Questions tagged [teen]
Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.
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How can I prevent my parents' divorce?
I am a young teenager, younger than 16. (I do not want to give my age online)
My dad told me he wants a divorce, but I don't want my parents divorced. My dad says he can't stand my mom anymore. My ...
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My 13 year old daughter says she wants to be a boy. This is out of character for her. Is this a phase?
My daughter, 13, has said she wants to be a boy. A little background: we moved to a new state a year and a half ago. In her new school, she felt isolated among her peers until she met a girl in art, ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?
Before I start this, I just want to let everyone know that even though my parents can be completely clueless about parenting at times, I still love them very much, so don't go commenting that I'm "...
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How do I tell my mom that I am not Christian?
I have actually recently found a label for my religion (druidism). I am 15 and I actually established my personal beliefs years ago. I feel like a disappointment to my parents already because I'm ...
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How to talk to a teen daughter about her weight
My daughter is 16 and is gaining weight. My wife and I are on board with what needs to be done - and there's a lot to do.
But as to talking to her about her weight, we are at a loss. She's an ultra ...
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What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?
So the other day I walked in on our teenager and caught his girlfriend with her pants down. It is quite clear what they were intending to do.
Now he claims he had no intention of having sex with her,...
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How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?
How can you best handle this? Coming off as too strong and authoritative might invite "rebellion". Too lenient makes it seem okay.
What is the best response for driving home the dangers and risks ...
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How to restrain my 13-year-old pubescent sister?
Just to understand my position:
I, as her older brother (she is without father, 13 and I'm 24), have to sometimes act like her parent, because mom just can't restrain her, when she starts yelling or ...
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Do you give gifts to your child's teachers and caregivers?
My 16 year old wants to give her teachers Christmas gifts. She is in 10th grade, so there are quite a number of teachers.
As a retired teacher, I do not think teachers need gifts. I would have loved ...
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Teenage daughter refusing to go to school
For the last term and a half our 13-year-old daughter has been refusing to go to school.
This currently consists of not getting up, or not getting dressed, or ripping her school uniform so she has ...
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How can I teach a teenager to plan better and procrastinate less in his studies?
The teenage boy of my girlfriend is starting his first year of senior high school next September.
As a gifted teenager, he does not do a lot but still gets good grades -- very good grades actually.
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket
About 3 weeks ago, my 16-year-old daughter got a speeding ticket for doing 46mph (74 km/h) in a 20mph (33 km/h) zone. (No, it's not a typo.)
She was coming home after school with no place to be ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?
Several of my good friends, including my best friend, are gay/lesbian/queer. All of them have told me that coming out was one of the most emotional and difficult things they've ever had to do. Their ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl
My 12-13 daughter currently goes to bed at 9:00 PM but lately she's been asking to go to bed at a later time, like 9:30 or 10:00 PM.
I know she'll be starting high school soon and might need a later ...
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How should a stepfather respond to "You are not my Father!"?
So the situation is that I'm not the real father of my son. I call him my son since I love him very much, but he is my girlfriend's son from her previous relationship.
I'm afraid though... He does ...
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How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents
I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9).
They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including:
"Your father ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?
I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position.
I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and PC-...
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Ways to convince a teenager to quit smoking
I'm 23 years old and I have a sister that is very soon turning 17. She lives with my parents and I live abroad for a couple of years now.
My mother noticed that my sister started smoking around 1 ...
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My teenager son is addicted to video games
I am a mother of a brilliant 18.5 year old young man who is obsessed with video gaming.
This is a habit that has existed since he was 13 years old and was exacerbated when his severe chronic cystic ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?
My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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teenage child with severe daily temper tantrums and whining
My 13 year old daughter has severe and daily outbursts - sometimes as many as 10 a day - from time she gets up till time she goes to bed. This has been going on since she was of walking and talking ...
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13 y/o step-son wants to be a "furry"
My 13 year old step-son told his mother yesterday that he wants to be a "furry."
