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One of the core reasons for this is actually a side-effect of the 'most intelligent beings on the planet' - we have very big brains. Evolution has taken us pretty much to the limit on size at birth - we are already almost the least developed physically at birth. Many mammals can walk an hour after birth, but we have developed large brains, and large heads. ...


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You and your wife can absolutely handle a baby without Grandparents help, many people have in the past and will in the future. The real question is: Do you want to? Having a baby and caring for a baby is extremely taxing--both physically and mentally. If your wife plans on breastfeeding, she will be feeding every 2-3 hours. If the baby doesn't sleep well,...


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My brother and I share a birthday, 3 years apart (by coincidence, not by our parents' choice). With all due respect to those saying that neither child gets their "special day," I can attest that sharing a birthday with a sibling, particularly one close in age, does not make either birthday less valuable. Both kids will grow up accepting that their shared ...


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Of course it can be done and it happens thousands of times every day. The key questions for you is probably "Is the the right choice for me and our baby?". This depends on a variety of factors, a lot of which are very personal, so only you can decide. A few points There is a fair amount if research out there on which one is "better". Unfortunately a lot ...


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Humans are fully capable of having unassisted births, and many chose to have them. Tradition, herd mentality, increased medical knowledge, and (unfortunatly) economical gain have shaped the way child birth is carried out in the world today (with great variety), but the way we birth says nothing about our physical capabilites to do so on our own. It is ...


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First, not every section that happens after labour begins is an emergency C section. In an emergency section, the cut is vertical and large, and everyone is in kind of a panic. You might get a general if you don't have an epidural already in place. These things have a bigger impact on you. In a "normal" section, the cut is low, horizontal, and relatively ...


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If you feel you aren't being heard by your birth team, and there's time, I would strongly recommend seeking out a second opinion or an advocate to help you BE heard. Do you have the option of finding a doula? Having a doula helped me tremendously in my first pregnancy, as I was bucking the medical establishment in my birth plan. If you do not feel you ...


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Childbirth hurts. It always has. But the amount of pain you experience depends on many factors, such as the position of the baby, whether you have or haven't ruptured the amniotic membrane, your pain threshold, your anxiety level, your position in labor, and a host of other factors, many of which you have no control over. Can a first time mother do it ...


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The birth of a child is an occasion where family often will pull out the stops to help, my mother and sister each came from NYC to London for a week and a half after my second was born, giving my wife and I 3 weeks of help, which was great. So you might want to have that conversation with them, there may be someone who would be happy to take the time. ...


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My daughter was born at 27 weeks. Congratulations will be appreciated in any case, I don't think you've stuck your foot in your mouth. After all, they did expect to have a baby, just not quite so soon. At this point they may be able to spend time in the hospital with their daughter. But they won't spend all their time there, so they will be able to look ...


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This is a list based mostly on my experience... I've marked it as community wiki so others can add to it rather than accuumulating a lot of related similar answers. For pre-labour, for example if you are admitted for induction: Nightgown (preferred over pyjamas for ease of access for monitoring!) Eyemask, earplugs (hard to sleep in hospital) Plenty ...


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I would like to add (to expand upon @Adam Davis' comment) the concept of infant mortality. Because of our civilisation and technology we know that by even some basic intervention the risk of mother or child dying in child birth can be reduced. In the last century or so we have reduced mother's death in childbirth from 1% (my great-grandmother died in ...


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While I think this is a very complicated subject with no one good answer - both because each woman will have a different experience and each woman will benefit from different guidance - there is one answer to the question. The "relax" instruction is not in relation to pain management specifically, but rather in order to help allow the cervix to ...


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Legally, no medical procedures can be done to minors without parental consent (with exceptions in some states for contraceptive care for teenagers). In practice, doctors who claim emergency medical necessity can basically do what they think is necessary. For more legal advice than that general information, you should ask a lawyer. I recommend you air these ...


