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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

"I always taught him not to care what other people think..." Then congratulations! You have achieved one of your parenting goals. It's a pretty good goal, and will often stand him in good stead in ...
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I want my son to tuck in his school uniform shirt, but he does not want to. What can I do to get him to always tuck it in?

You have already seen that you cannot make him do it. So what can you do? There are two distinct goals in your question: You want your son to learn dressing appropriately, and you want him to tuck in ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

This sounds like a 'perfect rebellion' to me. Your teen is very nearly an adult and could be making other choices that really could be much worse than holey shoes. Part of the growing up process is ...
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Using baby clothes that have been in storage for years

There is absolutely no reason not to reuse the clothes if they are not stained or otherwise unusable. Check the smell. Wash them carefully with the soap you find best for babies as you would new ...
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I want my son to tuck in his school uniform shirt, but he does not want to. What can I do to get him to always tuck it in?

Teaching etiquette around attire and appropriate dress is an important lesson for young people to learn. At 14, your child has probably already learned some of the social norms for attire. Forcing ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

Why are so many people failing to consider the peer pressure and the cultural aspects here and basically advising the mother to make her son the odd one out? Notice the skater teens in your own town ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

I can't say much for "why to look a little more put together in school or in public" exactly because I think if he takes advise from other skaters he may find that you don't need to destroy your shoe ...
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How to punish my teenage daughter for buying thongs?

Punish her for what? Is it stolen money? Is she not allowed to purchase items with her money without your permission? If you are instead wondering if you should punish her for buying ‘sexy’ ...
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At what age can a child be responsible for deciding whether to wear warm clothes?

My rule of thumb is simple: My children are free to make informed decisions about themselves that will not cause extended suffering or a trip to the ER/doctor or worse. So, if it's freezing outside,...
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I want my son to tuck in his school uniform shirt, but he does not want to. What can I do to get him to always tuck it in?

At fourteen, your son is past the age of automatically listening to his parents for most children. Instead, he's nearly an adult in many ways. The parental role shifts significantly around this time;...
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How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?

With that background, is getting her into some kind of therapy or at least in contact with a school counsellor an option? OR get someone to help the family in the household? Perhaps even both. I am ...
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What expenses should I pay for my 16-year-old daughter

Is this okay? She has been telling me that it's not "normal" or "legit" for her to pay for all of her own clothes... From what you have written, it sounds as though the only major expense you're not ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

If there is really a hole through the bottom, give him a logical reason like you could step on a nail or bee. Otherwise, be glad he isn't asking for new $200 shoes constantly. Kids in my area ...
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My daughter wants to express herself, but her school has uniforms?

Give your daughter a scenario where she is provided a great opportunity to study at an internship with a major player in the career path she is interested in. The internship may require a specific ...
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How to get a 17 year old son to realize that laundry is not that hard to do and to do it on a regular basis?

You're focusing on the merits of planning to do laundry more frequently. He is almost certainly already aware of them. What's most likely going on is a prospective memory failure. I have the same ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

As someone who used to skate (though not very well), the more torn up your shoes, especially the dominant foot, the more you skate. It was kind of like a badge of honor. The same reason a football ...
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Using baby clothes that have been in storage for years

I am allergic to mold, so I've had to educate myself on the stuff. Hopefully the baby clothes are machine-washable? You'll want to use a sanitizer rather than just laundry soap if there is any mold ...
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How can I persuade a preschooler to wear a suit?

But, he's been asked to be the ring bearer in my cousin's wedding. If we accept, the event is going to require a suit. No, it shouldn't be if you accept, it should be if he accepts. If you haven't, ...
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How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?

If she were a black lipstick girl, would you feel any different? How about tie-dyes with hemp jewelry? Barely legal slut outfits? If you want her to focus more on her appearance, you're asking her to ...
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Labeling children's clothing

Permanent marker If you use permanent markers like Sharpie brand, particularly fine point ones, they usually don't come off in the wash. The school my son goes to uses them to mark their house clothes ...
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My daughter wants to express herself, but her school has uniforms?

While you are asking for suggestions re: how your daughter can express herself with the limitations of being uniformed, I'd like to approach this a bit differently. My answer assumes a rigid uniform ...
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13 year old daughter refusing to wear a real bra

It's entirely possible that she is uncomfortable with the changes in her body. Perhaps she would feel more confident in a sports or athletic bra? It may "hold her in place" more securly and allow her ...
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How do I handle a teen who doesn't care about dressing well?

He'll go to school in the same clothes multiple days in a row, unshowered I know that if you're living in the US, this is a no-go, but up until a few years ago this was absolutely no problem for ...
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I want my son to tuck in his school uniform shirt, but he does not want to. What can I do to get him to always tuck it in?

Keep in mind that the way someone dresses is heavily related to their identity, their personality. When she was a teenager, my fiancée discovered a style to which she is still sticking to now. The ...
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How do I convince an elementary schooler to always tuck his shirts/tshirts into his pants?

I think the response is typical for kids that age. Even through the teen years, kids lack the ability to necessarily understand "why" they did something. Given that he does tuck it in when asked and ...
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Building self-esteem while encouraging a tidy, acceptable appearance

I think you can keep it focused on the image she wants to portray. Ask her: What are you saying about yourself with that look? If what she thinks she's putting out there matches what other people ...
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How to get a 17 year old son to realize that laundry is not that hard to do and to do it on a regular basis?

I'm a parent of a toddler and a preschooler, so I'm sure I don't know much about the fun specific issues of raising teenagers. Something to look forward to. However, this really doesn't sound too ...
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Do newborn stocking caps help skull shape?

Based on commentary from friends of ours who are midwives and community nurses, there are two key information points here: To answer your specific question: No, those caps are just to keep the baby's ...
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At what age can a child be responsible for deciding whether to wear warm clothes?

This is entirely up to you. I allowed my kids to choose their clothing from a very early age, but to cover off the particular after issue around cold weather, if they decided not to wear gloves or a ...
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