Questions tagged [tantrums]

Tantrums are emotional outbursts beyond simple crying, found commonly in stressed persons but mostly small children. In parenting, tantrums may relate mostly to toddlers but also apply to other age groups. Questions may be in regards to coping with, deescalating, preventing, or controlling tantrums.

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Night terrors/ temper tantrums?

My 3 yr old niece is waking up in the middle of the night with screaming fits, screaming "help me", " I hurt", and her body goes rigid and starts trembling and shaking (like a seizure). She will ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

My wife and I have a 2 year old boy. He's very attached to my wife / his mom. He's typically happy to play on his own, as long as we're nearby. But if we go into the kitchen (next room over) to cook, ...
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Toddler struggling to adjust to new class in daycare

My 2.4 year old is struggling to adjust to his new daycare class, with him refusing to get into the car, crying when we leave the house, crying hysterically when I walk him to his class, hurting his ...
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How to teach a 4 year-old-child to handle tantrums?

My 4 year old son only accepts appreciation, he cannot accept "No,Don't..". A few neighbor kids came home to play with my son, he slightly tapped a 2 year old friend in his head, a 12 year girl who ...
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How to deal with toddler discipline and tantrums

Obviously toddlers have different behaviours so this is not an easy one size fits all question. So I am asking generically as opposed to specifically. Today I had to discipline my toddler for a very ...
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How to minimize 4 year old trouble with behaving when dealing with different gaurdians styles

I have a 4 year old goddaughter lives in another state, but I visit her every one to two months and when I visit I am often her primary/only care giver for the days I'm visiting, as her parents take ...
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4-year-old screaming at every occasion

We are a family of four, my wife currently attends teacher education which in relatively time consuming. Our two sons of 6 and 4-1/2 years are at the kindergarten in the morning and I care for them ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing. I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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Sudden onset of multiple tantrums a day in toddler

My two year old son has recently started with constant, unrelenting contrary/oppositional behavior and tantrums. I realize that saying "no" and tantrums are basically the traditional hallmarks of two ...
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Research on postpartum depression, child behavior and effective treatment?

My daughter experienced severe postpartum depression after her first birth. She took part in a PPD program and with treatment, she improved. Her son, now 9, has a history is extremely aggressive and ...
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink milk,...
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My wild 3.5-year-old - have I missed out on the key years of relationship-building and discipline?

I have a 3.5-year-old son. He's bright and energetic, but I'm worried about his behavior, since it seems out of control. He was walking at 7 months. His language has always been good - he knew his ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

I have a 5-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. My daughter is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all. Lately, she has started being violent ...
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How can I stop my 5-year-old's violent tantrums?

I am a single mom to a very good 5-year-old little boy ... 90% of the time. About once a week, give or take, he has a meltdown and becomes violent (hitting, scratching, biting, throwing things, etc.). ...
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How to deal with a child in an “I can't” phase?

A 3 1/2 year old child has entered an "I can't" phase. He says "he can't" about things he really can do. It becomes hard to detect when to help or not help, because you're supposed to help children ...
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How to tackle the screaming/tantrum of a 6-month-old boy?

My 6-month-old grandson wants to watch the the "VuVu" video while eating. So he starts to scream loudly and crazily, almost like e tantrum, just to watch that while eating. Any suggestions as to how ...
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How to control an angry and stubborn 5-year-old child?

My 5-year-old son demonstrates really bad behaviour which is embarrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn't listen to ...
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How to stop our 2-year-old's bedtime tantrums and make her sleep through the night?

Our daughter is approaching 2 and has consistently had issues with bedtime. At the mention of bedtime, she will regularly start crying (but still follows me upstairs to bed). In general, one of us ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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How would a caregiver go about advising parents regarding an issue with their child?

I am a retired 57-year-old woman who babysits my neighbor's 3-year-old daughter. I have kept her since she was 2 months old. Both of her parents work 4 days a week, 10 hours a day, with occasional ...
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How to react to my 9-year-old excessively pouting and trying to get away?

My son is 9 years old. I would describe him as emotionally immature for his age. He gets upset easier than other kids and tends to pout when he is especially upset about not getting his way. I do ...
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Our 5-year-old boy doesn't respond to timeouts, etc. What are some other methods of discipline?

Our 5-year-old boy loves to challenge us when we try to discipline him. We would ask him not to do something and he would go right ahead and do it. Eventually it escalates and he starts to scream, ...
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How to deal with tantrums in an 8-year-old child?

We have three boys aged 4, 8 and 10. The youngest and eldest seem to be fine and no issues, but the middle child is quite willful and having tantrums. It's like he never quite grew out of the terrible ...
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How to keep a 21-month-old safe, who has learned how to climb out of his crib when angry?

My 21-month-old grandson lives with his Daddy, Nana, and me, Grandma. In the last 3 weeks he has started having temper tantrums. We used to put him in his Pack-n-Play, or crib for time out, but he ...
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How to stop my 4-year-old from having tantrums at preschool?

My 4-, soon to be 5-, year-old daughter has temper tantrums at preschool. She does not have them for me and has not had them for me for the past couple of years. I never fed her temper tantrums. It ...
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How can I help my 14-year-old daughter be less angry?

