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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

I don't know what culture you are coming from, but in the U.S., a birthday celebration is for the celebrant more than it is for the attendees. From that point of view, it would be pretty lousy to ...
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Are my parents right to give me a severe punishment for being brought home by the police drunk? I am 16

Your parents are being lenient I'm not sure where you live, but in the State of NJ, the penalties for underage drinking are a fine between $500-$1,000 and imprisonment for up to 6 months. You've ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

Who are you celebrating for? If you're celebrating for yourself, then ... go do that. Go to a nice restaurant and give yourself a nice dinner to congratulate yourself for raising a child to 13 (and ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

This could have been me, 45 years ago - I never liked the birthday celebrations my parents held for me (though I'd never have dared to tell my parents so), and when I was invited to other kid's ...
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Activities besides tv

Learning how to be bored is a skill that requires practice. The only way he's going to get better at handling boredom is to experience it, and learn how to find something to do on his own. Playtime, ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

You stated that "we find ourselves in a difficult situation". Why is this difficult for you? Your son has made it abundantly clear to you. In your own words, "he resents the idea of ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

I am an introvert. One of the symptoms is that I dislike celebrations, my own as well as others'. Ask him if he would like to celebrate with his radio friends and what kind of celebration he would ...
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Are my parents right to give me a severe punishment for being brought home by the police drunk? I am 16

TL;DR Your parents are not being unreasonable or cruel. It's okay to disagree with their opinion but it would be unfair to consider them to be bad parents because of this. For the purpose of the ...
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My 10 year old daughter watches Youtube shorts all day - what can I do about this?

Simple, you are the parent and she is the child. You should set boundaries and responsibilities for her. Limit her screen time by putting away her phone/tablet/PC (she doesn't have to have it while at ...
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Activities besides tv

I live in UK so weather is always gloomy because of rain, so they cannot play outside. I'd like to challenge this idea. Gloomy weather doesn't stop playing outside, you just need to have proper ...
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Would my behavior towards my child have the desired result?

I find it very unlikely that this would cause the desired effect, and in fact might do harm. The reason I believe this wouldn't help is that the child-thief probably was able to imagine that the ...
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Activities besides tv

It sounds like you are looking for him to self-entertain as an alternative to screen-time, but he isn't ready yet for playing/exploring/learning on his own. Here are some thoughts: Kids need kids. ...
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My 10 year old daughter watches Youtube shorts all day - what can I do about this?

These kinds of posts kill me. Seriously... you're the parent... act like one. Take away the phone. It's literally not rocket science. She can't watch youtube shorts on her phone if she doesn't ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

When your child is very young--a toddler--it makes perfect sense to celebrate their birthday however YOU would like to do it. But by the time they reach the teenage years, you should turn ownership of ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

Assuming you live in a large city, you could suggest the he and his ham friends tour the local science museum (assuming he'd like this). If he hasn't met some of them IRL, it would be a good ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

Maybe go out and do an activity instead. Like visit the technical museum. Edit: or "escape rooms". this is an engaging activity with a mix of tactical thinking and team work. There are also ...
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9-Year old rushing through schoolwork which leads to multple problems

School is not the only thing he hurries, it's also everything else - eating, playing, reading. The most important first step in handling this is to understand why your child rushes through things. ...
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Would my behavior towards my child have the desired result?

This response assumes the child does not understand the victim's point of view and ignores any other possible reason for the child's actions. Instead, I would recommend a discussion with your kid in ...
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How to make sure kids prioritize keeping in contact when away

This is absolutely normal. Most children live in the moment and enjoy their holiday without thinking of anything else. On their return, they may tell you they missed you every day - which they may ...
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My child's best friend's parent thinks my child is a bad influence

This is essentially a game of telephone right now. You don't know what the friend's parent actually said or meant, you just know how you interpreted what your daughter interpreted what her friend ...
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Activities besides tv

Maybe he needs other children to keep him motivated. Otherwise he may get bored. You can try to enroll him to something like: Scouting sports: light athletics, running, ... coding, programming or ...
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My 10 year old daughter watches Youtube shorts all day - what can I do about this?

I have a stepson of a similar age with similar tendencies. He was given a smartphone at the age of 9 by his biological father, so that he could call him on it. At first he used it to watch Youtube ...
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My son refuses to celebrate. What should parents do?

We have begun planning for a birthday celebration for him... When the idea of birthday party was given to him... As parents, we wish to celebrate our son getting older... Are you concerned with your ...
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Activities besides tv

Many good suggestions already. To bring in a slightly different view. I don't think it would be advisable to completely define your kids' schedule, though they can use guidance for sure. It's valuable ...
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Activities besides tv

The answer seems so incredibly simple. You already offered him alternative activities which is a great way to go. And it seems you immediately hit the jackpot! He loved reading and finished the books ...
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My child's best friend's parent thinks my child is a bad influence

Now is a great opportunity to introduce your daughter to the 10 cognitive distortions. They are an amazing tool for anyone, but especially people who have anxious tendencies or are worried about ...
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Are my parents right to give me a severe punishment for being brought home by the police drunk? I am 16

Drinking at 16 is not underage (age is 16 for beer and wine and 18 for everything) so I don't categorize your case as "underage", but getting drunk and being brought home by police mean that ...
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3 year old grandchild Julie will say things like "Bad Julie" or "Just throw me away mommy" or hit herself especially during tantrum. Is this normal

Self harm, lack of self regard, and repeated, persistent violence against others are a warning sign, but its hard to say without more details. You should probably seek professional advice.
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How to make a routinue and ask my son what he want

Your child will ultimately, in the course of their life, have to learn to get on with all sorts of people. People who are less academically able, and more, people who work hard and people who are ...
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