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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

Joe's excellent answer is sufficient in itself. I just wanted to add my experience as a parent (and maybe my experience with troubled kids.) This is one of the hardest phases of parenting: the (nearly)...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

What worked for a family member of one of my relatives was fairly straightforward: set rules or limits based on what works for the parents, and largely otherwise letting go. The parents spent years ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce?

Should I push my parents to divorce? To make it plain: No. The answer is "no" for at least two reasons: The decision whether or not to divorce is quite complex, with multiple consequences either ...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

I'm not a parent, but once upon a time I was a somewhat similarly troubled young adult -- you mentioned she spends a significant amount of time reading, so maybe suggest she try her hand at writing? ...
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16 year old boy with existential crisis

I don't think this is a problem. Source: I went through something similar, as did several of my friends. This is normal. This is not unusual. Also, it is quite possible that his claims are correct. ...
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Grandparents want to raise my son but I want him back

but I want to raise him myself once I'm able to get rid of my postpartum symptoms and once I'm stronger as a single parent I understand that you want to raise your son. I think you should explain ...
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How to help my adult son who lives at home, is depressed and withdraws from the outside world?

Although it's not clear exactly what you're asking, I can sense your frustration and it sounds like you are fresh out of ideas. So I am assuming you're looking for new ideas, and with that said: ...
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As a teenager, my mom refuses to believe that I have anxiety/depression/ possibly ADHD. How can I help her understand that she is hurting me?

As someone who suffers from depression and anxiety and was finally diagnosed with ADHD in their 30's, I feel your pain on this one. What can you do to convince your mother you have them? ...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

This is based on my experience as a young adult whose life ground to a halt for a long, long time. First of all, I believe you should act, immediately. Your daughter is not a functioning adult. And ...
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My brother is lonely and has turned to the internet to fill his social craving. How do I tell my parents without betraying his trust?

I see no evidence that anyone has done anything wrong that needs fixing yet. Going on the internet is not something that requires "cleaning up". Maybe his family should work harder to make sure that ...
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How to keep away suicidal thoughts from my 15-year-old son who says "life is meaningless" after his friend's suicide?

I'm sorry for what your family is going through. It must be very frightening for all involved, and really does require the help of a professional or two (or three.) You might benefit from individual ...
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How to make sure kids prioritize keeping in contact when away

This is absolutely normal. Most children live in the moment and enjoy their holiday without thinking of anything else. On their return, they may tell you they missed you every day - which they may ...
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My brother is lonely and has turned to the internet to fill his social craving. How do I tell my parents without betraying his trust?

Don't focus on the Internet thing - if take action to reduce your brothers involvement with the Internet, that will just create resentment, and make him even more isolated. Instead, focus on the ...
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How do I help an 11-year-old who says "I want to die"?

I am seriously not qualified to say anything specific, but depression might not be what you think it is. Please, go with your daughter to the doctor. Talk to the doctor first in private. I think ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce?

Put simply, no, I don't think you should push your parents for divorce. In addition to the answer that sleske gave, I'd give you these points to consider: Depression is a horrible mental illness that ...
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Im scared of my dads yelling at me for little things

It's a good first step that you asked for help. But your problem can't be solved by random people on the internet and therefore isn't a good fit for this web site. But there are people who can help ...
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16 Year Old, Trying to Deal with Strict, Invasive Parents. What Do I Do?

Try to see your parent's point of view, and meet them in the middle. While there is stuff that is clearly overstepping, I think that there might be areas where your parents' concerns are reasonable. ...
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How can we motivate a young adult without breaking the family?

Not a parent but a child who had massive difficulties entering adulthood. Social anxiety, depression, OCD, terrible self-esteem... Perfect configuration for failure. I tried university, ended up very ...
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How to deal with an unsupportive parent

Well, first I'd suggest you give counseling a chance. There are lots of ways this can be arranged, including working with someone at school, such as a social worker. It helped me not take things so ...
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My wife is under treatment for depression and just had a traumatic labor. What can I do to help her?

The most important thing is to be aware of the signs of depression in general, and to seek professional help even for apparently minor issues. You've already got that covered because of the ...
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Trying to improve brother's toxic behavior towards depressed mother

It sounds like when he is at home, he cannot help responding (and thinking) like the child he used to be. This is not uncommon. I think we can all relate at some level, when we are outside the home ...
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Is my granddaughter Transgender?

Anxiety and depression are pretty common when you don't get along with your parents and they're abusive. So that's not really a huge surprise. 'Laziness' or a lack of motivation and energy is common ...
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16 year old boy with existential crisis

Talking to an expert can only help. He has to learn that our expectations are rarely fulfilled, and that we have to learn to live with life when it doesn't go as planned. With more experience, he will ...
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Shall I be worried about my 5-year-old son seeming to be depressed when at his mom's?

Some thoughts, unordered: Research (see below) seems to indicate that children of divorced parents are no more unhappy than children of parents still living together, if the divorced parents ...
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How to lessen a depressed teenager's absences?

It sounds to me like you are doing your best to help your brother. Kudos to you for the therapy, for both of you. And for trying to help bear the burden of the crushing depression that you both must ...
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How to keep away suicidal thoughts from my 15-year-old son who says "life is meaningless" after his friend's suicide?

tl;dr: If you try to 'explain' life has a meaning, your son might stop listening to you. Life might be meaningless, but it can be pretty interesting. === What you wrote resonates with me. My ...
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How to keep away suicidal thoughts from my 15-year-old son who says "life is meaningless" after his friend's suicide?

I have a similar situation with my 19-year old son right now. In addition to leading him to professional councelling, which you have already done, I try not to project my own fear and deep concern on ...
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What do I do as a highschooler with extremely strict parents?

You need to develop a support system First of all, I want to start off with the standard stuff about the perils of suicidal ideation and to encourage you to seek out help, even if that help is calling ...
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19 yr old son with a prosthetic left foot

Talk to a mental health specialist. Random people online aren't qualified to provide mental health counselling. Your son needs to see a proper mental health specialist to get the treatment he needs ...
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