Try to go along the line : <br>
There are rules that exist for everyone. I have to go to work. You have to go to school. I tell you *about* the rules because I know them, I don't just makes them up to bother you. Sometime, I will simplify a rule or regroup a few "grownup rules" for you. Because there are other, more complicated, rules that I can't directly explain to you. 

Don't forget that, sometimes, you will be the bad guy. <br>
Yes, you yanked her arm and it hurt and it's not fun and she really wanted to chase her ball. But she didn't rush on the street under a speeding car.<br>
Your kid is not your friend. You have **responsibility** for her health, for her education and for her overall well being. It would not be a normal relationship with a friend. It can change later, but she is 5.<br>
Society has rules that individual people could do without, but are needed for the society to function. You have to teach those rules, written or not, to your daughter.<br>
Going to school is not a choice, it's a rule. And, at 5, she has to learn to follow the rules, before getting to the point where she can judge, overcome or break them.