Questions tagged [tantrums]

Tantrums are emotional outbursts beyond simple crying, found commonly in stressed persons but mostly small children. In parenting, tantrums may relate mostly to toddlers but also apply to other age groups. Questions may be in regards to coping with, deescalating, preventing, or controlling tantrums.

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How to teach my son that winning is not everything and to lose graciously? My son cries when he loses and quits playing the game

My 5-year-old son cries when he loses a game. He gets impatient and throws tantrums and beats me when he loses. The same thing happens when he plays with his friends also. I have tried to teach him by ...
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What to do about my almost 5-year-old always having to be first in everything or else crying and fighting?

I have 3 children. The oldest one, a girl, is turning 5 in 2 months, her brother just turned 4, and the little one just turned 1. The oldest one will literally push her brother out the way to get in ...
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How to talk with my six-year-old

I have a six-year-old daughter who is almost never shy or afraid to voice her opinion, but there are times when she is just a bit much to handle. Sometimes she'll misbehave in public in a fairly loud ...
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Continually whining unhappy baby

We are having a problem with our second daughter. She is 15 months old and lately, (the last 2 months), she has just been inconsolable and whiny despite there being no obvious underlying cause. In ...
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How to control an angry and stubborn 5-year-old child?

My 5-year-old son demonstrates really bad behaviour which is embarrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn't listen to ...
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Where can I get help for my 13-year-old daughter whose tantrums get physical?

I have a 13-year-old daughter. She has had a tantrum tonight after her and her sister got in a little argument. My 13-year-old daughter got to the point where she got physical with my other daughter. ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

My 9-year-old stepson has terrible tantrums. I was abused as a child and used to act out as a result. Teachers and other adults were very hostile to me and failed to recognize my cries for help. So ...
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Is it normal for a 2-year-old girl to throw 30 min tantrums several times per day?

My 2-year-old daughter throws extremely bad tantrums that last at least 30 minutes. She's pulling her hair, throwing things, hitting, kicking, biting people, hiding under things. They happen about 1-3 ...
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How can I help my 14-year-old daughter be less angry?

My daughter is 14. She is usually very good and not hard to cope with, but sometimes she gets very angry. For example, when I take away her phone, or her sisters use her belongings, or she can't do ...
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How to stop my 4-year-old from having tantrums at preschool?

My 4-, soon to be 5-, year-old daughter has temper tantrums at preschool. She does not have them for me and has not had them for me for the past couple of years. I never fed her temper tantrums. It ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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3-year-old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3-year-old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jealous of the attention that her new baby ...
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Breaking 5 year olds tantrums [duplicate]

My 5 year old son has recently got into the habit of getting into these incredibly annoying tantrums. They start when he doesn't get his way and can often rumble on over a couple of hours. They ...
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How to tackle the screaming/tantrum of a 6-month-old boy?

My 6-month-old grandson wants to watch the the "VuVu" video while eating. So he starts to scream loudly and crazily, almost like e tantrum, just to watch that while eating. Any suggestions as to how ...
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How to deal with my 5-year-old son who has ADD/ADHD and constantly misbehaves?

We live in Texas. My child is 5 years old and an only child. I was a single mom up until 10 months ago. From the age of 9 months until 3 months ago I was the only one caring for and raising my child. ...
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What to do about my toddler wanting everything her way?

We have a 2.5-year-old daughter and we're fighting over everything. Literally everything. When she is alone with someone she is good most of the time, however when there are two of us with her, she ...
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What to do about my toddler who suddenly started screaming when I mention bathing or give her a bath?

I have an 18-month-old daughter. She loved having a bath from birth, and now all of a sudden she screams her head off when I mention bath or give her a bath. It's really stressing me out. I don't know ...
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Toddler won't swallow or spit out food sometimes

Sometimes around dinner my 21 month old toddler will eat reasonably well, and we don't try to force him to eat if he doesn't want anymore. He loves fruits, grains and meats and seems to tolerate ...
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How to deal with 5 year-old “homesickeness”?

Sorry in advance for my english, I'm not a native speaker. Some background: I got pregnant at 20 years old, while I was at the University. My partner was living back then 400 km away from us, so my ...
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My son cries for 30-45 minutes when told “No”

My son can cry all day when told no. It's very tiring and I don't know what more to do. Its an everyday thing with him. I try putting him in time out which is his bed and it gets worse . He ...
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How to get help for my non-verbal toddler who can get screamig fits?

I'm UK based and have 6 children: Child 1: female, has a formal diagnosis of autism, NF1. Child 2: male, has a formal diagnosis of Asperger's, also has other health problems. Both children present in ...
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5-year-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's displaying strong leadership traits. When he has his mind set on something, his ...
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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Suggestions for 16month old who cries horribly and bangs his head when put down for a nap

My son has never been good at going down for naps. But lately he is getting so bad that he sometimes skips them and I am also afraid he is going to hurt himself as he purposely throws himself at the ...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?

