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What would you do if you are pretty sure your son is heading towards a disastrous marriage?

If my daughter came home with a nice person or clearly the wrong guy: I'd ask her conversationally what she sees in him and I'd listen. I'd have him over to our home as often as possible -- dinner, a ...
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What can we do? Teacher assigned a book that will be too upsetting to our child because of the anxiety she’s facing during the pandemic

First, a note: I am not speaking to whether this is a correct choice on your part on her behalf; I would encourage you to ask that as a separate question. If you have concerns about a particular ...
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What would you do if you are pretty sure your son is heading towards a disastrous marriage?

Pre-marital counseling for ANYONE entering into a marriage or long-term cohabitation seems like a really good idea. Even in healthy relationships, that counseling is designed to prompt conversation ...
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What would you do if you are pretty sure your son is heading towards a disastrous marriage?

What would you do if you were in the parents' shoes? As a parent myself with a young child I can't actually provide any solid thoughts on what I would in this exact situation do but based on my ...
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What can we do? Teacher assigned a book that will be too upsetting to our child because of the anxiety she’s facing during the pandemic

I've had similar reservations about books chosen by my child's teacher, and in every case it's been better to reserve judgement until after the child has at least sampled the book. Some books that I ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce?

Should I push my parents to divorce? To make it plain: No. The answer is "no" for at least two reasons: The decision whether or not to divorce is quite complex, with multiple consequences either ...
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What would you do if you are pretty sure your son is heading towards a disastrous marriage?

My experience is the child's reaction is based on their personality. My younger brother always did what my parents suggested. If they disliked his friends or girlfriend, he would listen and obey. He ...
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What would you do if you are pretty sure your son is heading towards a disastrous marriage?

You must know how far you're are going to push your concerns and what outcome you are willing to accept. Let my tell you my own story from the perspective of the child. I met a woman who was the ...
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Is an 8 week trip abroad an appropriate time away for a 14 year old?

Everything looks fine about the trip (reputable group with long, positive track record, worthy cause, etc.) except for one thing: It is 8 weeks long. Is this a group that has a lot of experience ...
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How to help my 8-year-old who has selective mutism and doesn't say a word at school?

I disagree that switching schools won't help. One of the problems with selective mutism is that peers begin to expect the child not to talk. When the child does speak, it may elicit reactions of ...
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As a teenager, my mom refuses to believe that I have anxiety/depression/ possibly ADHD. How can I help her understand that she is hurting me?

As someone who suffers from depression and anxiety and was finally diagnosed with ADHD in their 30's, I feel your pain on this one. What can you do to convince your mother you have them? ...
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Should I be concerned about my daughter talking to herself?

I wouldn't be concerned at all. This is incredibly common, and not just in children. Many adults do it. Some internalise their voices, others externalise them. You shouldn't do anything about this - ...
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How to help an early teen stop catastrophizing?

While this is the first time this new school year that this sort of catastrophizing has occurred, it is far from the first time it has happened. People often think in a yes/no manner (called ...
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How to transition from someone with no knowledge of parenting into someone who is likely to succeed at the task?

Here's the approach I've taken as a soon-to-be Dad, in my personal order of importance: Babysit the kids of friends or family members. Nothing in the world will prepare you more than actually caring ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce?

Put simply, no, I don't think you should push your parents for divorce. In addition to the answer that sleske gave, I'd give you these points to consider: Depression is a horrible mental illness that ...
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How much crying is OK for a newborn child?

Before I give you my advice as a mother of 6 and grandmother to boot, I just want you to realize that you were given instincts as parents and to make sure to follow them. :) Newborn babies are ...
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My mother refuses to believe I have Social Anxiety Disorder

Facilitate a conversation between your mother and your doctor There is no argument you can make that will convince your mother if she will not listen to the arguments in the first place. Your ...
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Should I be concerned about my daughter talking to herself?

I wouldn't be concerned. I believe that this is a healthy sign of development if anything. Introverted children can become discouraged if you express dismay at this, mayhaps even creating a rift.
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Helping 6 year old with anxiety disorder to cope after my visits end

Unfortunately, what happens after you leave is largely out of your hands and a question for the parents to write here. But maybe there are things you or the parents do (unknowingly) while you are ...
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What would you do if you are pretty sure your son is heading towards a disastrous marriage?

First you have to understand that your son is an adult and is going to make mistakes. All you can really do is be there for him. Second, you need to always be clear about your feelings, while at the ...
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Is my granddaughter Transgender?

Anxiety and depression are pretty common when you don't get along with your parents and they're abusive. So that's not really a huge surprise. 'Laziness' or a lack of motivation and energy is common ...
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How do I resolve a child's anxiety for war?

Firstly, I’d like to point out that kids (and people in general) take cues from others — so if you’re very anxious, others (kids) will be too. I’d tell the kids that bad things can happen but the ...
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How do I resolve a child's anxiety for war?

In general I would treat it matter-of-factly. Here are some ideas. (1) Cognitive approach. It can be reassuring to look up some statistics together and post them on the refrigerator where they can ...
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How to help an early teen stop catastrophizing?

I'm of a somewhat divided mind about this. As a teacher, I'd appreciate a kid who is willing to take school work seriously listen to the teacher when he asks for more effort actually put in said ...
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What can we do? Teacher assigned a book that will be too upsetting to our child because of the anxiety she’s facing during the pandemic

When I read your question, my first reaction is "What's wrong with the world today?": You mention that your child is about twelve years old, and her teacher makes her read a book about ...
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What do I do as a highschooler with extremely strict parents?

You need to develop a support system First of all, I want to start off with the standard stuff about the perils of suicidal ideation and to encourage you to seek out help, even if that help is calling ...
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How to help a teenager who can't have injections

I am reluctant to suggest what follows, but given the importance of vaccines and the fact that they can be life saving (I can attest to witnessing this myself), I would do all in my power to make sure ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce?

While you might not always be able to solve somebody else's problem, you sure can empower and motivate them to do it themselves if you know how. Here are three videos of people getting empowered to ...
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6 and 9 year old having sudden sleep problems

I have seen major sleep disruptions happen out of nowhere in my kids, but having it happen for both kids at once would lead me to consider looking into different things that what I think usually cause ...
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