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Are they explicitly saying this, or are you assuming they're implying it, because you're in a 2 bedroom house? I can only speak for the US, so YMMV, but legally speaking, housing supports up to two people per room. In your situation this means that they can give you a 2 bedroom place and tell you to deal with it, but they can't give you a 1 bedroom place. ...


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Interesting question, and there's no one answer. We chose separate rooms for our two girls, but then they decided a few months ago - at three and five - to move in together. They seem to prefer to sleep in company, but they can keep each other awake sometimes, which led to sleep shortages (and tantrums!) with the younger one until we separated bedtime by ...


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It wasn't that long ago that less well off families in the UK would all share a bed, or have a couple of beds for a large number of children, and in some developed countries there is no option but to fit families wherever they can - and they seem to get by. If your culture is one of more privacy between sexes, you may wish to segregate them, or they may ...


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Instead of a weekly job fit only for Hercules, we incorporate clean-up into our daily bedtime routine: clean up, brush teeth, shower/bath, pyjamas, bedtime story, nighty-night. It's not negotiable, it's communal (we all help clean up), and it's supervised (he can't play anymore once clean-up starts), so it goes fairly smoothly and is usually over in minutes....


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Contrary to what you might think, children sleep well with a certain level of noise, especially if it's the familiar sounds of the family doing whatever they usually do or the voices of people they trust. It can be very reassuring, especially for smaller children. That's the reason some parents leave bedroom doors open a small crack: You hear the baby/child, ...


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Despite joking, @monsto has a point - children are children, and their motivation may be very strange to us... But I would guess that your child is staying in bed because he thinks that is what you want him to do. Perhaps he has over-interpreted instructions that he should go to bed, or does he have a sibling who was told off for getting up early, or ...


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I haven't been able to find anything remotely official (e.g. NIH study), but found this so far: John Pearce and Jane Bidder, authors of "Baby and Toddler Sleep Program: How to Get Your Child to Sleep," warn parents to wait as long as possible to introduce a pillow, preferably until a toddler reaches 18 months of age or later. (src) The main reason to ...


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Welcome, and congratulations on the expected family addition! In my home, there's no changing table in the baby room. Instead, we have a changing station in the bathroom. Our washing machine is right next to the sink, and on top of the machine we have a padded thing like this: On the wall above the washing machine, there is a cupboard where we conveniently ...


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The Situation in General We all experiment with different methods when we first begin to parent. Sometimes you play with lines that should never be crossed. Sometimes you do things in the best interest of the child's future health and well being, even though it may not seem advantageous, helpful, or healthy in the present. While I can't speak to locking a ...


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This answer might be a bit might "longish" because this question can't be answered with a simple date... On SIDS in general: First things first: SIDS has been a subject of extensive research, but there is still no "final" answer what causes it. Statisticians have gone wild on potential risk factors, determining an entire list of what increases the risk of ...


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I don't really think this is a good idea. Not with that kind of age gap, and particularly not with step-siblings. There are no laws preventing this. The laws only apply to siblings of different sex. The reason I believe it's just not ideal though, is that an 18 year is basically a full grown man, and may be into all sorts of things that may not be ...


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One common suggestion is a pool noodle under the edge of the mattress sheet. It will not prevent a very aggressive or active roller from escaping and can still be climbed over at will, but if she's just tossing and turning it should keep her on the mattress.


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When we call him he gets out of bed, opens the door himself and comes and find us. Why doesn't he do it without the call? Has anyone come across this? Any ideas? Yes. The answer is that your child is 3. Lets reinforce this a bit. Here, your mileage may vary because I'm going by my memory of my own kids and NOT some established parameter for a 'normal' ...


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No, you're not wrong in what you did. I think your approach made sense. It sounds like the problem is rather a lack of agreement between the parents. As DA01 commented, this could be just a symptom of a deeper underlying disagreement. So instead of looking at this particular issue, try to focus on what might be the root cause underneath it. Your post ...


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We had the same issue with our daughter and we had to improvise. The Bedrail is designed to use with a bed however it works perfectly with a mattress only. It's a stretchy net so even if the baby pushes hard it'll push him/her back gently. The frame is made of very light plastic parts so even if it falls on the baby for any reason it won't her him/her Keep ...


