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Is this alcohol consumption by my father normal?
Two to three beers a night for several years would be something very difficult to hide from one's wife, unless your parents are separated.
You are worried, so you should talk to someone about it. I ...
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Fake driver's license discovered -- how to deal with situation?
I think you need to certainly do some confronting. P. Roe is correct in that multiple felonies are involved here (fake ID, and violating alcohol laws at a minimum, more if she doesn't have her own ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?
This is not going to be a complete answer, because you have not given much detail (what you've tried, how he gets the substances, how he's gotten around it and why, etc.) I'll modify the answer when ...
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How can a parent who is known by their child or teen not to be teetotal raise their offspring in sobriety?
I personally think any black-or-white approach to substances or behaviours that may be harmful in excess is not the best way to choose.
I will on purpose ignore legal aspects for most of this answer (...
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Fake driver's license discovered -- how to deal with situation?
you could maybe approach her apologetically. Explain exactly what happened, let her know that you are aware she had it, but not taking any immediate action. Also let her know that you would rather her ...
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Exposing Late Teenagers to Alcohol
Honestly I think it's better to introduce it to them first at home, where they can ask questions and understand more about it. Having the parents be the ones who sit down and talk about alcohol, as ...
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Is this alcohol consumption by my father normal?
It's also possible that those 3 bottles of beer a day are his own little trips to disneyland. He's an adult. He knows the cons of drinking any alcohol. For now, it might be what he feels is a small ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?
It sounds like your child is heading down a dangerous path. I would recommend considering treatment moving forward. Keep in mind that there are many different treatment options available.
From your ...
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Absent Father vs. Father with alcohol addiction
I know this is pretty old but found it searching for answers. I will post something else that hasn't been mentioned. I left the man I loved after I delivered his baby because of his drinking, which ...
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Is this alcohol consumption by my father normal?
Everything and nothing we do is normal. Adults playing with toy trains is not normal. Adults playing football once a week is not normal.
Do not be bothered by your dad, your family or yourself not ...
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Fake driver's license discovered -- how to deal with situation?
Lots of answers coming from lots of different parenting philosophies here! But I don't really understand why it can't be easily answered according to yours.
I don't see, that is, why you should be "...
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Exposing Late Teenagers to Alcohol
Here in the UK, it is common to start letting kids have a taste, or small drink with food, from the age of 14, and in Mediterranean countries even earlier. (In the UK it is legal from the age of 5 - ...
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Health risk to my unborn child due to alcohol and drug use before finding out I was pregnant?
Of course the only way to be sure is to consult a health professional, but for some reason it seems consuming alcohol the first couple weeks doesn't harm the baby. Not knowing wifey was prego and then ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?
I was a 13 year old kid with drug and alcohol problems. I am now 21 and in the receiving process. It was hard for me because my mother was lenient and my father wouldn't have anything to do with it.
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Is this alcohol consumption by my father normal?
Staying sane as a Dad
Being an adult kinda sucks. Being a parent as well. See, being a dad means giving up a lot of the stuff that makes you happy to make other people happy. I know the Hollywood ...
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Is this alcohol consumption by my father normal?
"2-3 bottles" is not very precise. I can buy bottles of beer in the supermarket between 0.28 and 0.66 liters (0.33 and 0.5 are the usual sizes). Beers have very different strengths, between 4% and 9% ...
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Absent Father vs. Father with alcohol addiction
It's best for the well-being of the child that he/she is not living in an environment that is unstable. Alcoholics and drug users should not be positioned as authority figures and/or role models in ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?
As a Mom of a 14 yr old who I believe is headed in this direction, I would intervene now with professional help. Contact the crisis hotline in your area. If they deem him to be a danger to himself ...
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How to confront my father about his alcoholism
I don't think you should confront anything at this point. While I fully understand your desire to, I can see nothing good coming from it right now. I do think you should contact Al-anon to get ...
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How can a parent who is known by their child or teen not to be teetotal raise their offspring in sobriety?
In some places parents can be charged for allowing children to drink alcohol before the legal age, but in my culture we drink wine every Friday evening as part of a special meal. The wine is sweet and ...
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How can a parent who is known by their child or teen not to be teetotal raise their offspring in sobriety?
The simple fact is that alcohol is specially damaging to the developing brain, so while an adult can have a drink from time to time without much consequence, the same can't be said of a younger brain.
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Fake driver's license discovered -- how to deal with situation?
Searching her wallet was not the world's brightest idea, but what is done is done. Everyone makes mistakes. Adults admit their mistakes when needed and suffer the consequences. If there was a breach ...
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Exposing Late Teenagers to Alcohol
I worked in substance abuse for 10 years. Although certain conclusions are difficult to make, it is true the vast majority of alcoholics and drug addicts started at home with condoned alcohol use, and ...
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