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How children learn how to interact with others, and techniques to help in that learning process.

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Moving to a foreign country with a 2.5 years old child

My wife and I are moving to a foreign country with our 30 months old daughter. The country we are moving to speaks a different language (German-we speak Italian) which my wife and I understand and ...
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What to do about my out-of-control 12-year-old daughter?

My 12-year-old daughter is a good kid. But when something doesn't go her way she calls me a bitch and cusses a lot. I take her phone away when she does that. She can be so good, but it's like turning ...
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Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?

My 4 year old niece is very sensitive to the tone of your voice and hates confrontation. She cries all out if she is scolded or if your tone is even remotely unhappy. I think she figured out that if ...
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How important is passing on our "heritage" to our child who is born and raised in a different country?

To avoid offending any country and going off topic, I'll call my native country "N"(for native) and the current country "C"(for current). My husband and I were born and raised in N, but we've ...
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Are children harmed by the awareness of their parent's sexuality and sexual activity?

My wife and I are having our first child this July and a conversation that we have now and then is the prospect of having sex with our baby in the room. I've read other questions related to this ...
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How do you respond to unfriendly parent volunteers at your kid's school?

I'm starting to believe it's due to the past year's issue that we had in my child's class. A kid bullied him, but it was never caught, so the teachers and this parent volunteer (that helped out in the ...
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How to get an 8+ month old acquainted with a grandparent after a rough start?

Our 8 month old son started being aware and wary of strangers since he turned 7 months old. We've discovered that the way to get friendly with him is to approach him slowly. Interact with him from ...
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Daddy daughter travel trip?

I have an idea that may or may not be a good one, so I am looking for a little advice. I have a daughter and son, 5 and 1 respectively. I have this pipe dream to save some money to take them on a ...
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What are effective strategies against social phobia?

Our 5 years old (in a month) daughter has excessive apprehension about being immerged in new environments with people (especially children) she doesn't know. Basically, she will cry her heart out ...
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8-month old terrified of new caretakers

My 8-month old will hardly let anybody "new" pick him up, or spend time with him if his mother or I aren't present. His current nanny and one set of grandparents (which have spent a lot of time with ...
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How to explain to a toddler why she doesn't have siblings?

My husband and I have decided not to have more children, which would make our currently 10 month old daughter an only child. While we obviously have our (adult) reasons for this decision, I am ...
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Kids do not want to play with my daughter

My daughter is 8 years old and in grade 3 now. She is such a cute and quiet kid, but she is not sporty. The problem is that at school, no kids want to play with her. This has been happening since ...
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Toddler is ignored by other person/child. Should I let her learn the lesson or should I step in and entertain her?

I have a 2-year-old toddler who is happy going and social. Our maid's 10 year old son came with her and sat in the drawing room. Toddler was playing nearby. I told her to say hello to the boy and ...
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What age to teach a child about fairness?

At what age do you or can you teach a kid about fairness? I helped my cousin watch after her 17 yr old and 11 yr old. I had to pick up the 17 yr old from softball practice. She hinted she wanted to ...
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Encouraging friendship with same-age children

We have a few family friends. Some happen to have all children about 5-6 years older than the oldest one here (so closest is 5 year old and 10 year old). I'm thinking we should not spend as much ...
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How to explain to kids why others have better things?

I recently read an article about how kids' birthdays are becoming a huge deal and a status symbol for both parents and kids, which leads to kids whose parent can not or do not want to throw lavish ...
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Evidence that kids from big families are happier and better-functioning

I have for a long time believed that kids with many siblings are happier and better-adjusted personally and socially, and that these outcomes increase with the number of siblings. Are there indeed any ...
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Is it normal for a 2-year-old boy to show no interest in social interaction and talking?

My 2-year-old son is very reluctant at playing with other kids and rarely even tries or shows any interest in other kids. He goes to the playschool for about a month now but it seems he still shows no ...
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How do you handle a child who enjoys getting others into trouble?

How do you deal with a primary-school age child (range 5-7) who enjoys getting others into trouble? Is actually alert for minor wrongdoings and likes to set other people against each other? Can be ...
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How do you help children resist social/peer pressure?

Peer pressure is a fact of life. Friends and classmates are generally strong influences in how our children develop their personalities, and potentially influence many significant decisions in their ...
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How can parents avoid making decisions based on nostalgia?

Recently I saw an article passed around that advocated for more free playtime: We went to school, but it wasn't the big deal it is today. School days were six hours long, but (in primary school) we ...
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How can a long distance parent boost an eight year old's confidence (custodial partner uncooperative/negative?)

I'm a long distance father to an eight year old daughter and a four year old son, whom I see on average most weekends. My daughter has periodically lost her sense of confidence, and recently has ...
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How does a parent cope with an opposing disposition to his/her own?

So I have never been one of those women that gets super dramatic or excited about seeing people (except for when my brother came home from the Gulf War). If I see the person regularly, I'm glad to ...
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My 3 month old daughter looks away from me

Whenever I look my daughter and try to speak to her, she always looks away from me but she doesn't do that with her mother. My wife is the one who usually take care of her since I have a full time ...
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At what age should a child's self-involvement begin to decrease?

I can recall the first five or six years of my life being glorious, well, what I can remember of them anyway. From what I recall, to me, the world was all about me. I was the center of it and I knew ...
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What are the outcomes of highly unusual community outreach to young children?

