Questions tagged [teen]

Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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Teenage daughter refusing to go to school

For the last term and a half our 13-year-old daughter has been refusing to go to school. This currently consists of not getting up, or not getting dressed, or ripping her school uniform so she has ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

Before I start this, I just want to let everyone know that even though my parents can be completely clueless about parenting at times, I still love them very much, so don't go commenting that I'm "...
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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

I'm 24 years old and have full custody of my 16-year-old sister. She has been living with me for the last 3 years. I found out today, from her, that she has been lying to me about spending time with a ...
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My girlfriend has mentioned disowning her 14 y/o transgender daughter

My girlfriend's 14 year old daughter came out to me as a girl on a bike ride when her mother wasn't there. I fully accept her and gladly refer to her by her chosen name ('Emily' for the purposes of ...
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My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?

My son is a 13-year-old honor roll student. He comes home and has all his chores done by the time I get home. He is a great kid. He was hanging out with his friends; this group has been friends ...
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How to comfort my dad after telling him that I don't like to do anything with him?

I live with my dad and my grandmother. I don't live with my mother because several times she was caught doing drugs around my step sister. They split up when I was 6 months old. My dad and I don't ...
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Seventeen year old daughter wants to take an international trip to meet someone she met online

So, my wife and I are emotionally drained. Our daughter is 17. We live in Ontario Canada. She met a girl online that is 16 and she wanted to fly to California over Christmas holidays to see her. ...
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What do I do about my mom setting her expectations too high?

I recently turned 13, I'm in 8th grade, and my life is going pretty well. I'm getting straight A's in school, along with possibly getting a paper published in a legitimate mathematics journal. I also ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

About 3 weeks ago, my 16-year-old daughter got a speeding ticket for doing 46mph (74 km/h) in a 20mph (33 km/h) zone. (No, it's not a typo.) She was coming home after school with no place to be ...
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Should a parent delete a teen's social media account if it was handled badly?

My 15 year old daughter has created accounts with Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Tumblr and Wattpad, all without my knowledge, six months ago or more. After discovering her using a laptop in bed at 4am, ...
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Teenagers Ogling my Daughter. What to do?

As summer has arrived, my teenage daughter begins to wear shorts of reasonable length. What should I do when teenage boys around her age ogles at her? Should I ask them to stop or let them be? I ...
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How to talk to a teen daughter about her weight

My daughter is 16 and is gaining weight. My wife and I are on board with what needs to be done - and there's a lot to do. But as to talking to her about her weight, we are at a loss. She's an ultra ...
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Have I lost my daughter?

She's currently sixteen and I feel like I have lost her. When she was younger she used to be a sweet, caring and understanding girl, but then she entered middle school and everything changed. She didn'...
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How can I prevent my parents' divorce?

I am a young teenager, younger than 16. (I do not want to give my age online) My dad told me he wants a divorce, but I don't want my parents divorced. My dad says he can't stand my mom anymore. My ...
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My husband, who is my teen daughter's step father feels bad that he can't have a closer relationship with my daughter

Four years ago, I divorced my ex after 26 years of marriage. He was extremely manipulative and abusive. He kept track of every mile I put on our vehicles and had to explain if I was ten minutes ...
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Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?

A little background- my daughter has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or relationship and is in 8th grade. She has always been young for her age and had a tough time identifying with other girls and ...
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What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?

So the other day I walked in on our teenager and caught his girlfriend with her pants down. It is quite clear what they were intending to do. Now he claims he had no intention of having sex with her,...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

I'm 16, and I don't know what to do. My parents are controlling everything I do and watching everything I do. I think I'm going insane. I thought a counselor or psychiatrist could help me but it ...
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How should a stepfather respond to “You are not my Father!”?

So the situation is that I'm not the real father of my son. I call him my son since I love him very much, but he is my girlfriend's son from her previous relationship. I'm afraid though... He does ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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How can I teach a teenager to plan better and procrastinate less in his studies?

