You now live with your wife's teenage siblings.
You no longer have adequate sleeping arrangements for yourself, your oldest son, or your wife.
Your son's teenage uncle is being a bad role model for your son.
You struggle with your job (work from home or at an office?).
Your wife focuses her time on the youngest son, swinging his bouncy (I ...
She is a lot like me so when I get loud, she gets loud...again, not good.
This came up in a comment, but I recommend timeouts when this happens.
The best way to think of timeouts is as an emotional rest break, as much for you as for them. You don't get loud, you don't lose your temper because you activate the timeout before that happens. Simply firmly go "...
"Getting loud" is not necessarily a bad thing as long as you stay under control. Part of what you need to do is to convey your emotional state to your child, and a raised voice can be a good way to do this. Saying "I am getting angry because you are not doing as you are told." can also help.
What is harmful is unpredictability. A parent who is sweet reason ...