Questions tagged [siblings]

Siblings describe any two or more family members with a common parent or are adopted by and live under the guardianship of the same parent.

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5-year-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's displaying strong leadership traits. When he has his mind set on something, his ...
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How to explain to a toddler why she doesn't have siblings?

My husband and I have decided not to have more children, which would make our currently 10 month old daughter an only child. While we obviously have our (adult) reasons for this decision, I am ...
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How does one help the third child have activities of “his own?”

My nephew has two older sisters. One is heavily active in soccer and gymnastics, while the other is in Karate, basketball and dance. Both girls have tried other activities as well and always do well ...
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Ways to respond to younger sibling asking for help to cheat

How should one respond to a younger sibling asking for your help to cheat? Lets say a high school exam. How responsible is an older sibling for the younger sibling's decision to cheat? Where would ...
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Evidence that kids from big families are happier and better-functioning

I have for a long time believed that kids with many siblings are happier and better-adjusted personally and socially, and that these outcomes increase with the number of siblings. Are there indeed any ...
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One parent and two children at bedtime

Our personal situation is two boys, ages four and a half and two and a half, although I imagine answers to this question could be generalized. Bedtime in our home is usually between 6:30 - 8:00, and ...
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How can I mediate intense sibling rivalry?

My daughters, aged 6 & 3-and-a-half, go through phases of intense rivalry. I generally hold an attitude of not getting involved, but sometimes the fight either requires intervention as tempers ...
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Is it OK for my 16 year old son to watch my 10 year old daughter at home alone while I'm at work?

I don't always have an option for a babysitter. They are both out of school and my son is very mature for his age. Am I wrong for allowing them to stay home alone being that they're both under the age ...
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How to discourage toddler from playing rough with infant sister?

We have a 2 year old and a 6 month old. We like to give the younger sister time on her tummy to learn how to crawl, but often while she is on the floor her older sister will come harass her. The most ...
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How is my relationship with the siblings of my kid with special medical needs?

I have 3 kids. Boys ages 9 and 7, and a daughter age 4. Early in her life she was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder that has been causing varied complications in her life. Her mental capabilities ...
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6 year old daughter's friend chronically mean to my 7 year old daughter

My 7 and 6 year old daughters (Alyssa and Alex respectively) are very loving, caring and generally considerate toward one another. Notwithstanding normal little spats and being highly competitive and ...
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How to implement natural consequences to make an 8-year-old stop being rude to a sibling?

I have an 8-year-old son, a 6- and a 2-year-old daughter. My son is a model student but really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and ...
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Older sister grabs whatever her younger sister holds

My 5yo daughter is getting so jealous of her 2yo sister that she grabs everything that the other picks up (it can be anything from worthless plastic bag to newspaper) and throws a fit. Now her sister ...
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How to lessen a depressed teenager's absences?

Some context Dad died unexpectedly on 2014 and mom was murdered on 2017. This has caused a myriad of problems for us. It's just me (26) and my brother (16) left so I have to to be a parent figure to ...
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How can I encourage my 3-year old daughter to respond to her younger brother's affection

My daughter is 3.5 years old and, naturally, sometimes has tantrums, gets upset and frustrated, and wants a hug. Her brother (22 months) adores her and, imitating us, will often try to hug her or give ...
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How can I encourage my teenage sister to have political efficacy?

My teenage sister recently began telling her friends that she would like to study law in college. I would like to help her become more assertive, confident, and have increased participation in ...
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How to make my 2-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daugther is nearly 6 years old and my son just turned 2. How can I make my son stop hitting and biting and throwing things at my daughter? Should I let her deal with him on her own or step in?
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Should I encourage siblings to compromise and collaborate?

Often when there's a chance to do something special as a family -- say, watch a movie together, or bake some cookies -- we let the three kids decide exactly what we are going to do. For example, they ...
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I don't feel accepted at home

I'm a 13-year-old guy and I have a 9-year-old sister. We've argued for as long as I can remember, we argue about 5 times per day. My mum and dad can't take it anymore. I try my hardest to be nice to ...
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How to react when two toddlers fight over the same toy?

Your children are playing happily. Suddenly, you hear them yelling and notice that they both grab on to the same toy and fight over it. You don't know who "had it first" and, thus, has some kind of "...
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giving birth at home— how to deal with an older child?

we're expecting our second child and -- as with number one -- we're planning on staying at home for child labour and birth. I have a good midwife and there's no medical reason to go to a hospital. ...
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How do I discipline a 14-year-old girl without pushing her away?

I have a 14-year-old sister who my grandmother and I are gaining custody of. I don't doubt my grandmother's ability to take care of and discipline my sister the way she should be, but she and I are ...
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My three year old wants everything my five year old is playing with

My three-year-old wants whatever my five-year-old is playing with. He will throw a tantrum if he does not get it, and we find ourselves relying on his older sister to diffuse the situation by "being a ...
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How should I handle “he/she told me to do it” excuses from siblings?

Sometimes (too frequent for my liking) when questioned "Why did you do this 100% prohibited or simply boneheaded thing", my 6- and 8-year-old kids' response is "he/she - pointing at the sibling - told ...
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How can we help my 7-year-old brother stop wetting the bed?

I have a 7-year-old, younger brother. Sometimes, he wets the bed. He wants to stop doing this, but he says he can't control it. He doesn't even know when he does it. Does anyone have any advice on how ...
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How to deal with sibling/child who doesn't contribute and is stressing out their parents whom they live with?