The teenage boy of my girlfriend is starting his first year of senior high school next September. As a gifted teenager, he does not do a lot but still gets good grades -- very good grades actually. ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

I have a 16 year old that loves to skate. However, skating will ruin your shoes, put holes in them and also the socks. My son is wearing the same shoe over and over again which has a big hole in the ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

My 12-13 daughter currently goes to bed at 9:00 PM but lately she's been asking to go to bed at a later time, like 9:30 or 10:00 PM. I know she'll be starting high school soon and might need a later ...
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How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

I'm a 16 year-old junior in high school. I often spar with my parents over the fact that I'm failing many classes. The issue, however, is not that I do not understand the material; it's that "failing" ...
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14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter wanting to have her girlfriend over. What to do?

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
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Why do I have negative feelings about my mother?

I am a 16 year old boy. My parents are divorced, my father didn't treat my mother well; he beat her and he thought she was cheating on him when she in fact never did. My mother tried to cope with him ...
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Helping teenage son to get over his crush

Our teenage son (17) likes this girl, but he allegedly doesn't have chances with her (*). While we do think that this is something he has to deal with himself, it did affect his mood visibly over the ...
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Why does my 16-year-old hate me?

My 16-year-old son says the most awful things to me. I feel he is deliberately trying to upset/provoke me constantly. For example, last night at the dinner table he said, "I am not going to try to ...
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What should I teach my teenager about condoms?

Let me preface the question by saying that I'm not asking this question in order to endorse or promote teenage sex. Even if my child wants to wait until he is married to have sex, as a parent, I still ...
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents

I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9). They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including: "Your father ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and PC-...
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I just learned my 15 year old daughter has come out to her friends - should I say anything to her…OR to my wife?

This past weekend I learned that my 15-year-old recently came out to two of her friends. I learned this in a couple of ways: The two of us just traveled alone for a weekend, and she let me use her ...
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I seem to have good talks with my 16 yr old son about his life but then he is texting his friend trashing me?

I caught my son smoking pot a few times and it was a daily deal. He had a real nice big room upstairs in our home that was private so I moved him downstairs closer to my bedroom. I have been ...
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How do you support/cope with your 15yr old daughter wanting to become a boy?

I'm going to give a quick history on this to support my question. When my daughter was 12, her & I moved to my hometown, where we already had friends and family that we are very close with. After ...
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How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?

How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want? The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
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Do parents of teens need to lock their liquor cabinet?

I had this debate with some friends who have older children. We keep our liquor in the cupboard above the fridge. When they get a bit older (still just 8 and 10) and could potentially be tempted ...
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What to do about the incestuous relationship between my daughter and her cousin?

I walked in on my daughter having sex with her cousin. They are both 14 years old. It happened in my sister's house in her double bed. I wasn't sure on how I should react but I told my sister and she ...
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How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?

Several of my good friends, including my best friend, are gay/lesbian/queer. All of them have told me that coming out was one of the most emotional and difficult things they've ever had to do. Their ...
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Ways to convince a teenager to quit smoking

I'm 23 years old and I have a sister that is very soon turning 17. She lives with my parents and I live abroad for a couple of years now. My mother noticed that my sister started smoking around 1 ...
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How do I tell my 14 year old niece that her mom is kicking her out?

I'm a 30 year old guy, and I'm single, never had a real girlfriend to speak of. My sister's first born is in some trouble and she has decided that her daughter cannot live with her anymore (there's ...
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My 13 year old daughter says she wants to be a boy. This is out of character for her. Is this a phase?

My daughter, 13, has said she wants to be a boy. A little background: we moved to a new state a year and a half ago. In her new school, she felt isolated among her peers until she met a girl in art, ...
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When (if ever) is it appropriate to spy on your teenager's texts?

I'm an active member of Android Enthusiasts Stack Exchange and recently came across this question by a parent, asking for advice on spying on his teenage (I'm assuming) son's texts without getting ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing. I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...
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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?

I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc. She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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What if my kids don't want me to speak my native language?

My children are raised multilingual; we live in Austria and they learn all their German from my wife and from the world around us. I'm Danish and I want my kids to know that language too, so since ...
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?

I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him. I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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Coping and overcoming a rational fear

On Friday my daughter was hit by a car while crossing the crosswalk to school. (Side note: she was released from the hospital and appears to be doing OK, but taking her to a Dr for a full eval ...
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I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?

I went to borrow bus fair from my sister this morning and found a small clear bottle with a small amount of marijuana and four mysteriously labeled, handmade pills in her change box. I don't know what ...