A couple days ago he decided he wanted to make a cat costume. I just shake my head most of the time when he comes up ...
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How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?
How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want?
The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed
I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing.
I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?
I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him.
I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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What if my kids don't want me to speak my native language?
My children are raised multilingual; we live in Austria and they learn all their German from my wife and from the world around us. I'm Danish and I want my kids to know that language too, so since ...
asked Feb 7 '13 at 6:52
Torben Gundtofte-Bruun
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?
Some background.
I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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Is 15 years old too old to ground for bad grades?
I have a 15 year old that has been grounded 60% of the time the past two years. Most of the groundings are around his grades or forgetting to do homework.
When he is grounded at first he buckles ...
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How can I deal with my son's refusal to go to school?
When my 13 year old son decides he doesn't want to go to school, it's difficult issue to negotiate, as I cannot force him to go to school. By this I mean, he is not a toddler and cannot be picked up ...
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15 year old daughter has a crush on a girl
So, I normally don't snoop when I go into my kids bedrooms. For some reason when I walked into my 15 year old daughters bedroom and saw a journal sitting there I opened it and read it. I realize I ...
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Do parents of teens need to lock their liquor cabinet?
I had this debate with some friends who have older children. We keep our liquor in the cupboard above the fridge. When they get a bit older (still just 8 and 10) and could potentially be tempted ...
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Teenage daughter and stepfather
I have a 16-year-old who has no respect for her stepfather. They hardly communicate and each time he says something she snaps or makes a stroppy or contradictory comment. He sometimes loses his temper ...
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Too many variables at play -- troubled "son"
So, here's the story.
My ex-girlfriend, whom I have an 11 year old son with, had a son before ours with a man who has never seen his son past the age of one. He's now 16. He grew up a generally happy ...
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How to deal with a bedwetting 13-year-old?
My 13-year-old son still wets the bed. Over the years we have tried alarms, medication, waking him up at various times, controlling his drinking, charts (behaviour modification). He hates it and wants ...
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How do I help my husband see that his feelings of being a terrible parent to his son are unfounded?
My 15-year-old stepson, who has recently moved in with his mother 4 hours away, has left my husband with feelings that he is a terrible parent.
My stepson was abusive - physically, mentally and ...
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I can't motivate my 13 year old twins to get school work turned in
We have tried grounding them, taking all their privledges away, we have tried reward systems and nothing works. They have started lying about getting the work done and turned in when they know we ...
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What to do with a teenage girl who won't stop lying?
I have a 16 year old I am raising...I am 29 and have a 7 year old son. She is my baby cousin...her dad had a stroke and is being taken care of by family in another state. Her mother abandoned her with ...
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What games are good to play with teens in the car?
I will be travelling with two kids aged 15 and 18 in a car this upcoming month, and I would like to play some games in the car with them.
I know the game where you look for different license plates,...
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Spending too much time with a parent causing strain on our relationship
I am going to start this question by stating that I am the child (17) in this situation and not the parent.
In September, my mum starting working at the school where I am studying, as my maths ...
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How can I help my 14-year-old daughter be less angry?
My daughter is 14. She is usually very good and not hard to cope with, but sometimes she gets very angry.
For example, when I take away her phone, or her sisters use her belongings, or she can't do ...
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Throwing parties for teenagers
Are there any overarching guides, strategies, or "best practices" in throwing birthday parties for teenagers?
This is something that I will have to do soon, and I have a few concerns:
Their friends ...
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Can my mother charge me money for not doing what she says?
When I don't do the washing up, or take out the trash, or whatever when mum asks, she charges me $10. I have a job, but am 17 living at home.
I am wondering if she is allowed to make up fines for ...
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My 13 year old son still watches Bob the Builder w/ 2 yr old bro and he's too old. How will he stop? [closed]
I have a 13-year-old son named Julian who watches Bob the Builder. This is inexplicable. He is not disabled except for autism, but he also chews a baby's teething ring. He also watches Disney Jr. with ...