I can't think of a way to better title this question. My question is a direct response to a recent news event. You can read the article online. Here's the scenario: A child with a condition ...
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How do you teach children "Humility"?

I feel that my kids, after some persuasion, are capable when it comes to schoolwork, homework and other such skills. We have always identified good behaviour and let our son know when he has done ...
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Does pulling kids out of class for special help negatively influence them?

Are students who are pulled out of class for either remedial or advanced work negatively influenced either in their self esteem or in their social circles? How does a parent evaluate which is more ...
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Private school vs bad public school for a young child

I live in an inexpensive area (in the US) with a public school that is pretty bad by most measures (it gets low/failing rankings by most measures I can find online). I have a child who will soon be ...
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Three and Half years baby talking and playing in the class room alone due to less family support

Age of my sister's daughter is 3 and half years. From her berth itself she was very active and played with us usually. Last month my sister delivered a new baby and so our family members are very busy ...
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Is a parent expected to be emotionally and socially supportive for the child?

I'm 26, and feel the need to sort and process my childhood. I grew up in Norway. I have always felt a bit low, passive and lacking self-confidence growing up. I was polite, kind, and quite normal; I ...
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Do I have to worry about my 2-year-old son's social skill?

it might be nothing but since I am observant I came to notice a few things: my son goes to daycare 5 days a week, and it's been for more than one year, still he feels uneasy on Monday and cried a ...
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How to teach my people-pleasing daughter to balance between helping others and accounting for her own needs?

My younger daughter is a people pleaser. She always wants everyone else to be happy, often to her and her older sister's emotional detriment. She lets people take advantage of her generosity, buying ...
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Ways to interact with my kid

I'm living in Spain and my kid is with my wife back in Brazil for now (they will join me later). The hardest feeling I have is that I'm not interacting with my kid as much as I would like to, we try ...
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how do I help my 4.5 year old socially?

My son likes to play with other kids, but he's shy and will usually join someone else in their game and not initiate. That is fine with us, the problem is that English is his second language, and he ...
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How to deal with a 3.5-year-old who starts to cry when someone speaks louder to him?

My 3.5-year-old son simply cries when someone talks or gives commands in higher volume. He stops crying when I hug him again. But this is new behaviour in him. In school, staff informed me that he ...
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How to help a pre-schooler overcome sensitivity to social setbacks?

My son (3yrs 9 months) is bright and generally happy, but sensitive and sometimes acutely anxious. The sensitivity worries me a little for the future. If something in a social context doesn't go his ...
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social skill concern raised [closed]

I posted in January about my concerns of my boy's social skill and now we have a new development. My boy will be 3 this July, and his teacher in daycare spoke to my wife today raising a concern ...
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How to help our 6-year-old who is quick to anger but upsets others and himself?

We have a 6-year-old boy. He is generally lovely, bright, and easy to be around, but is often quick to anger when playing with friends and smaller kids (classic example is when he does not get his ...
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Are there ways to help a gifted child find a best friend?

I have a very sweet 7 year old son who is struggling with making friends and specifically he wants a best friend. He has opportunity to see kids often but cannot seem to click with anyone and really ...
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How do you balance time for playdates vs family time?

Both playdates and family time are extremely important to the growth, maturity, and well being of children. That being said how do you balance playdates and family time given the limited time we have ...
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Should I be worried my daughter is in a bilingual kindergarten class?

Today was "Meet the Teacher" and my 5 year old daughter has been placed in a bilingual kindergarten class. My husband speaks Spanish and I speak English. I was happy, but then I started asking ...
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What can I do to help an 8.5 month old become more outgoing

When she's at home with family members, she's fine and happy - crawls on the mat , plays with toys, smiles, etc. When we take her to a Gymboree class, where kids are free to climb and play with all ...
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How can I teach my daughter to wait to speak?

I have 2 daughters, a one year old and a four year old. The four year old will often call for me when I am speaking to someone else or watching a news show, interrupting me. I already tried to ...
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The human moments - the bigger picture

Not a specific situation, but how do you help your child with the moments in which either 1. You've made a mistake, or 2. Someone else in their life has, that affects them. Again, not about the ...
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How to help a shy 6-year-old make friends?

I have a 6-year-old son. He's the oldest, and we moved from the US to the UK three years ago. He's in Y2 (second grade), and is one of the younger children in his class. There are 35 kids in his grade/...
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Should young children be kept away from a depressed relative if the latter ignores them?

I have a brother who suffers from depression. He is in his late twenties, is unemployed, has almost no social life and lives by himself. Every other weekend for a day, I have him over at my house ...
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Should I discourage my son from talking so much?

My 5 year old son is very extroverted, and loves to talk to anyone and everyone. Sometimes, this feels problematic. For example, he engages waiters and waitresses in conversation, which frequently ...
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Trilingual child: How to make toddler more confident to speak third/local language?

Our son is almost 3 and speaks decent Spanish (my language) and French (father's language) for his age. We have been using one person one language. But at childcare he practically does not speak the ...
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Me too! My two year old daughter want to drink and eat everything I do!

I have a lovely 28 month old daughter who talks and walks very well for her age. Currently she is in the phase that she wants to have everything I or my wife grabs out of the fridge or storage. If I ...