Questions tagged [violence]

For all questions pertaining to violence with either the child being violent, being subject to violence or witnessing violence. Use the specific tag like [hitting] or [biting] if the question is solely about that behavior. As an umbrella term, use the tag [violence] when it's about several forms of violence or if a specific tag doesn't exist.

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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

I'm asking for a friend of mine, who's the parent. Her child is 12 years old. Yesterday, at school, the child's classmate was horribly beaten up by a teacher. And I mean horrible. It ended with the ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I've noticed a great many parents do everything within their power to prevent their children playing with toy guns and weapons. As a 30-something, I grew up with toy swords, bows and guns, action men (...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

In summary: I am the daughter. My mother is being domestically abused by my father. What can I do to make him stop without hurting my mother in any way? - she still loves him! Details: My father is a ...
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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?

How can I explain terrorism and the recent radical Muslim shootings in Paris to my primary school age children? They have obviously noticed the media reports and they saw our local TV tower lit up ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

My daughter is 2 years and 4 months old. Yesterday, she asked me to give her my phone and I told her, "No this is mine." She started crying and hitting me and then she bit me. I got shocked, then I ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?

If parents give a spank to their child, this is considered violence and as such frowned upon - and in some countries simply a crime under the law. In my observation, parents who don't want to spank ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV? It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it. Let me try to ...
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Is there any research on the effects of PG cartoon violence on small children?

Our son is now at the age where we let him watch a moderate amount of children's videos to entertain himself -- all firmly G rated stuff. I have also been allowing him to watch some recent animated ...
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Have studies shown whether toys that feature guns or other weapons prominently promote violent behavior?

Note: I am looking for referenced answers only! Answers citing one or more peer reviewed studies, or, better yet, a meta analysis of several such studies, would be ideal. Answers that reference ...
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Stop a 14 month old from hurting the dog

I am the father to a 14 month old son, an only child, and he is pretty much how I would expect a toddler to be. He has an unquenchable curiosity, a need for play, occasional cuddles, intense desires ...
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How do I stop my daughter from hitting another child?

Recently my daughter started to hit another girl with whom she is currently sharing her nanny. My daughter is 2 years and 2 months now, the other child is 1 year 3 months. The nanny was our daughters ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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How can you teach a toddler about pain without actually inflicting any in return?

My daughter is entering those 'terrible twos', and as a father I want to find the method of teaching her discipline and self control that really gets the point across. For most behaviors, my wife and ...
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How to deal with a defiant, stubborn and abusive 5-year-old?

I have a 5-year-old boy who is beyond bad. We have tried everything from talking to spanking to taking stuff away to rewarding the good and are at our wits' end. He is abusive to animals, at least 4 ...
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What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?

My 12-year-old nephew "Bob" took my 9-year-old son aside and showed him a video of ISIS beheading a victim. I am just flabbergasted that Bob would do that. Interestingly Bob did not show the video to ...
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How should I react if another child “attacks” my son by doing something he does not like (but not especially dangerous)

Recently I was in the following situation: I wanted to pick up my son (4.5 years old) in the kindergarten and another child was throwing bark mulch at him. I don't consider this especially dangerous,...
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How to deal with a naughty 5-year-old nephew who is not being disciplined by his mother?

I live in a joint family with two of my uncles, and I have a very naughty five year old nephew who's a nuisance to the entire household. We live in a flat and my nephew throws stuff out of the window ...
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What do you do when your parents are physically hurting you?

My girl friend called me scared for her life to day after her parent(s) strangled her. She is 19 years old and cannot support her self on her own. Im not sure what she can do or anything I can do to ...
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How do I get my 17-year-old under control when I raise him alone and his behavior is unacceptable?

My husband passed away 9 years ago. My 17-year-old son is currently in high school. I also have a 25-year-old daughter, who doesn't live with us but visits us over the weekend. I'm the one who is ...
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Handling toddler aggression towards my child

My 2yo daughter was playing on a playground, rotating on a kind of one-person carousel. A 2.5, maybe 3yo boy approached her, obviously (to me) wanting to sit on it and use it. The boy immediately ...
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How can I stop my 5-year-old's violent tantrums?

I am a single mom to a very good 5-year-old little boy ... 90% of the time. About once a week, give or take, he has a meltdown and becomes violent (hitting, scratching, biting, throwing things, etc.). ...
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How to prevent my 2-year-old from being bullied by our roommate's child?

I have a 2-year-old daughter and I am currently living with a roommate who also has a 2-year-old daughter. My roommate's daughter is constantly bullying my daughter by pulling her hair, biting, ...
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Story of a sad mom - adult son who is violent and suffering from depression

Please read my story: a sad mom and let me know what your suggestion is. I have a 23 year old son. Since 7 years ago, my husband and I have had lots of problems with our son. He was living with us ...
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How to make my stubborn 11-year-old son study and take care of himself when physical punishment doesn't work?

