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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Children have all kinds of reasons for feeling more comfortable in the presence of their parents at night. I can respect that. But you need your sleep and your time with your wife. One option people ...
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Is it potentially harmful to a 2-year-old to still sleep in a room with her parents?

Hamad, I think that many children around the world sleep in the same room as their parents -- some for most of their lives. Most of these will/have become perfectly normal, healthy adults. I'd say it ...
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Is it potentially harmful to a 2-year-old to still sleep in a room with her parents?

No, on the contrary there is even an indication that this reduces stress for your child. This study on co-sleeping in 101 infants concludes: At 5 weeks and 6 months, the long-term co-sleeping infants ...
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16 month old wants to co sleep, won’t sleep alone

First question is, do you actually want him to stop sleeping in with you, or is this just what 'they' have said you should do? Co-sleeping (with appropriate precautions) is an acceptable way to sleep. ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Our daughter is three years old now and has slept in our bed for about two and a half years. Even now, when she wakes up in the middle of the night, she continues her night at our bed. And like yours, ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Many people around the world sleep with their children. I am not saying you should, but that children are not as disturbed as you are by sex. They seem to ignore it or sleep through it. The point is ...
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Toddler requires Mom or Dad to stay in the room to fall asleep

I think the simple answer is: "This too shall pass." You need to stay with him until he's comfortable not having you with him. He obviously has anxiety around sleeping by himself in his bed. The ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Our first son had a mattress on the floor in his room. We would do bedtime routines in his room, and when he was asleep, we went to our bedroom. This gave us the privacy we needed. At some point in ...
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16 month old wants to co sleep, won’t sleep alone

Usually, it is a good idea to trust your gut feelings with small kids. If you feel that it is not right to "force" the kid to sleep alone, then don't do it. Kids are all a bit different, so ...
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Toddler requires Mom or Dad to stay in the room to fall asleep

I had this issue (still sometimes do) with my littlest son. What worked for us was a little stuffed animal that he picked out. The stuffy substituted for Mom and Dad when he woke up at night. We still ...
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Is it potentially harmful to a 2-year-old to still sleep in a room with her parents?

There are two very famous anthropology papers about this in the Japanese context. Caudill, W., & Plath, D. W. (1966). Who sleeps by whom? Parent-child involvement in urban Japanese families. ...
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Is it potentially harmful to a 2-year-old to still sleep in a room with her parents?

Harm? No. Impact? Yes. As you stated, "she won't go anywhere alone at home, but will always stick around us at the same room wherever we are". Answers will be anecdotal, as this is isn't a ...
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Toddler requires Mom or Dad to stay in the room to fall asleep

For issue number 1: What works best for us is the 'I will be right back' method. We do the following: Put them to bed and sing a song Tell them: I will sit here 5 min, then I will leave. Close your ...
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Is it a bad idea to have a kid sleep in his/her own room since birth?

Actually, to answer your first question, yes, it's bad. The American Academy of Pediatricians recommend that infants stay in the same bedroom with their parents until at least six months of age and it ...
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How to teach a six year old to sleep alone?

Your situation sounds almost exactly like ours. In our case we had endless conflicts trying to get him to sleep on his own. Trying things like moving slightly further from the bed each night etc. ...
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How to train infants to sleep in bed and in parent’s arms

I wouldn't recommend co-sleeping in the same bed, there are dangers associated with it (http://www.parents.com/advice/babies/sleep/is-it-safe-to-let-my-baby-sleep-in-my-bed/), and it isn't a good long ...
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Disadvantages of a single bedroom?

We put our kids in their own bedromms, because We want to have sleep. And they also want to sleep. We have 3 kids. The first 2 always woke up if I turned in my bed. Or when I went to bed. Or when I ...
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Is it potentially harmful to a 2-year-old to still sleep in a room with her parents?

Sleep is a horrible topic to ask advice on ☺ Everybody has an opinion and already you've received aggregate data and opinions on the subject. But let's just dial this back before we start tucking into ...
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8 year old twin boy and girl sleeping in the same room

There are a few things to consider Would that it any way be harmful to their development? That's unlikely. Apparently they like being around each other, which is great. It certainly beats fighting ...
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Toddler requires Mom or Dad to stay in the room to fall asleep

We went through this with our 2-year-old kid. I took baby steps toward our goal. For example, night 1 I was sitting in a chair beside his bed until he fell asleep, night 5 I was halfway to the door ...
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Why does my 2.5 son not sleep at all when he's with me, but sleeps all night with his father? (We're divorced)

The simplest scenario is usually the most likely. It might be that when he's with his father they are doing active play, so he's simply tired out at bed time. Not sure about your mother, but when I ...
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Why does my 2.5 son not sleep at all when he's with me, but sleeps all night with his father? (We're divorced)

Is it possible that your ex is not telling the truth about how well your child is sleeping? I think this is a possibility as we have friends who forget that they should be together with parenting ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Read The Ferber Book cover to cover. It not only solved my son's sleep problems, if solved my sleep problems too. Many parents focus entirely on the "cry it out advice" which isn't quite fair; it is ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Two years is no age to get afraid of not being able to weaning your child out of your bed. Me and my wife no longer embrace before sleep, have sex problems, and we have no privacy in our bed. ...
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How to teach a six year old to sleep alone?

We found a great workbook thru our child psychologist, called “What To Do When You Dread The Bed” It really spoke my 9 year old, and i think it would still click with a mature 6 year old. It walked ...
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16 month old wants to co sleep, won’t sleep alone

If you are looking for numbers, to help you feel more comfortable, I can tell you what my wife and I have done with our two children. When my first child was 5-6 months old, we transitioned her from a ...
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16 month old wants to co sleep, won’t sleep alone

I didn't personally co-sleep with my kids except for allowing several minutes they could lie next to me and calm down when they had a nightmare, but I try not to judge. Whenever you think it's time (...
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2 year old Daughter will nap and sleep for Dad but not Mom

For the most part, this it totally normal. It's not an expression of 'hate' or 'dislike' - in fact it's in my experience more that the child feels comfortable enough to act out and test their ...
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Is it a bad idea to have a kid sleep in his/her own room since birth?

I think it is simply a matter of choice. Babies here do tend to have rooms that they may or may not share with siblings, but I think many if not most infants sleep with mum and dad for the first 10 ...
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