Questions tagged [violence]

For all questions pertaining to violence with either the child being violent, being subject to violence or witnessing violence. Use the specific tag like [hitting] or [biting] if the question is solely about that behavior. As an umbrella term, use the tag [violence] when it's about several forms of violence or if a specific tag doesn't exist.

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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

We live in a major US city, and while we live far enough away from the areas most affected by the rioting and protesting that is currently ongoing, we are not so far that my children aren't aware - ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV? It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it. Let me try to ...
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Found loaded gun after son threatened to kill the family

Title says it, he is 17 and threatened he "could kill all of us right now". A week later we found a loaded gun in his room. This is now the 3rd gun he has been caught with. He has lived a privileged ...
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How to make my 3-year-old stop throwing things at people?

My 3-year-old boy throws things at people for no reason. Sometimes he just needs attention and sometimes he's just doing this for fun, but it has been very hard on us because it gave me a black eye ...
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How to deal with a defiant, stubborn and abusive 5-year-old?

I have a 5-year-old boy who is beyond bad. We have tried everything from talking to spanking to taking stuff away to rewarding the good and are at our wits' end. He is abusive to animals, at least 4 ...
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5-yo getting violent

My son has always been kind and never got us worried before. Never had any issues. We recently relocated and he had to change school. The school assigned buddies to everyone because they had merged ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

I have a 5-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. My daughter is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all. Lately, she has started being violent ...
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How can I stop my 5-year-old's violent tantrums?

I am a single mom to a very good 5-year-old little boy ... 90% of the time. About once a week, give or take, he has a meltdown and becomes violent (hitting, scratching, biting, throwing things, etc.). ...
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How to make my 2-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daugther is nearly 6 years old and my son just turned 2. How can I make my son stop hitting and biting and throwing things at my daughter? Should I let her deal with him on her own or step in?
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Should I be worried about a 1-year-old getting excited and grabbing and scratching people's faces hard?

I'm grandmother of a 1-year-old boy. My son has ADHD and is home trying to get disability, so they let me take the baby every week and he usally stays about 3 days. I am trying everything that I ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?

Our 4.5-year-old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. This has ...
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Our 5-year-old boy doesn't respond to timeouts, etc. What are some other methods of discipline?

Our 5-year-old boy loves to challenge us when we try to discipline him. We would ask him not to do something and he would go right ahead and do it. Eventually it escalates and he starts to scream, ...
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How to make my 1-year-old stop slapping me and other people in the face?

My 1-year-old son slaps me and other people in the face. He thinks that he is playing with us that way. I always hold his hand tightly and look at him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. ...
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Bully broke my sons bone, what next? [closed]

While at school my son has been getting bullied by a boy. They are both in 6th grade and used to be friends until recently, not the boy bullies him. Today I got a call to come get my son because he ...
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Is “slapping a badly-behaved child” against the law in US? [closed]

I heard a violent argument between a mother and her child. Obviously it was the child's mistake and he said something really really bad that must have hurt mother's feelings. His words made ...
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How do I teach my son to manage his anger when he is unwilling?

My 8-year-old son has difficulty managing his anger in a healthy way. When he gets angry at his sister, sometimes he hits her or pulls her hair. Sometimes he hits himself. Sometimes he screams and ...
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How to help our 2-year-old adjust to new daycare where he's violent and pushy?

Our 2-year-old has just moved from a fairly loud, apathetic, semi-violent daycare, to the point where he was coming home with bites and bruises almost daily, to a new, nicer daycare closer to our work....
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How to deal with a naughty 5-year-old nephew who is not being disciplined by his mother?

I live in a joint family with two of my uncles, and I have a very naughty five year old nephew who's a nuisance to the entire household. We live in a flat and my nephew throws stuff out of the window ...
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Why is my 4-year-old child more aggressive now?

My child recently turned 4 late this summer. We've noticed he has been more aggressive lately. Background: I've pretend wrestled, boxed, and sword fought with my child before his third birthday. I ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

My fiancé's nephew is 4 years old. He refuses to show respect and manners to adult figures; he constantly cusses (his favorite word is "wtf bitch", and he says it to me only.) He also constantly ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

My daughter is 2 years and 4 months old. Yesterday, she asked me to give her my phone and I told her, "No this is mine." She started crying and hitting me and then she bit me. I got shocked, then I ...
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How to help my violent 5-year-old son become calmer?

I have a beautiful 5-year-old son (almost 6). Over the past 6 months, his aggression and behaviour are becoming really difficult and hard to handle. He has been quite violent towards himself (hitting ...
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Why does my 12-month-old slap us?

My 12-month-old son has just recently taken to slapping us - the parents. He has been directing the slaps to our faces, chests and arms. What is causing this? Is there anyway for us to stop it?
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How to tackle my violent 3-year-old niece?

My 3-year-old niece sometimes behaves very violently. She so much enjoys hitting me with tab/doll/spoon/bottle or whatever she has. She hits very hard. I try to take the things away from her. But she ...
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How should I respond to my 5-year-old daughter kicking me?

My daughter is 5 years old. She often "plays" rudely with me. For example, she'll kick me, and I cannot explain clearly to her that the behavior is impolite. Sometimes I kick her (and as a result, ...
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How can I help my 5-year-old introvert boy relax?