My 11-year-old son is an intelligent and extroverted boy. He wants to neither study nor take care of his belongings. I have to continuously tell him to do his routine work like bathing, brushing teeth ...
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How to stop my 6-year-old from his aggressive behavior of spitting, biting, abusive language, and scratching?

My 6-year-old child has very aggressive behavior. He is very sweet and caring when he is in a great mood, but he loses his temper in few seconds. For example, when my 10-year-old son touches his ...
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What should we teach our children about violent attacks like the ones in Norway on 7/22/11?

Let me begin with all sympathies to the victims, survivors, and their families, and the people of Norway. I am sad and angry and deeply feel the fact that I cannot protect my family from an atrocity....
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How to make our 3-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daughter from a previous marriage was 8 when our son was born. Pretty much since the day he could move he has been hitting his sister with his hands or objects, biting, scratching etc. He is now 3 ...
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What can I do about a 10-year-old who can't seem to understand that hitting is wrong?

I'm helping to raise a pair of 10-year-old twins, who I will call James and Emily. James hits his sister to get his way. If she is sitting where he wants to sit, he hits her to get her to move. If she ...
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5-year-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's displaying strong leadership traits. When he has his mind set on something, his ...
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Abusive behavior of 12 years old son

My 12 years old son hits, pushes, and teases his 7 years old sister. When my daughter was born he would constantly disturb me while feeding her and helping her. I tried to involve him in taking care ...
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How should I respond to my 5-year-old daughter kicking me?

My daughter is 5 years old. She often "plays" rudely with me. For example, she'll kick me, and I cannot explain clearly to her that the behavior is impolite. Sometimes I kick her (and as a result, ...
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How to make my 1-year-old stop slapping me and other people in the face?

My 1-year-old son slaps me and other people in the face. He thinks that he is playing with us that way. I always hold his hand tightly and look at him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. ...
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As a babysitting aunt, how to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has two little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter, who doesn't have children herself, is visiting them at this time. ...
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How to make my 2-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daugther is nearly 6 years old and my son just turned 2. How can I make my son stop hitting and biting and throwing things at my daughter? Should I let her deal with him on her own or step in?
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

When my daughter gets angry, she makes this mean looking face and then starts punching on her legs. Should I be concerned about this behavior? I do tell her to "stop it" and I would ask her, 'Why is ...
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How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation?

How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation. I separated from my ex wife about 4 years ago. My son has been living with her for around the ...
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?

Our 4.5-year-old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. This has ...
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What to do about my adopted 11-year-old son's anger issues?

I have adopted my 11-year-old when he was a baby. He has the biggest heart, but is the most challenging: Parents all siblings - yells and pushes, pulls hair, throws things at them and squeezes their ...
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How to deal with two 10- and 12-year-old brothers fighting?

I am a father of 10- and 12-year-old boys. Both used to play happily and regularly and fought on occasions. The younger boy used to complain about his older brother with some deep cries and proof of ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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How do I teach my son to manage his anger when he is unwilling?

My 8-year-old son has difficulty managing his anger in a healthy way. When he gets angry at his sister, sometimes he hits her or pulls her hair. Sometimes he hits himself. Sometimes he screams and ...
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Is it normal for a 2-year-old son to like hitting, biting and fighting? [duplicate]

My son is two years old now. Somehow he likes fighting. His mornings start with hitting and biting. I know for him it's a game and he enjoys it. Also, sometimes he becomes angry and throws whatever is ...
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My daughter tells me her teacher slapped her. How should I proceed?

I have a 4-year-old daughter. She goes to a small, private preschool. It is one class, all my daughter's age. There is no director; it consists of four women, who are partners, who take turns ...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old refusing to nap or sleep?

I am facing a very tough time with my 3.5-year-old who suddenly is refusing to nap in the afternoon or sleep at night. She used to nap at daycare but refuses to do so at home. Due to unavoidable ...
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What to do about a 4 year old abusing animals? [closed]

I am extremely distraught, so please forgive my rambling and errors. Edits are welcome. Yesterday, before I got home, my wife called to tell me that she found our son choking our kitten that we've ...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD. He has been kicked out of four different daycares starting when he was just 2 years old. He is now in Kindergarten, and my wife and I hoped that with his recent ...
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How can I teach my son that it's ok to hit back?

My 3.5-year-old son has learned in the kindergarten, you do not bite, hit or kick another child. But some children bite, kick or hit my son. I told him, he must tell the kindergarten teacher or kick/...
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How to control and stop my 1.5-year-old's violent behavior patterns?

I have a 1.5-year-old son. I have noticed below violent behavior patterns: hurting people by hitting, biting, pinching and plucking hair etc. yelling and crying a lot when disappointed or angry. I ...
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How to make my 3-year-old stop throwing things at people?

My 3-year-old boy throws things at people for no reason. Sometimes he just needs attention and sometimes he's just doing this for fun, but it has been very hard on us because it gave me a black eye ...
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Why is my 4-year-old child more aggressive now?

My child recently turned 4 late this summer. We've noticed he has been more aggressive lately. Background: I've pretend wrestled, boxed, and sword fought with my child before his third birthday. I ...