Context/Story I have a sibling who's stressed/saddened their parents whom they live with, with their lifestyle. Communication is poor to nigh non-existant between parties involved. (1 parent felt ...
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What to do about my almost 5-year-old always having to be first in everything or else crying and fighting?

I have 3 children. The oldest one, a girl, is turning 5 in 2 months, her brother just turned 4, and the little one just turned 1. The oldest one will literally push her brother out the way to get in ...
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Is it better for siblings to meet at a young age?

My children are 3 and 18 months, their siblings from another father are 6, 7 and 8. They have never met each other. Is it better for them to meet now or to wait until they are teenagers or adults? ...
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Do my parents hate me?

I think my parents hate me. They love my younger brother who is three years younger than me ( I am 18 ). They appreciate whatever he does. They appreciate whatever he says. Even when I say something ...
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How to make my 15-year-old daughter want to meet her 39-year-old sister?

Background 39 years ago, a good friend and I had sex and she got pregnant just before I went into the Navy. After three months, I came back from boot camp. I found out she also had slept with my best ...
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How to make my 11-year-old sister study more math when even violence doesn't work?

My sister is about 11 years old. She listens to everyone around her except her family. She believes that we don't care about her. Since my family was extremely busy with jobs, we did not focus on her ...
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Will a 12-18 month old understand a baby is on the way?

My first son is 12 months old and I'm expecting another child who will be born when my son is 18 months old. My son is fairly verbal for his age. He understands phrases like, "Put the ball in the ...
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How to tell my mother that the way she handled my little brother's try to hurt a kid disappoints me?

My little brother is 7 years old, and he along with two other kids were on our trampoline out back. The girl who was with them is 8 years old and told my brother to push the other boy off the ...
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When to introduce a half-sibling?

My wife and I divorced. Ironically, our relationship now is better than before the divorce. We have a son (5) who lives with my ex. He is not entirely aware of our situation. We split when he was ...
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How can I help my mother realize her harmful behavior towards my brother?

My 20-year-old brother has some bahavioral problems which cause significant stress to me and my parents. He is short tempered and can not take suggestions even when politely expressed. He turns ...
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Older sibling demands more attention

So our little guy turned 2 today. We took him and his 4.5 year old brother out to breakfast and the zoo. After nap we opened some presents and played for a bit. After dinner we did singing and cake. ...
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Watching movies 7yr old and 5yr old

The two are practically inseparable and we have what seems like an unsolvable dilemma: we want to allow the 7yr old to watch, for example, Star Wars but feel it's not adequate for a 5yr old. How ...
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How can we train a toddler that shares a room with siblings to sleep without disturbing the others?

My four children share one room. My first three children I sleep trained by using the cry it out method (I know this is controversial on this site but it worked for me). We did sleep train the ...
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What are the best approaches to dealing with 3-year-old's copying of older sibling's illness symptoms?

It's probably a well known fact that younger kids tend to ape their older siblings. Generally it's possible to handle in variety of ways and isn't that big of a deal. One way where I'd like some ...
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How to make a 3.5-year-old stop deliberately waking up her 1-year-old sister?

We've got two daughters of 3.5 (B) and 1 (L) years, respectively. B's behaviour is sometimes a bit reminiscent of what was described in someone else's earlier question. The particular issue/situation ...
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How to make a 3-year-old stop hitting her 8-month-old brother?

Recently, my 3-year-old daughter started hitting her 8-month-old baby brother. It started a few weeks ago, and is getting more and more common. So far everything we've tried, we've been unable to ...
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Younger sister blackmailing parents

She's currently 16. She won't listen to a word my parents have to say. When they ask for the phone, since she's glued to it 24/7 and her grades have plummeted, she won't listen. She knows how to get ...
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How can I get my children to develop a half sibling relationship

I have an 11 year old daughter, and her dad and I have been divorced since she was 5. I met a man when she was 7 and him and I eventually moved in together. We have had a son who is now 1.5 years old....
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Is it normal for the first born to show aggressiveness and jealousy towards a second born?

Our daughter is two and half years old. Today, I was joking with her that her mother was pregnant again with a second child. Then our daughter stood up in front of us and started to make angry sound, ...
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Which pitfalls should I watch out for when dealing with my half-sister who hasn't been aware of my existence for 25 years? [closed]

I've been adopted at early age and have no recollection of my biological parents. My adoptive parents have told me at a young age that I was adopted. Because this fact became integrated into my life ...
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What to do about my son constantly hurting and using demeaning words to my daughter?

I have a 6-year-old son and an 8-year-old daughter. She is constantly being pinched, pushed, shoved, kicked and her hair is pulled by him. This is amongst a consistent flow of put downs and always ...
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How to deal with older sibling taking after the younger - toddler?

We have a lovely 4,5 year old boy who's learned to be independent in many daily activities (e.g. eating, getting dressed up, taking a shower (supervised)...). Until recently he's generally been acting ...
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Activities that can engage two children of difference ages

I have two sons aged 6 and 3. I am separated from their mother but I have them 2/3 weekends and half of school holidays. My eldest son has some behavioural problems, he isn't coping with the ...
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How to make our 18-month-old twins stop biting?

I have 18 months old twin girls who recently started to bite, both their sister and us. It's not like when they were teething, it's an aggressive move. We've tried to talk to them explaining that it'...
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8yo has crazy mood swings and gets mad over nothing [closed]

My 8 year old sister gets crazy and starts crying over "nothing". My parents agree that this is a problem, but they have no clue what to do. Luckily I know about SE :) I'm not sure if this is on-...