I have a 5-year-old boy, with two younger brothers (1 year and 3 years old). He is intelligent, sensitive (easily stressed) and shy. I would definitely label him an introvert, but he does not like to ...
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As a babysitting aunt, how to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has two little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter, who doesn't have children herself, is visiting them at this time. ...
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What to do about my adopted 11-year-old son's anger issues?

I have adopted my 11-year-old when he was a baby. He has the biggest heart, but is the most challenging: Parents all siblings - yells and pushes, pulls hair, throws things at them and squeezes their ...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old refusing to nap or sleep?

I am facing a very tough time with my 3.5-year-old who suddenly is refusing to nap in the afternoon or sleep at night. She used to nap at daycare but refuses to do so at home. Due to unavoidable ...
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How to prevent my 2-year-old from being bullied by our roommate's child?

I have a 2-year-old daughter and I am currently living with a roommate who also has a 2-year-old daughter. My roommate's daughter is constantly bullying my daughter by pulling her hair, biting, ...
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How to stop my 6-year-old from his aggressive behavior of spitting, biting, abusive language, and scratching?

My 6-year-old child has very aggressive behavior. He is very sweet and caring when he is in a great mood, but he loses his temper in few seconds. For example, when my 10-year-old son touches his ...
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How to control and stop my 1.5-year-old's violent behavior patterns?

I have a 1.5-year-old son. I have noticed below violent behavior patterns: hurting people by hitting, biting, pinching and plucking hair etc. yelling and crying a lot when disappointed or angry. I ...
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Is it normal for a 2-year-old son to like hitting, biting and fighting? [duplicate]

My son is two years old now. Somehow he likes fighting. His mornings start with hitting and biting. I know for him it's a game and he enjoys it. Also, sometimes he becomes angry and throws whatever is ...
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How can you teach a toddler about pain without actually inflicting any in return?

My daughter is entering those 'terrible twos', and as a father I want to find the method of teaching her discipline and self control that really gets the point across. For most behaviors, my wife and ...
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How to help a 6-year-old who witnessed a school shooting?

I am not a parent, but am asking this for a good friend. He has a 6-year-old daughter who was in the attached elementary school during a recent high school shooting. I don't think she saw anyone get ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?

I have a 2.5-year-old son. He is very hyperactive, and somehow he thinks that beating, biting, throwing things and hurting others is a game. He threw a toy car at me once and it hurt me badly. He ...
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How to make our 3-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daughter from a previous marriage was 8 when our son was born. Pretty much since the day he could move he has been hitting his sister with his hands or objects, biting, scratching etc. He is now 3 ...
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What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?

My 12-year-old nephew "Bob" took my 9-year-old son aside and showed him a video of ISIS beheading a victim. I am just flabbergasted that Bob would do that. Interestingly Bob did not show the video to ...
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What to do about my 14-year-old sister being out of control and selfish? [closed]

I'm 20 years old and have a 14-year-old sister. We've been having a step father for 12 years, she's never known any different. We all used to get on perfectly. She's always been a really good student. ...
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How do I get my 17-year-old under control when I raise him alone and his behavior is unacceptable?

My husband passed away 9 years ago. My 17-year-old son is currently in high school. I also have a 25-year-old daughter, who doesn't live with us but visits us over the weekend. I'm the one who is ...
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How to help my 18-year-old who may be the victim of bullying?

My 18-year-old son is in high school and near graduating; like 40 days from now he will graduate. He is so smart and into business and science and gets top grades so I am thankful. He is so respectful ...
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What do you do when your parents are physically hurting you?

My girl friend called me scared for her life to day after her parent(s) strangled her. She is 19 years old and cannot support her self on her own. Im not sure what she can do or anything I can do to ...
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How unusual is it for a 3.5-year-old to scratch his own face and draw blood?

A 3.5-year-old child we know was sat down for misbehaving and then scratched his own face drawing blood. We wondered how common this was and how it may be stopped from happening again. How unusual is ...
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How to make my 3.5-year-old stop pinching his teacher, classmates, siblings and parents?

My 3.5-year-old son has been pinching every now and then. We have another 2-year-old daughter. Recently, the problem has been getting worse, he has started pinching/scratching his teacher in the pre-...
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How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation?

How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation. I separated from my ex wife about 4 years ago. My son has been living with her for around the ...
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Have studies shown whether toys that feature guns or other weapons prominently promote violent behavior?

Note: I am looking for referenced answers only! Answers citing one or more peer reviewed studies, or, better yet, a meta analysis of several such studies, would be ideal. Answers that reference ...
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Story of a sad mom - adult son who is violent and suffering from depression

Please read my story: a sad mom and let me know what your suggestion is. I have a 23 year old son. Since 7 years ago, my husband and I have had lots of problems with our son. He was living with us ...
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How can I teach my son that it's ok to hit back?

My 3.5-year-old son has learned in the kindergarten, you do not bite, hit or kick another child. But some children bite, kick or hit my son. I told him, he must tell the kindergarten teacher or kick/...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?

If parents give a spank to their child, this is considered violence and as such frowned upon - and in some countries simply a crime under the law. In my observation, parents who don't want to spank ...