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Encopresis, I'm at my wits end? Does anybody have suggestions?

There are online 'parents of encopresis' support groups. A quick googling came up with several. Interacting with other parents in this situation may help you, and might give you ideas on what to ask ...
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Six and nine-year-olds will not stop having accidents

You have my sympathy. Having one child with encopresis is awful. I can't really imagine accurately what it's like to have two children with this problem. Parents of children with idiopathic ...
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Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?

My son had this same problem. In fact, just tonight, he had a "skid mark" in his undies because he held his poo and it leaked out. It was his last day of school, so, like your son, he was too busy to ...
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My 8 year old pees and poops his pants

Recently the same thing was happening with my nephew and I tried the same things. Until I happened upon an answer on this site someone had posted. I'm kicking myself for not saving it but they ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I have a six year old in the same situation. He's a control freak. He's oppositional defiant. He doesn't want to stop what he's doing to go poop in the potty and generally holds it. His overall goal ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

Toilet timing? Would that help? You send him to the toilet at regular times when you think he has to do a poo. I can recognize when my daughter has to, for instance, but I can't see on my other ...
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How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?

My son has had the same issue since he was born basically. He never really used to the toilet as his large bowel movements were very painful. He is now 10 years old and is going into 5th grade. I can ...
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How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?

Not sure where you are but have you escalated this up to the school's governing body? Gotten his physician involved? And if nothing else works, can you get the local media involved to shame the ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

Have you considered looking into seeing a gastroenterologist? Back before I was diagnosed with Chron's/UC there would be times that I would just be unable to control my bladder. I was able to tell ...
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How can I help my 11 year old daughter with encopresis?

I have no personal experience with this, but this article seems to have a lot of great information: http://www.aafp.org/afp/2006/0201/p469.html A few things I noticed: the article recommends changing ...
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My 8-year-old son won't go to the toilet at school

This is a well-known condition that affects a certain (small) percentage of children. It is called encopresis. The cause can be a variety of factors. But basically they boil down to four main types of ...
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My 8-year-old daughter soils her pants daily. What can I do?

Have you spoken to more than one doctor or just the one? Sometimes if you go to a second doctor they might have another idea as to what might be wrong. If a second doctor doesn't find anything ...
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Why is my 7 year old son still having accidents in his pants?

I really believe that puishment for this is the wrong way to go, it will only make things worse. Even though it seems like he does not care, he propaply feels ashamed of it. My daughter pretty much ...
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Encopresis, I'm at my wits end? Does anybody have suggestions?

I would have no idea how to approach this with a 12-year-old, but we recently had a similar situation with a 6-year-old niece who stayed with us for an extended period of time while her mother and ...
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How to help our autistic 13-year-old-son who has a withholding issue and gets senna?

I taught autistic students for 30+ years, and I hesitate to give you advice. These kids are so individual that there is no 'one size fits all' solution. We found that not only was there discomfort ...
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7 year old son is soiling himself

I understand your frustration, try and be patient about it as best you can. It's easy to get in a cycle of punishments and recriminations, and it's counter-productive. It's easier said than done, and ...
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My 11 year old daughter has encopresis that won't go away

I think the second to last sentence in your second paragraph is the key point here: She's gained lots of anxiety about how people look at her, cause of how much she has to stay from school. While ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

With those few of my children who continued to poop in their pants rather than the toilet well after learning and generally choosing to urinate in the toilet, we eventually told them something similar ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

There are a lot of resources I am finding that list bedwetting and daytime urinary incontinence as a symptom of constipation. I would request an x-ray from your urologist to see if his constipation is ...
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My 8 year old pees and poops his pants

I'm 29 now. When I was 7, I used to pee and poop my pants. Not because I didn't realize or I was too busy playing, but it felt really good to hold it. I don't know why to this day, but I can remember ...
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Formerly nappy-free 3 year old started to poo in the diaper again but still pees in the toilet

So, this is a tricky one. I think it requires a bit careful look. I have some ideas about why this is happening. First, she gets the attention she needs by doing that. Especially after a siblings ...
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What to do about a 4.5-year-old soiling underwear shortly before bedtime when he usually uses the toilet?

@Meg is onto the right idea. Don't worry about the cause; see if you can intercept the symptom. We got an Amazon Alexa robot for the house, and we use Alexa for daily timed reminders like brushing ...
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My 11-year-old grandson is holding in his poop

One of the causes of constipation is Withholding of stool as a result of past discomfort (1) and what you further describe sounds like the constipation then leads to soiling ("when he can't ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

My family is going through a lot of the same issues you are. Our 7 yr old son has a bowel obstruction that has made it impossible for him to know when he has to poo, so he goes through a dozen diapers ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

My son does this when he is busy doing something else and does not want to stop what ever he is enjoying to go to the bathroom. Like, watching a movie, playing a game, or outside playing. He does not ...
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