Questions tagged [teen]

Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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Teen may be racist

I am a mentor to a 15 yr old girl. Today I was telling her about what happened in Charlottesville and getting her thoughts on it. She said she kind of agreed that white people are better than everyone ...
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Good book about parenting teens? [closed]

I have an 8 years old who is showing signs of teenage hood and want to prepare myself for the time ahead. There are many titles out there but it's hard to find which are most helpful and updated. Any ...
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Between parents and marijuana smoking sister

I live in the UK with my sister, who has been smoking marijuana for about a year now. I have known for a large part of that time. She smokes relatively often, however not enough that it's a major risk ...
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How would I tell my Father-In-Law that he's being too lenient in disciplining my brother-in-law?

My wife and I are newlyweds, we married last December, and we're still trying to straighten out the paperwork for our new home. I've been staying with my wife in her family's home for couple of months....
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Should my 12-year son see, how I fail?

I have a 12-year old son. I don't live with his mother, but I try to do as much as possible to help him grow up a happy and healthy adult. Couple of months ago I learned he had problems with maths ...
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Parental controls for Facebook?

I'm getting my teenager an iPod touch but I need to set up some parental controls. I know I can block the use of Facebook altogether but it would be nice if I could set it up so she could just ...
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Seeking research on possible outcomes for children who are overly criticized

I did a search & can't find what I need. I need reading material on what the likely outcome is for a child who has been overly criticized. Someone very close to me has 3 kids, 2 are grown. It ...
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12 year-old son doesn't want to move to a new city

I was recently offered a job in another city on the other side of the country. I was attracted to it because it represents a new adventure for the family and my wife is excited by the prospect. ...
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Spending too much time with a parent causing strain on our relationship

I am going to start this question by stating that I am the child (17) in this situation and not the parent. In September, my mum starting working at the school where I am studying, as my maths ...
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Teenagers Ogling my Daughter. What to do?

As summer has arrived, my teenage daughter begins to wear shorts of reasonable length. What should I do when teenage boys around her age ogles at her? Should I ask them to stop or let them be? I ...
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How should we support 16 year old step sister who ran away from home

We're in Canada, if that's relevant. My partner and I live by ourselves (late 20's), and my partner's 16 year old step-sister has recently fled an emotionally abusive home life (no physical abuse so ...
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How do I get my daughter to take physical education (PE) classes?

My daughter is 14 years old. This seems to have been an issue since the beginning of this school year last September. She has constantly been refusing to do it, never taking her PE kit to school, and ...
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16 year old boy with existential crisis

I am a single working parent of a 16 year old boy. He is highly intellingent, well read and a social person - has good friends and hobbies. He also studies at the uni (currently doing a BA in math and ...
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Why do I have negative feelings about my mother?

I am a 16 year old boy. My parents are divorced, my father didn't treat my mother well; he beat her and he thought she was cheating on him when she in fact never did. My mother tried to cope with him ...
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My 16 year old son says he is depressed

I have a 16 year old son who lives with my ex father in law, but I'm in his life and I can see him when I want. I'm concerned about this. He tells me that he is depressed and he took 9 tylenol 3's to ...
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How to handle value mis-alignment between parents and kids?

I'm (kinda) asking this question for my parents and family. My parents and I share very different values. For example, I think we should replace our old washing machine with a new, energy-efficient ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

I have a 16 year old that loves to skate. However, skating will ruin your shoes, put holes in them and also the socks. My son is wearing the same shoe over and over again which has a big hole in the ...
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How do I tell my 13-year-old son I am his biological father?

I have a 13-year-old son and now that his mother and I get along well, we want to tell him that I am his biological father. I had an on and off girlfriend at that time and when we were off I met my ...
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Helping teenage son to get over his crush

Our teenage son (17) likes this girl, but he allegedly doesn't have chances with her (*). While we do think that this is something he has to deal with himself, it did affect his mood visibly over the ...
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How to help our autistic 13-year-old-son who has a withholding issue and gets senna?

We have a 13-year-old son with autism. He has withholding issues of poop. He is now under treatment with 15 ml x 3 a day accompanied with suppository, otherwise he won't go. I tried to give him food ...
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How do you support/cope with your 15yr old daughter wanting to become a boy?

I'm going to give a quick history on this to support my question. When my daughter was 12, her & I moved to my hometown, where we already had friends and family that we are very close with. After ...
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Does reunification therapy work with 15 year old?

I'm going to provide more detail than maybe is needed to narrowly answer the question, in case it's relevant, and to solicit any broader advice which the moderators will allow. If it is TMI, you can ...
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How to help my 18-year-old who may be the victim of bullying?

My 18-year-old son is in high school and near graduating; like 40 days from now he will graduate. He is so smart and into business and science and gets top grades so I am thankful. He is so respectful ...
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Strong-willed, 14 year old. Caught with e-cigarette paraphernalia and a condom

My 14yr old son, youngest of 4 (other 3 are triplets), has always been a very strong-willed kid. Over the years we have been able to channel that will thru his love of soccer. He plays a very ...
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My child is afraid of death

My daughter is 13, and terrified of death. I'm Christian, and I believe there is a heaven, but she isn't religious- according to her, she's tried, but can't make herself Believe in anything. At first, ...
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Topics for kids for moving in with girlfriend and kids [closed]

I'm somewhat of a shy guy, more precisely though I just don't know what to talk about. My problem is that I've moved in with my girlfriend, and she has two kids, a girl aged 12 and a boy aged 14, and ...
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My 16-year-old daughter has new personal items she hides - how can I make her to be more open?

