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How important should the color of a bike be to a 7-year-old girl?

Seems to me that the true question is, How do I teach my child to weigh the value of the color of a bike versus the quality of the bike (and perhaps price?). As such, I think this is a great learning ...
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5 year old is completely uncurious

In my experience, kids are curious when they have interest in something. She may just not yet have found anything she has particular interest in. Often you'll be surprised at what they do eventually ...
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Is this normal that my 5 years old kid keep thinking about the bad things

If you have OCD, then this might be the intrusive thoughts of OCD, as there is a genetic component to it. However, diagnosing kids this young is difficult, and it's not at all uncommon that kids with ...
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How do you as teacher deal with children who like to hug you?

I liked @Willow Rex's answer quite a bit, and I think it can solve your problem. However, there's another aspect to your question that I think can be addressed if you so desire. Since you already told ...
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How important should the color of a bike be to a 7-year-old girl?

Color is certainly important to a 7 year old girl. However, at that age you should be able to negotiate a compromise with her. You can just explain to her that unfortunately the bikes don't come in ...
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5 year old is completely uncurious

In addition to books and academics, engage your child in nature exploration. Take her out on walks in the woods, boating or canoeing on lakes, camping, etc. The natural world has many more features ...
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15 year old daughter has a crush on a girl

You can have a family while being in a same sex relationship. I have a lesbian couple living on my street with 2 sons (thanks to a sperm donor) and a good friend of mine is lesbian and is in a ...
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How important should the color of a bike be to a 7-year-old girl?

Very important! My daughter is a bit younger only 4.5 years old. I made a mistake and I bought her a black/blue color Specialized kids bike, thinking it should be good for my son who is 2 years ...
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Preventing anti-STEM bias especially with girls

First, good on you guys for recognizing this and addressing it both with your daughter and the group that held the event. It's not always easy to speak up in a group setting when this happens RIGHT ...
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Is this normal that my 5 years old kid keep thinking about the bad things

Following from my comment. Your older daughter has been the apple of your eye, until recently. She has had centre stage, with no rivals. Now she has one - a 3 mth old sibling, who, understandably (for ...
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How important should the color of a bike be to a 7-year-old girl?

You might think about getting a used bike (I'd hate to do this to a new bike) and let her pick out a color to paint it. I'm sure your local home improvement shop could recommend a good paint (with ...
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How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?

With that background, is getting her into some kind of therapy or at least in contact with a school counsellor an option? OR get someone to help the family in the household? Perhaps even both. I am ...
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rules for a tea party

At this point, you're not teaching your daughters how to run a tea party. That's their job to teach you. You're teaching them (by example) how to cooperate, negotiate, share, make decisions, respond ...
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How do you as teacher deal with children who like to hug you?

Your body is yours. Unless you expressly consent to a hug on each and every occasion it's de jure harrassment. However, you've not given express consent each time, so what now? If you want a legal ...
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Daughter and school dress code

This is something of a challenge to answer objectively. I'm going to try instead just throwing a random assortment of advice out there. See if slacks are an option. When I was in a school with a ...
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What to do about my 11 year old daughter dating a boy she's never met when I don't want her to?

From personal experience, when I went to the elementary school I got bullied a lot because I didn't fit in. High school was little better for me. But thanks to online gaming I came into contact with ...
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15 year old daughter has a crush on a girl

It's normal to be hetero, gay, lesbian, bi, pan, whatever. People are different, and you cannot chose. People are who they are. You seem to have problems accepting this. I recommend you first work on ...
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Preventing anti-STEM bias especially with girls

Diffuse these situations without adding to a perceived disparity. A simple comment to the tune of "oh, my daughter is at the right age, not my son" would probably have been the best bet. Treat these ...
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How do you as teacher deal with children who like to hug you?

I am a retired special ed teacher and hugs do seem to come with the job, don't they?! Not only can it be awkward due to the size of the child and where they might touch, but often times hugs came with ...
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How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?

If she were a black lipstick girl, would you feel any different? How about tie-dyes with hemp jewelry? Barely legal slut outfits? If you want her to focus more on her appearance, you're asking her to ...
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How do you as teacher deal with children who like to hug you?

I'd like to address this: The boss of the project then told me that I should under no circumstances talk about it with the mother. She said the girls probably come from a family where hugs are ...
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Baby / toddler girls - is it necessary to wear swim pants to prevent infections or inflammations?

Prepubertal girls are more susceptible to vaginal infections due to Lack of estrogen - leads to thinning of the vaginal mucosa Lack of pubic hair to protect the area Lack of labial fat pads Source: ...
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How important should the color of a bike be to a 7-year-old girl?

I upvoted Joe's answer, and I see no need to repeat it. Just a couple of notes I'd add: Don't belittle her concern about the color. Such things can be very important to people in general and to ...
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How to deal with a preteen's sudden unhealthy obsession?

I don't have a lot of experience with pre-teen girls, other than having been one once upon a time, but since I was asked to elaborate on my comment. I agree with your assessment that making it '...
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How to advise a 9-yr-old girl to stay away from boys but not hate 'em?

I suppose you refer to the situation India, which has even hit inernational press lately? (No bashing intended, I commend your awareness and foresight!) Please consider what you want to achieve: You ...
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13 year old daughter refusing to wear a real bra

It's entirely possible that she is uncomfortable with the changes in her body. Perhaps she would feel more confident in a sports or athletic bra? It may "hold her in place" more securly and allow her ...
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Is there a downside to gender neutral upbringing?

Gender neutral parenting can mean a few things, some of which I approve of, and some I believe are a bad idea. For your suggestion of having your daughter wear gender neutral clothing I think that is ...
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Choosing same name as a friend, how to ask or annonce?

What you name your child is up to you and no one else. If you like the name, go for it, and don't worry if she will be offended, especially since you don't have a close relationship that will be ...
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