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I also had parents that enforced curfew and rules on me past the time that it would normally be expected (until I completed college), and the thing that helped most was proving that I had moved past the need for external rules. Moving past the need for rules doesn't mean "too old to be expected to obey", but "able to know what the right thing is and do it ...


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I suggest that you critically examine your own question. Because if you think about it logically, it doesn't make a lot of sense. You start with the statement(s) that you a 23 year old adult... Well yeah, so what? That means you can legally vote, buy booze, and watch porn. You seem to be implying that "adulthood" somehow confers you wit magical rights. ...


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because of my various medical issues which force me to rely on them financially My main question here is whether you are purely relying on them financially. If you would be capable of fully-independent living, then that's one thing. If you are dependent on them for some elements of your personal care due to your medical issues, answers to this question ...


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Use your mobile phone data when the Internet goes off. Leaving aside the interpersonal issues that some other answers have suggested, there's a very easy technical solution for this problem. If you have a mobile phone with a suitable level of mobile data, you can use it as a substitute for your family's internet connection. Simply plug your phone's ...


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I can totally understand what you are going through. My parents were super strict with me growing up. They tried to shelter and control as many aspects of my life for as long as I can remember, however I continued to work hard in school and my part time job to make the best of the situation. Instead of arguing with them about curfews, rules, chores etc. I ...


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Maybe instead of expecting things all at once you should try gradually earning their trust. Ask for something small, like each week you get 5 extra minutes, but if you get "moody" or whatever you give up those 5 minutes for a week and then try again. Also changing your sleeping habits all at once may set you up for failure. An extra hour all of a sudden ...


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As a purely technical solution: if you are located in the United States, find a group that is located in the Great Britain - they'll play by their local time zone, on which midnight comes earlier.


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Pick a single aspect. Pick a small one that can be well defined. Explain the problem that you have with his behaviour. Pick one that has a natural consequence if he fails to do it. Let him fail. Do NOT rescue him. Example: He never starts his essays until the night before they are due, and he comes to his parents saying, "how do I do this?" You can tell ...


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