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Actually, to answer your first question, yes, it's bad. The American Academy of Pediatricians recommend that infants stay in the same bedroom with their parents until at least six months of age and it is recommended until they hit a full year old unless you have a good-quality baby monitor. It is recommended that infants sleep in the parents’ room, close to ...


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I don’t know of any studies on this, but it’s fairly common. My six year old does exactly what you describe. He explains that he has bad dreams sometimes and comes in to get reassurance from us that he’s safe. Some kids are just less self assured than others I think; my five year old is much less likely to come in for example. My older child is a bit ...


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In our experience, it's very hard to get an infant to sleep without nursing if he/she is in the same room as Mommy, as the infant knows where the milk comes from. We didn't sleep train, but certainly when we needed to share a room (such as during hotel stays) it was much harder to get our sons to sleep as babies than when they were in a separate room. It ...


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Our eldest two (boy and girl two years apart) shared a room until our third child was successfully sleeping and at that point we put her in with her sister, so our boy gets one room and the girls get a bigger room together. We stagger sleep times so our youngest goes to bed around 30 minutes before her sister, and our eldest is about another 30 minutes ...


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I'll side with your wife. This will stop soon enough, and you'll miss it. Don't worry about it! We used to worry about sleeping habits too. Now that we have 4 kids we don't sweat the small stuff any more. Sometimes they sleep in each other's beds. Sometimes they complain that someone wants to sleep in their bed. Okay, back to your own bed, mister. Sometimes -...


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We put our kids in their own bedromms, because We want to have sleep. And they also want to sleep. We have 3 kids. The first 2 always woke up if I turned in my bed. Or when I went to bed. Or when I went to the toilet at night. This is NOT tightening bounds. Moreover, every time the kid moved, You will wake up. Show sex or not is not the discussion here. ...


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We did not use a change table for our two kids. We just set up an area on the floor next to the crib with a towel and a plastic change mat on top. The wipes, plastic bags, nappies and such were located next to the change area. We had tried using a change table but found the floor was much easier. you don't have to worry about the child rolling off while ...


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Ours was a lot like this one (image from englishforum.ch), only once the kids got older the changing table bit was removable to leave it as an ordinary chest of drawers. The best bit for me (as I have a slightly dodgy back) is the overhang, meaning I could get very close while changing the babies, reducing my need to lean forwards.


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I don't understand what this has to do with being opposite sex. At which age should an older sister stop sharing her bedroom with a younger sister? Why would the answer differ if it was a younger brother? For my older kids, the answer was: When their interests were too different from their younger siblings. One of my girls effectively stopped playing at ...


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I did some pretty extensive research on SIDS when a colleague told us that used mattresses were shown to cause SIDS -- even going so far as to download read original research on the subject (by the way, used-mattresses DO NOT contribute to SIDS, well proven). The main thing I learned is that SIDS is poorly understood, and that cultural and econmic factors ...


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It might no be the most "accepted" thing to do, but my kids slept with the wife and me from day one. In many ways, this is equivalent to a toddler bed since as soon as they were mobile they could get out of bed. So no time is too early. Our solution to the height issue was to scrap the bed and just have a mattress. Just make sure there is nothing she can get ...


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Since you have described the rolling out of bed as harmless, your real question seems to be about how to prevent your child from getting cold (and waking up) due to having lost their blanket. Until they are old enough to solve the lost blanket situation without help, you can use an infant sleeping bag for your child. Such a garment is considerably harder ...


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My 11yo son's hair has a very strong "scent," not anything specific, like bread, but distinctly "him." His hair tends to be almost waxy, even when clean, and every morning his room smells like...him. No one else in my house can smell it but me, and it's less noticeable when he gets a crew cut in the summer (that's how I know it's his hair). It's possible ...


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Welcome to having a toddler. It's a lot of fun, but it does come with certain ... complications. This is one of them, and it happens for pretty much everyone. First: this is, to some extent, a phase. He's now able to move around and do things he wasn't able to before; so he's exploring that new freedom, and all of the stuff that comes with it. Be ...


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