My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't. We have been talking about it for the last few days (talking strongly). I have raised points such as: - We will get less time to spend with our current kids. - The age gap between the first and the last will be too wide. - It will cost more money. - She will be out of work longer. - We will need a bigger house. And we don't even have our own house yet (we are still renting). - We will have to start again. Sleepless nights, nappies, feeding, new cot, car seat, etc etc. She says: - She feels like she is missing something. - She has always wanted a large family. - Things will be the same regardless of having 3, or 4 kids. - She agrees that money will be tighter, but wants to push through it. Our current kids are 9 months, 2 years, and 4 years. We are young married couple (25), and I have a fairly decent job. What would be the pros and cons of having another child? How can we rationally talk to the other about having/or not having another child? And what should we do if we cannot agree? (sorry I don't really know what to tag this).