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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

From what you're writing, you don't really want him to get any hobby, but a hobby where he can socialize. If he's slightly autistic, socializing is the hardest thing for him to do. And it will be ...
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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

A hobby is something you like. How do you force someone to like something? Additionally, at the choice of hobbies there is an extra agenda: You want him to socialize. I think you have a good point. ...
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What do I tell my child about her Asperger autism?

She can discern that she's different from other kids her age. She's expressing this in a way that's heartbreaking for me to even read, let alone to deal with as a parent. As hard as it is, the time ...
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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

I was just extremely socially awkward as a kid, not autistic, but here's what I would suggest: In Scouts (talk with the Scoutmaster and try to figure out what would be best), there are many ...
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How to help my 4-year-old son, who pretends play to be a girl with long hair, develop a stronger identity?

I am not sure there is an actual "problem" here. I might be biased on the topic though because my son was only two when he asked me to stop stealing his hair (his explanation of having had his hair ...
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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

Even with neurotypical kids, it can be challenging to find a hobby or sport that they like well enough to stick with and really develop. Some kids find their niche right away, others have to try lots ...
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Autistic child constantly mobbed by other children - what can be done?

Talk to the school. They should have an anti-bullying policy. Get it and insist that they apply it in this case. Write to the teachers. Identify the specific hurtful behaviours being used and insist ...
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Our son is slightly autistic, Is it wise to have an indoor cat?

You may have heard the expression "if you've seen one child with autism, you've seen ONE child with autism". "autism" covers such a wide range of behaviors and experiences that it's really hard to ...
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How to help my 4-year-old son, who pretends play to be a girl with long hair, develop a stronger identity?

Kids are kids and love to explore the world. Let him both dress up as a soldier and paint his nails. No big deal, most of us did. Do not look bothered / worried / overinterested whatever a kid will ...
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Our son is slightly autistic, Is it wise to have an indoor cat?

Both my daughter (16) and son (13) are high-level autistic (would have been called aspie by the old yardstick). We've had cats their entire lives. Currently we have two cats, a big black labrador, ...
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How to convince a young child with ASD to begin ADHD medicine?

We couldn't wait any longer. Our daughter confronted us about why we wanted her to make her take "happy pills" and that it was silly to expect someone to be happy all the time. I told her that whoever ...
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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

I think you're saying something different than you really mean. You say "he needs a hobby" but what you mean is "he needs a different hobby". There are plenty of people without mental health issues ...
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Where are the majority of children on the Autism Spectrum?

What percentage of diagnosis fall into each category? Is Aspergers, PDD-NOS or Classic Autism the most common? It's not an easy question to answer. Paper after paper disputes the validity of the ...
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I'm worried my son may have autism

Your child does have some symptoms worrisome for autism, and some that are not, but he certainly should be evaluated for it. The doctors should take this seriously (I'm not sure why you think they ...
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Is my child autistic?

If anything, it's not the diagnosis you should be concerned about, but the underlying condition and the specific problems it presents to the child. The sooner you have your son diagnosed, the better ...
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What kind of bottle can I use to make a heavy duty sensory calm down bottle?

Try PET preforms These things get inflated like baloons to produce PET bottles we usually see. They're food-safe, transparent, pretty heavy-duty and cheap. You can order them in surplus to experiment ...
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What strategies can I teach my (autistic) child to deal with another child who winds him up?

Perhaps for a time you should supervise their play. Don't let them be alone together. This way you can see the way they interact with each other. It might be that both are doing whatever is annoying ...
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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

Just a short answer to make an additional suggestion to the ones already given, which I'm kind of surprised hasn't come up already: board, dice, card or other tabletop games. Games of this kind often ...
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Mindfulness Meditation for 6 year old with ADHD, ASD

I taught special needs students, including autistic students for over 30 years. We did yoga and meditation to varying degrees of success every day. We started with 30 seconds of meditation -- yoga ...
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Activities to Distract from Stimming

Firstly, no "distracting" activities will help him "outgrow" what is potentially ASD. If your son has ASD, he will not outgrow it. You need to know that no matter what you do it is ...
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How to deal with kids who are bothering others

I hate to break it to you, but you're probably going to have to figure it out on your own, or with the help of an occupational therapist. My daughter has cerebral palsy and often gets loud and ...
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How can I keep my autistic kid from making an unhygienic mess?

My daughter seems to like shoving her hand down her diapers. She is a scratch fan so she just tears up her skin unless we block her with a onesie. They make them for larger kids too: www.special-need-...
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How to convince a young child with ASD to begin ADHD medicine?

I was ADHD inattentive and did not receive medication for it (story for another time, but I am passed that now). My wife is ADHD inattentive and she may be mild ASD, and she started her medication as ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

It may be bit late but I don't think anyone else has covered what I wanted to say. I have a similar problem to your daughter; when I am nervous or anxious I sometimes get a nearly irresistible urge ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

Disclaimer: I'm on the spectrum. This situation has been very stressful to my family. I try to talk to my son with direct eye contact, and all I get in return is disrespect, yelling, asking me "...
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Autistic child constantly mobbed by other children - what can be done?

I have two children with autism and spent years in autism, LD, you name it special education classrooms as a parent volunteer. I also have one not autistic child. You son may need need a smaller ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

I'm 17 years old, and it was about 4 years ago when I developed this problem. I laugh for just about everything. I laugh when I'm happy, when I think of something funny, when I'm nervous, ...
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

Not a parent, not a psychologist or anything. But i've shown signs of asperger since i was a young child as well. In the textual record of my school behaviour even in the first grades, i can still see ...
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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

If he is only slightly autistic, then it is a good idea to try to find a hobby for him and even push him a little (not forcefully, more like guidance and example). After all everyone needs some free ...
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Should we force our slightly-autistic son to have hobbies (other than "computer usage") which will allow him to socialize more?

I have Asperger's syndrome and I have known quite a few others who also has Asperger's syndrome. I'll share with you what I know about hobbies and social life for me and those others. Keep in mind, ...
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