I am a single mother of one 16-year-old daughter and I am very attentive to how my daughter develops as a person. We both work on it with constructive approaches. But from time to time I discover in ...
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My 13-year-old daughter is talking to a 20-year old girl on the internet. Is this normal?

She’s not very open so I have no idea whether their conversations are age-appropriate. She is a really intelligent and responsible kid, and she's definitely smart enough not to give out any personal ...
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How should a parent handle sensitive topics regarding a child of the opposite sex?

I started asking this question with a father and his daughter's puberty in my mind - especially her monthly cycles. Then I thought this could also extend to a mother and her son's puberty as well. ...
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How to keep myself safe (during pregnancy) from abusive ex-boyfriend [closed]

I am now 20 weeks pregnant and I don't know what to do to keep this baby safe from an abusive ex that thinks I lost it. He is extremely mentally unstable and has threatened both of our lives if I ...
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17 Year Old Moving Out or Staying Home? [closed]

I'm 17 years old, progressing through High School and a local ATC. I have had some typical "Grr teenager" problems in the past that I really think I've moved past. I don't get into big fights with my ...
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How should children be treated with regards to meeting their sperm donor?

How should children/teens/young adults be treated with regards to meeting their sperm donor? As in, should they be allowed to do this, encouraged to do this or discouraged from it. This is assuming ...
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Conflict with parents concerning school & grades

I'm a 9th grade student (14 years old) who is described as an "intelligent person", at least relative to my peers. My parents are divorced. I live with my younger brother and mother, while my father ...
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How can I decide whether to raise my teenage son's allowance?

My 14 year old son currently gets an allowance of $12 per week. He has no fiancial obligations that he has to pay from this amount, this is just for "fun" things. He does a list of chores, together ...
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What to do with a teenage girl who won't stop lying?

I have a 16 year old I am raising...I am 29 and have a 7 year old son. She is my baby cousin...her dad had a stroke and is being taken care of by family in another state. Her mother abandoned her with ...
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Seventeen year old daughter wants to take an international trip to meet someone she met online

So, my wife and I are emotionally drained. Our daughter is 17. We live in Ontario Canada. She met a girl online that is 16 and she wanted to fly to California over Christmas holidays to see her. ...
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How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?

Unlike most of the teenagers, my 13-year-old niece doesn't care about her appearance at all. She does what is necessary hygiene - shover, teeth brushing - but not a bit more. She wears sweatpants and/...
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Unhealthy Teenage Relationship

My just-recently-turned 16 year old son has a girlfriend for 1 year now. They live a 1/2 hour drive from each other, so don't see each other much at all. However they talk everyday without fail online,...
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Do you give gifts to your child's teachers and caregivers?

My 16 year old wants to give her teachers Christmas gifts. She is in 10th grade, so there are quite a number of teachers. As a retired teacher, I do not think teachers need gifts. I would have loved ...
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Should I try to reconnect my 16-year-old daughter with her father?

My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart. She is against of having any relations with him. I was ...
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How to deal with an unsupportive parent

TL;DR My mother isn't supportive and she doesn't seem to understand me. My family life is miserable and I don't know what to do about my situation. I know I should probably see a counselor but my ...
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What is the healthiest way to approach my estranged 17-year-old son?

I have an almost 18-year-old son. He has lived with his narcissistic father for the past 16 years. My son and I had a good relationship until his father packed up our son at the age of 7 (without my ...
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Teenage daughter refusing to go to school

For the last term and a half our 13-year-old daughter has been refusing to go to school. This currently consists of not getting up, or not getting dressed, or ripping her school uniform so she has ...
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How can I positively affect my underage roommate? [closed]

Why I'm posting this here: My roommate moved out of his mother's and step dad's home at 17, lived in a social house for a few months, then moved in with me. He has very loose contact with them and I ...
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Parent breaking privacy 17-years-old

I have a 59-years-old father who is keeping coming in my room for no good reason looking at my computer monitor, trying to find something to blame me for it. If I'm coding, he says "Take care of your ...
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My girlfriend has mentioned disowning her 14 y/o transgender daughter

My girlfriend's 14 year old daughter came out to me as a girl on a bike ride when her mother wasn't there. I fully accept her and gladly refer to her by her chosen name ('Emily' for the purposes of ...
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How to make my 18-year-old son get a job while in college?

My 18-year-old son has just entered college as a freshman. He has a workstudy as part of his scholarship and he has been hesitant following up on job leads. Beyond baby sitting a few kids in our ...
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I just learned my 15 year old daughter has come out to her friends - should I say anything to her…OR to my wife?

This past weekend I learned that my 15-year-old recently came out to two of her friends. I learned this in a couple of ways: The two of us just traveled alone for a weekend, and she let me use her ...
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What do I do about my mom setting her expectations too high?

I recently turned 13, I'm in 8th grade, and my life is going pretty well. I'm getting straight A's in school, along with possibly getting a paper published in a legitimate mathematics journal. I also ...
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How should the parent respond when a teenager tells about their ended relationship?

http://www.eruptingmind.com/the-effect-of-parents-on-a-childs-psychological-development/ Or perhaps as a teenager they confided in a parent about the pain they felt regarding a relationship which ...

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