I have a 3-year-old, a 5-year-old and an 11-year-old who have just been the most exceptionally worst behaved children on this planet. Between the 3- and 5-year-olds, they backchat, break things, have ...
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How to keep a 21-month-old safe, who has learned how to climb out of his crib when angry?

My 21-month-old grandson lives with his Daddy, Nana, and me, Grandma. In the last 3 weeks he has started having temper tantrums. We used to put him in his Pack-n-Play, or crib for time out, but he ...
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Is it wrong for a parent to partake in screaming/dominating competitions with their kids?

I'm not the parent and I don't have any kids, so this is just based on what I observe. There's this mother who, when her daughter (about 3 years old) starts crying and making a fuss, she'll lose her ...
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How to react to my 9-year-old excessively pouting and trying to get away?

My son is 9 years old. I would describe him as emotionally immature for his age. He gets upset easier than other kids and tends to pout when he is especially upset about not getting his way. I do ...
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How should I deal with a 3 year old storming off and sulking over minor incidents

I have three children, a five year old, a three year old and a 10 month old baby. At the slightest thing, the three year old will get annoyed and storm off in a sulk. It could be anything from being ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

My wife and I have descended into the toddler years with our first. Along with that, she is getting that classic toddler attitude. We understand it's a growing phase and tantrums and outbursts are ...
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How can I stop my 5-year-old's violent tantrums?

I am a single mom to a very good 5-year-old little boy ... 90% of the time. About once a week, give or take, he has a meltdown and becomes violent (hitting, scratching, biting, throwing things, etc.). ...
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What's an effective way to deal with toddler transition tantrums (“I don't want to stop yet?”)

This isn't a question about what general incentives or methods of discipline work best. I'm looking for techniques specific to transitions, like when it's time to stop playing and go somewhere, etc. ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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How to help a 3-year-old with vicious temper to express his emotions in a healthy way?

My three year old boy (the middle of three boys; older brother is 9, younger brother is almost 2) is smoldering with anger pretty often. He flies off the handle at little things. I've dealt with a ...
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Does a child need to apologize and how should I react while it does not?

Our son is 6 years old and often quite "bullheaded". If something does not go the way he wants, he is very frustrated and quickly shows a tantrum, cries, screams and insults us. We then send him to ...
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How do I deal with my out of control 3-year-old?

My son will be 4 in a month, and he is very aggressive toward his brothers. He hits, kicks, bites them and takes their toys. He screams at my 1-year-old constantly when he touches anything or ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing. I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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how to teach persistence to 3 year old

My 3 year old daughter gets very frustrated when things don't work for her the first time. She seems to go from happy to crazy upset immediately. Is this a time-appropriate developmental thing? I ...
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3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration

Our 3.5 yr old (will be 4 in July) son has a real difficulty handling frustration to the point that it is driving me and my wife insane. Hardly a day goes by where we don't both end up in tears, ...
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Strategies to reduce computer game interest

We have a moderately strict rule about electronics time at the house -- as long as their homework, chores, or other responsibilities are finished, each kid gets to play a computer or video game for an ...
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3 year old tantrums in public

Yesterday we (wife, 3 year old son, 6 year old daughter, me) were at a mall. After we stepped off the moving pavement my son decided that he wants to go another direction, and pulled his hand out of ...
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How do I handle my toddler's temper tantrums?

I have a 19-month-old daughter. She is a very active child, and usually very well behaved. But in recent times I have noticed that she is constantly whining and also throwing temper tantrums - if she ...
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Any advice on how to react to my 4 year old who gets hysterical instead of solving her “problem”?

My four year old daughter has had this issue recently where if anything goes "wrong" she completely loses it. I put "wrong" in quotes because its the slightest thing and, in particular, its ...
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My wild 3.5-year-old - have I missed out on the key years of relationship-building and discipline?

I have a 3.5-year-old son. He's bright and energetic, but I'm worried about his behavior, since it seems out of control. He was walking at 7 months. His language has always been good - he knew his ...
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How to deal with tantrums in an 8-year-old child?

We have three boys aged 4, 8 and 10. The youngest and eldest seem to be fine and no issues, but the middle child is quite willful and having tantrums. It's like he never quite grew out of the terrible ...
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How to deal with a child in an “I can't” phase?

A 3 1/2 year old child has entered an "I can't" phase. He says "he can't" about things he really can do. It becomes hard to detect when to help or not help, because you're supposed to help children ...
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How can I make my travel schedule easier on my 5-year old?

I travel a great deal for my job. Most weeks I'm gone from Sunday Night until Thursday Night, and sometimes I'm gone through the weekend as well. I have two children, a 5 year old and a 3 year old. I ...
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How can I encourage my toddler to walk and not be carried?

My 2½ year-old is a very capable walker, but often he decides he just doesn't want to do it. Usually, when we go out, he goes in the push-chair. But sometimes he wriggles and screams until we are ...
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How to handle my 9-year-old's uncontrollable raging fits?

We have four kids: a 9-year-old boy, a 6-year-old girl, a 4-year-old boy and a 20-month-old girl. The 9-year-old boy is in general a delightful, well-behaved, kind and considerate boy. Sometimes he ...