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We did this twice. Friends and family are obvious choices but we lived far away from family at the time. When #2 was born, #1 was not quite a year old and we had him stay the night at a friends house who also had a baby of the same age. #2 was was nice enough to show up at 6pm so we could have brought #1 back for the night. However, a quick phone call ...


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My question is: how do I respectfully handle this with the midwife and the hospital? How do I tactfully make them fully aware that I'm not paranoid, this is a genuine risk? Your midwife has done many deliveries, and if you're satisfied with her care so far, since there is no way to predict your need for a C-Section (even pelvimetry Xrays most likely won't ...


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This will depend on location, but some things you can try: There are many daycares that offer emergency overnight services for things like this. Ask your current daycare. If you don't have a daycare this is a perfect example of why you should have one, even if you choose not to use it often. You have time, find a daycare that offers this service. With your ...


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My two boy's B-days are 3 days apart and my wife's & daughters's are 1 day apart. I recommend not using the same day. We make a big deal out of a B-day and the kids really enjoy having their own special day just for themselves. I think they wouldn't like to share this. Even one day apart works just fine. As other people said: Concerns for mother & ...


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I am not sure I can qualify this as an answer, but you sound like a man from your question, so let me comment on 2 of your non-missing elements: Made arrangements for who will catch and cut the umbilical cord Well, it won't be her! If it is her, then this is far from your first child. Have discussed what levels of pain medications to use Such a nice ...


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Yes, this is what contractions feel like (although they get closer together, shorter, and stronger in labour). These could be Braxton-Hicks contractions ("practice contractions") and just a sign that she needs to slow down and rest more and stay well-hydrated. You can also have days or weeks of what is called "prodromal labour" before the real thing ...


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It doesn't so much matter what we think, it matters what your wife thinks, and it sounds like she'll be happiest and most comfortable giving birth and learning to care for an infant with her mother's help. When you become a parent you learn you have to sacrifice a lot of your own wants in favor of the best interests of your child and his/her mother, and ...


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If you read the fine print, there are actually not a lot of conditions where your baby's cord blood has been proven to do anything, and most of the beenfits are for other people's children. Here are some professional medical opinions; they agree; public banking is fine, private banking is not recommended. https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/...


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A birth plan is normally something you'd bring with to the hospital / birth centre / whatever and discuss with the midwives / whoever is providing care. If you have some continuity of care from pre-natal care then you'd already have discussed this with the care providers in advance. It's a way of summarising and collecting details that are important to you ...


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Note: Not a doctor, so this isn't medical advice. Consider what's basically going on; your body is attempting to build up a rhythm that will cause your child to exit in a calm and controlled fashion. The ideal process would be muscles smoothly grasping and shoving the baby down and out in one smooth motion. Obviously the issue here is that, because the ...


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During the Pregnancy That depends entirely on your girlfriend. In my case, we bought a house about 7 weeks before my wife was due, so she couldn't do much, and I needed to do most of the homebuying myself. Fortunately for me, my wife was a researcher and was able to find support groups online (other people due the same month), so there wasn't too much that ...


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On the same day or within a week, odds are the birthday parties are going to be complicated in any event. How often will the nearest weekend be the same day? And then when you add in external activities it's even more likely they may have to be on/near each other (if it's in May, Soccer/etc. will often drive when you decide to hold the party). I think ...


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I did it and would do it again! I felt there were more risks with epidural and other pain relief methods than doing it the old-fashioned way. That said, I would recommend to anyone doing it naturally to have a midwife, a doula, or a birth coach who has assisted a birth before (not your partner!), who can advise the best positions for pain relief and know how ...


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There's not a lot of ways to know if you'll need a c-section or not before delivery. If your baby is breech, or if the placenta is too low, or other conditions then a c-section is basically required for a safe delivery, but apart from obvious indications, there's not a way to know for sure. I have two cousins who had c-sections, they had no idea they were ...


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