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The first question is: when is it right to give advice? The second question is: what qualifications must you have to give advice when it's needed? In most circumstances, it's not wise to give any advice to people who have not asked for it. If the recipient doesn't think they need it, they aren't going to listen to it anyway. All the advice giver will do is ...


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Well, I suppose they're entitled to give advice, but unless they have worked with children long-term, like a nanny or a teacher, or are highly credentialed, like a child psychologist, no one will pay them any attention. The reason is kids have a sort of "honeymoon period," that a babysitting experience isn't long enough to trigger. They manage to behave ...


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It would help if you would define what you mean by spoiling. People have all sorts of ideas on what spoiling means. I have been told many times I spoil my kids, yet overall, my kids are given less material items than most kids I know and they also have stricter limits on many things than other kids who may have parents who think I spoil. My mother in law ...


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In statistics, the "median" means the 50th percentile - i.e., half of the population are smaller and half are larger. Being smaller than the median is always a common thing - half of us are! And even being, say, at the 25th percentile, which sounds "bad", is not a problem - the 25th percentile is often quite close to the 50th in ...


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Absolutely yes, 100%. Main reason being, everybody has been a child, and thus has a unique perspective on how to deal with children. Doesn't make them an expert by any means, but it's one of the few things I think everybody can have a valid opinion on. I know some very wise people who haven't had kids. Does it mean it's going to be 'good' advice? Or the ...


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Certainly. The genes matter. If I compare my kid's growth with American's I'll never consider my kid as a normal kid in weight and height! There is where the role of local government comes. And, we should follow this because when they prepare such charts, they take utmost care and derive data from a lot of research and zillions of evidences. I'd rather ...


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Just because lots of things can be measured precisely, that doesn't mean that every value of every measurement is meaningful. IANAD, but there's no reason to think that being slightly below the median has any clinical relevance at all. And it looks like you are only slightly below the median https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crown-rump_length What can this ...


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From what I have found and observed as a parent of toddlers, there is a pretty large gap between spoiling a child and giving the appropriate amount of love, affection, discipline, and material desires. From what I have found, you will know you are on the verge of spoiling (and this applies to more than just children) when they feel/act like they are entitled ...


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Disclaimer: I am a father of a 2 year old and all I say is from experience and some reading. My perspective largely bases on the books of Jasper Juul. I agree largely with SomeShinyObject. You cannot spoil your child with love at any age! But YOU are the one to say No to the child, when YOU think it hurts your, let's call it, "comfort zone" (this inner ...


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This is obviously an old question now, but I'd add vision issues to the list of possible causes. Good vision is more than just clarity of sight - I had issues with eye teaming (getting both eyes to focus on the same spot in three-dimensional space) as a kid, and have seen clumsiness as a symptom before. Doing an eye checkup with an eye doctor that does ...


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Speaking for averages, According to the CDC growth charts, a 50th percentile 9 year old will weigh about 63 pounds (28.5 kilograms). A 50th percentile 9.5 year old will weigh about 66 pounds (around 30 kilograms). So the average growth for a 50th percentile 9 year old is about 3 pounds in that timeframe (6 months). Over a similar timeframe, a 50th ...


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According to "Dr. Spock's baby and child care": So the answer to the question "Can a young baby be spoiled?" is no, not until six to nine months of age. [...] You can be a little more suspicious after six or seven months."


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No, everyone imagines that they would be a certain kind of parent, its one thing when you know that since its not your child he/she will go home sometime, so you throw your perspective out there from some idea logic scenario. Once you become a parent all those ideals and concepts are off the table. Unless you have been there and walked in a parents shoes, ...


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Is a never-been-married person entitled to give marriage advice? Is a young man who hasn't entered the work force entitled to give career advice? Is a female virgin entitled to give pregnancy advice? Yes, we live in a free country (for now) and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But it seems like you're real question is, "How do I make them respect ...


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Short answer: Yes, you can give parenting advice without having children. Having children doesn't automatically make someone a good parent - and not having children doesn't mean you'd make a bad parent. Having children does however provide a way for the recipient to assess how much weight to give their opinion (they're unlikely to have much credibility if ...


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Well, almost by definition a chin up bar will affect his physical development -- that's the point, right? It affects it in a positive way. If it is set at the right height and proper supervision is given so that he doesn't try any "creative" means of using the chin up bar (yes, we've all been there and have found our own ways of doing things which we no ...


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