My daughter is 14. She is usually very good and not hard to cope with, but sometimes she gets very angry. For example, when I take away her phone, or her sisters use her belongings, or she can't do ...
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How to deal with my 5-year-old son who has ADD/ADHD and constantly misbehaves?

We live in Texas. My child is 5 years old and an only child. I was a single mom up until 10 months ago. From the age of 9 months until 3 months ago I was the only one caring for and raising my child. ...
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How do I deal with my out of control 3-year-old?

My son will be 4 in a month, and he is very aggressive toward his brothers. He hits, kicks, bites them and takes their toys. He screams at my 1-year-old constantly when he touches anything or ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

My fiancé's nephew is 4 years old. He refuses to show respect and manners to adult figures; he constantly cusses (his favorite word is "wtf bitch", and he says it to me only.) He also constantly ...
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How should I deal with a 3 year old storming off and sulking over minor incidents

I have three children, a five year old, a three year old and a 10 month old baby. At the slightest thing, the three year old will get annoyed and storm off in a sulk. It could be anything from being ...
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How to handle my 9-year-old's uncontrollable raging fits?

We have four kids: a 9-year-old boy, a 6-year-old girl, a 4-year-old boy and a 20-month-old girl. The 9-year-old boy is in general a delightful, well-behaved, kind and considerate boy. Sometimes he ...
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How to react to an indecisive 2.5-year-old?

I have a 2.5-year-old son. It happens mostly when tired but I'll ask him if he wants something and he will say no. Then when I go to put it away or do something else, he freaks out that he wants it. ...
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How to get help for my non-verbal toddler who can get screamig fits?

I'm UK based and have 6 children: Child 1: female, has a formal diagnosis of autism, NF1. Child 2: male, has a formal diagnosis of Asperger's, also has other health problems. Both children present in ...
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How to help a 3-year-old with vicious temper to express his emotions in a healthy way?

My three year old boy (the middle of three boys; older brother is 9, younger brother is almost 2) is smoldering with anger pretty often. He flies off the handle at little things. I've dealt with a ...
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Is it normal for a 2-year-old girl to throw 30 min tantrums several times per day?

My 2-year-old daughter throws extremely bad tantrums that last at least 30 minutes. She's pulling her hair, throwing things, hitting, kicking, biting people, hiding under things. They happen about 1-3 ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

My 8-year-old son has ADHD and has been on the same medication for 3 years. Anytime he doesn't get something he wants, has to do something he doesn't want to do (homework, chores, stop playing his ...
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What to do about my toddler who suddenly started screaming when I mention bathing or give her a bath?

I have an 18-month-old daughter. She loved having a bath from birth, and now all of a sudden she screams her head off when I mention bath or give her a bath. It's really stressing me out. I don't know ...
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What to do about my toddler wanting everything her way?

We have a 2.5-year-old daughter and we're fighting over everything. Literally everything. When she is alone with someone she is good most of the time, however when there are two of us with her, she ...
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What to do about 13-month-old who cries and whines all the time?

My 13-month-old daughter was very well behaved up until about 11.5 months. I guess it's separation anxiety but I've come to a point where I don't know what to do. It's making me miserable, exhausted, ...
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3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration

Our 3.5 yr old (will be 4 in July) son has a real difficulty handling frustration to the point that it is driving me and my wife insane. Hardly a day goes by where we don't both end up in tears, ...
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How to settle crying toddler after nap

Our son cries up when his mom is not next to him and it will go on for hours and I eventually loose my temper but It is not his fault not mine fault, he sleeps next to his mother since he was born but ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

My daughter is 3 years and 2 months, she doesn't speak in whole sentences, just words or set phrases. She will scream when something goes wrong or if she's told no. For example, if she's playing ...
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What to do about my 3-year-old crying and throwing a fit about going to daycare?

My 3-year-old girl is really upset about going to our childcare provider. She starts off crying and then she screams, wets her pants, and runs off; it's horrible! She starts the night before by asking ...
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What to do about my almost 5-year-old always having to be first in everything or else crying and fighting?

I have 3 children. The oldest one, a girl, is turning 5 in 2 months, her brother just turned 4, and the little one just turned 1. The oldest one will literally push her brother out the way to get in ...
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What to do about our toddler fully regressing with sleep and acting out after we got a baby?

We have a 2.5-year-old child. Our toddler was colic for the first 6 months, then slept like a champ - seeming to make up for his past indiscretions as an infant ;) At 2 we transitioned him to a "big ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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Toddler misbehaves a lot less with dad, than with mom

My 2-year-old is misbehaving a lot less with me, than with his mom. He goes to bed without issues, stops watching TV when it's time for bed, no tantrums in the super market (mostly), no problems with ...
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How can I stop my two year old toddler from throwing/breaking stuff when frustrated?

My two year old son (only child) lately has developed a habit of attempting to throw/break things when frustrated. In most cases, it's something that belongs to us (the parents) -- like a candle ...
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My 10 month old has started scream crying because he can’t reach the shower drain during bath time - how can I get this to stop?

When alone with my 10 mo son at bath time, I place his tub in the shower stall, shower first, and then clean him. For the past couple nights, he’s suddenly started scream crying because he can’t ...
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3-year-old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3-year-old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jealous of the attention that her new baby ...