fingernails is obviously a way to prevent cutting and bleeding, but it is worth looking at why she may be sticking her fingers in her ears. It may be just a habit, in which case distraction techniques can work, but it could be an indication that she has pain or irritation in her ears and is trying to alleviate that. A quick visit to the doctor could ...


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Its normal. He's trying to make sense of the world around him. This should be encouraged. If you google for "preschool science air" you will find some activities that you can do with him. For instance: This page shows how to link what a fan does with breathing, music and the wind. This page helps show how aircraft use the air to fly.


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Young children often go through phases of fascination with random objects or phenomena. The fact that something flies is a pretty cool quirk or anomaly in the physical world they've come to know. My mom told the story of how when my eldest brother was a toddler, he would sometimes pull Kleenexes out of boxes for many minutes on end. With each Kleenex, a ...


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If the picking is specifically related to the nostrils feeling dry + itchy, I would recommend trying to apply Aquaphor or other moisturizer. It will both help the condition and make the idea of picking less appealing (getting sticky ointment on the picker's finger). This simple emphasis has helped break cycles of picking -> nosebleed -> scabbing -> re-...


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Yes, completely normal, and you should absolutely NOT try to "break his habits!" Drooling and chewing on anything that's handy is a natural response to impending teething. If you don't want him to chew on his fingers, you can give him something else for teething, but I think fingers are best, because teethers can get lost and cause unnecessary distress if he ...


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Even at a young age, you can start explaining the why of your decision, e.g.: I'm not willing for you to have the knife, because I have a need for your safety and the knife is very sharp. Although it may feel a bit silly with someone so young, if you stick with it, you will be surprised at how quickly the little one's receptive language will develop ...


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