Questions tagged [siblings]

Siblings describe any two or more family members with a common parent or are adopted by and live under the guardianship of the same parent.

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Is having a sibling better for a child?

We have several friends who have two or more children, while myself and my wife only have one. Often when we visit them, it seems that the conversation always turns to, "When are you having your ...
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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

My 4 year-old daughter keeps saying to her mom that she doesn't like/love her, and refuses to retract the comment or say sorry. Is this "normal"? A "phase"? It's pretty hard for mom to take. For ...
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Son chooses what my daughter chose then gets upset he doesn't get it

We have a nearly 5 year old boy and a 2 year old girl. Our son has gotten in the habit of, when we ask them both to choose something, waiting for his sister to choose then immediately choosing the ...
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At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
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How do you address sibling rivalry?

My children (7&9) always seem to be trying to get each other into trouble. The frequent sniping, digs, put-downs, and exclusion cause me concern. Many times the fighting comes down to a control ...
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What is the least problematic age difference between siblings?

We have one young toddler daughter and are pondering when (and if) she should have a younger sibling -- and what age difference might work best for both of them. For many (most) parents, what works ...
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?

I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him. I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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At what age should siblings stop sharing their bedroom?

Currently we have one bedroom for our two daughters. Until what age can they share their room?
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How do I cope with my toddler's jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister?

We had 2 adorable twins in January. Our older daughter is jealous of them and our life has become a nightmare. How can we address her jealousy and improve our situation?
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What are some ways to get an older sibling to give a younger sibling a little space?

We have 2 daughters - a 4 year old and a 1 year old. Our 4 year old daughter will not leave our 1 year old daughter alone. It is nothing malicious or intentionally mean, but it feels like we should ...
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How do I handle when my step kids parent buys them everything they want?

My fiancee and her two daughters (8 years old and 4 years old) live with me and my two sons (7 years old and 10 years old). Six people is quite a houseful :) The girls' father sees them once a week ...
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Why do some parents have a favorite (or least favorite) child? How can this be avoided?

Playing favorites with one's children is clearly a moral grey area at best...so why do we do it when should be treating all our children equally? I'm a personality psychologist by training, and ...
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How to help 3-year-old stop playing so hard with 1-year-old?

My 3.5 year old son most of the time loves his 1 year old sister a lot. However, he can get very aggressive in playing with her, sometimes treating her more like a doll than a person. Examples ...
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At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop sharing their bedroom?

Comments on this question suggested a companion question about opposite-sex siblings. We had our son and daughter in the same bedroom till age 7. We moved things around last weekend, not because any ...
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How do you you encourage siblings to share their toys?

I have 1yo and 4yo boys and it's very usual that the elder child takes away toys or doesn't allow the youngest to play with the toys, arguing that all the toys belong to him. We tried to explain to ...
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Between parents and marijuana smoking sister

I live in the UK with my sister, who has been smoking marijuana for about a year now. I have known for a large part of that time. She smokes relatively often, however not enough that it's a major risk ...
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How do I explain the difference in responsibilities and privileges between the oldest and youngest child?

"It's not fair, why can't I do/have it as well?" This must be the recurring question that annoys me the most. Why can't the youngest do or have the same things as the eldest. Why does the eldest have ...
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How do I deal with rude or uncooperative siblings?

This is a bit of a tricky one but here goes: I'm in my mid-twenties and (for various reasons) currently live at home with both parents, my 15 year old sister, and my 17 year old brother. I regularly ...
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When my kids don't get along; what are some options besides punishment that can be effective beyond 5 minutes?

I have an 8-year-old daughter and a 5-year-old son. Sometimes my kids get along great, but like most sometimes they clash. I've been trying to work on substitutions to my usual model of rewards and ...
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One of two children invited to a mutual friends birthday party

Our family has just combined and moved to a new town a month ago. We have three children, a 13 year old boy and 10 and 9 year old girls. The 9 year old is my daughter and the 13 and 10 year olds are ...
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How can I help reunite my mother and little brother?

So the title says it all, but let me give you a short rundown of what has been going on. My parents are divorced and have been for 15 years now. They live relatively close to each other to make life ...
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4 year old steals toys from baby brother

My nephew (Alex) is turning 4 in one week, and his little brother (Ben) is 10 months old. When Ben was born, Alex loved him to death and would do anything to help us with him, bringing him toys and ...
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How do you keep playtime stimulating for an older sibling?

