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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

I would be concerned that this form of punishment might end up teaching the wrong associations, because it artificially connects money to behavior which is not naturally about money. For example, I ...
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Is it ok for parents to kiss and romance with each other while their 2- to 8-year-old child watches?

From everything that I can find online, it is a positive thing to show affection in front of your kids. It models affection to your children, and it makes them feel more secure https://www....
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

I seriously doubt that anyone would prosecute you for "fining" your children, regardless of the amount (excluding in the thousands.) So it's not the law you need to be concerned about. Having said ...
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Is it ok for parents to kiss and romance with each other while their 2- to 8-year-old child watches?

If anything I believe it would be positive, although I don't know of any studies on the subject. Children learn how to be adults from the adults around them, so seeing what real romantic relationships ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

As Toxaris mentioned, the biggest problem with this is that most people will not consider it "punishment for misbehaving" but rather "cost for doing it". There will be a moment where your child says "...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

Legally, a child's money is usually a child's money. There is of course the obvious loophole that allows you to spend the money on behalf of the child, and the fact that law enforcement doesn't bother ...
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Can having a computer game temporarily go blank when kids are too loud have adverse emotional effects?

This is a tricky question to answer. In my opinion, I think the comment is a bit exaggerated because a child would generally be able to differentiate between a computer and a person and know that it ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

Assuming you're in the United States, the major legal repercussion would only be if your children had accounts under the Uniform Gift to Minors Act (or UTMA, Uniform Transfer to Minors Act which is ...
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What activies or behaviors can help my toddler develop emotional regulation and emotional intelligence?

Dr. David's 4 steps: Feel it. Don't try to push away your child's negative emotions, but validate them. Show It. Directed against rules about hiding some emotions, like "Boys don't cry." Label ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

I don't think anyone has covered this. You method is telling them what not to do, but not why they shouldn't do them. This will not end well for them as they will do whatever they want once they are ...
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How to teach child to recognize his emotions and deal with them on his own

TL;DR: Talk to your child often about their feelings and give them a rich emotional vocabulary/lexicon. Four years of age is a good time to start teaching a child to learn to handle their emotions ...
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Toddler is ignored by other person/child. Should I let her learn the lesson or should I step in and entertain her?

My question here is that in such situations should I: pretend to be deaf and blind and let the toddler learn the lesson that everyone may not be friendly towards her even if she is towards ...
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Should I skip sad scenes when watching a movie with a child?

I have to share this story. I had my six year old niece over for an afternoon, and I decided to show her Bambi, which she had never seen. At one point, I went into the kitchen to fetch a snack, and ...
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Can having a computer game temporarily go blank when kids are too loud have adverse emotional effects?

Cheating your children into discipline is a very very bad idea, regardless which technique was used or how clever it might sound. One day this will backfire because your children will follow the ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

The current answers address fairly well why monetary punishments are not a great idea as your primary source of discipline,. I'd like to go a bit further though, and say that punishments, regardless ...
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Is it ok for parents to kiss and romance with each other while their 2- to 8-year-old child watches?

The other answers give great points of view, I just want to add an important fact: Kids will see a lot of adult behavior in media and around them Kids will be exposed to a lot of input on behavior. ...
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how to get rid of angry outbursts in a healthy way

It is simple. You are asking him to swear at zipper, but you don't do this by self, you swear at him and hit him. So he swears with you not with zipper, and also he got a problem, he can't hit you, ...
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Intervention or learning experience: child gives away stuff

My son does exactly the same thing. He's 8 now, but at 5-6 did the same as yours. I don't think there's anything wrong with this inherently, but I did have some concerns, so I did a few things. I ...
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How to know whether I am giving too much attention to my child?

Wikipedia lists the causes of attention-seeking in adults. Excessive parental attention in childhood is not one of them. If anything, I would expect lack of attention to be a cause, as the child ...
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5 year old is very prone to emotional outbursts - especially when he doesn't get his way

This is pretty common in this age, and we've definitely had similar issues with both of ours. Part of it is that they can't see the long term very well - right now is the only time to them, and so it'...
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What are the effects of CSA on infants and newborns?

I do not have anything regarding specifically sexual abuse, but regarding neglect, which can be considered a form of abuse. But only regarding mental impact (not physical). In the book "Brain ...
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how to get rid of angry outbursts in a healthy way

It is good that you want to teach him a healthy way to express his anger and frustration. Things like helping him stomp his feet, shout, hit a soft pillow, throw a soft toy. Maybe some calm down time ...
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8 month old misses father on long trip

At 8 months, it's possible your son is going to through his stranger anxiety phase where he will be more reserved around new people. Similarly this is where separation anxiety from his primary ...
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What activies or behaviors can help my toddler develop emotional regulation and emotional intelligence?

At 2 years of age, it is not too early to start lovingly teaching a child to learn to express their emotions in socially appropriate ways. One of the first steps is to give a child a rich emotional ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

I want to add my two cents here: For once, you want that your children understand that actions have consequences, but just taking money won't really teach that. A far better way would be to let them ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

I "fine" my kids for some things: Eating all of a family treat (e.g. cupcakes) or a sibling's treat (e.g. candy from a school party) Purposely damaging a sibling's property (e.g. drawing in a ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

[...] I'm a parent and [...] I use this punishment [...] I'm looking for any criticisms you might have, so feel free to shout at me in the comments. Let me preface my answer by stating that I do not ...
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Can having a computer game temporarily go blank when kids are too loud have adverse emotional effects?

Comment seems to be hyperbolic, overly dramatic and maybe in need of some emotion restraint. Turning off a screen for 15 seconds on a computer game when the kids get very loud is "ruining" their ...
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How to teach child to recognize his emotions and deal with them on his own

First, the best way to teach a child to handle his emotions isn't external consequences (i.e., punishment), but taking the time to teach him how to handle his emotions for their own sake. If he's ...
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How to teach 5 year old to express emotion verbally?

Teach by example. Talk to him about his emotions, as well as your own. "Are you sad that Mommy doesn't have time to play with you? I understand that, but she really needs to cook dinner now, she'...
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