This is actually the opposite of a previously asked question I'm doing fairly well with the 4 1/2 year old and the 20 month old sharing. But there are times that the older child wants to do things ...
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How much ipad time do most kids get? [duplicate]

I'm a mother of 2, ages 3 and 10. I am worried that my youngest child is spending as much time, sometimes more time, on the iPad than my eldest. The iPad seems ideal when I am busy and the kids are ...
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How do you pass hand-me-downs to a younger sibling without fostering resentment?

A recent blog entry that I read discussing hand-me-downs made me wonder about what it must be like to a younger sibling who receives the bulk of their clothes and/or toys as hand-me-downs, recycled ...
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How to make my 16-year-old sister stop biting me, when my parents won't get involved?

I'm 19 and have a 16-year-old sister. When I was laying on my bed minding my own business, my sister, who was still angry over something, came over and bit my hand. Like really bit my hand, which left ...
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How to read one book to two children on different levels at the same time

We have 3 children so they outnumber us. Part of our bedtime routine involves book time. Once upon a time, this meant Mr. Dad reads to one kid and Mrs. Mom reads to the other. That's not really an ...
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What can help prepare a 15 month old for the birth of a sibling?

My son is 15 months old and we are expecting a girl in 7-8 weeks. We have started talking about "baby sister" and we talk about baby sister's chair, car seat, room, etc. I know he doesn't understand ...
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What are good ways to begin preparing a child for a new baby?

I have a 4 and a half month old, so this won't be applicable for a while, but I would like to raise my son with the idea that he won't be an only child forever. I want my children to have a good ...
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4 year old giving “bad advice” to his 16-month old sister

Our 4 year old son has gotten into the habit of giving his 16-month old sister "bad advice". Some examples: At dinner, she pushes her plate away. He'll start egging her on "push it off the table! ...
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What can I do to prevent two well-behaving siblings from turning into a maelstrom of destruction when combined?

“Yeah!” said James enthusiastically. “I don’t mind sharing a room with Al—Teddy could have my room!” “No,” said Harry firmly, “you and Al will share a room only when I want the house demolished.” (...
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Building a better relationship between half siblings for a more unified home?

My step son is 5. He's still struggling with the seperation of his parents. We have all been trying to reassure him in this home that he is loved. His father takes him for outings, sometimes, due to ...
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?

I have two granddaughters, one turns 12 in August, the other is 10 years old and is small for her age (she was a prem baby). Her parents are divorced since the older child was 5 and the dad has a new ...
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What should we be considering when adopting a sibling for our 4-year-old son?

I have been wanting to adopt a child for some time now, and my wife and I are now trying to arrange things in our life to make it possible, such as trying to get out of debt so we can afford it and ...
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Introducing a newborn to my 2 yr old

My wife and I have a 2 year old little girl. We in the upcoming weeks will be having a new addition (another girl) added into our home. We want our 2 year old to embrace her new little sister, love ...
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Why not let a toddler share a bedroom with a baby?

We have a 2-year-old daughter and now we expect a baby in November. After the initial few months, when the newborn will be sleeping in our bedroom, we could put both children in one room together. ...
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How can I make learning English fun for my 14-year-old sister?

I have a 14-year-old sister who goes to school. Our education system teaches students only how to read English and at the end they really have trouble writing, listening to, and, of course, speaking ...
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Siblings learning differences

I have 4 children, two of them 14 months apart (ages 3 and 4). The 3 year old can recognize all his letters and numbers and can do initial sounds. The 4 year old can as well (not quite as surprising,...
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How can parents prevent middle child syndrome?

A child can develop Middle Child Syndrome when feeling left out by the family. It can easily be caused by parents being too involved with the older and younger siblings and not making enough time with ...
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My 6-year-old has angry outbursts, possibly related to a newborn sibling. How can we help her?

Our six-year-old daughter is the eldest of 3 girls: her sisters are 3 years, and 3 months respectively. At varying points during the day she will flare up with rage; the triggers can be play-related (...
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What do we do with the elder sibling during our baby's delivery?

As professor Farnsworth would say it, "Good news, everyone; we are expecting a baby." My problem is to find a place to leave the elder sibling during delivery. We moved to a new place, where we have ...
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How to handle copycatting?

My six year-old son has gotten in the habit of copying his little sister. It feels like he is taking her behavior as cues to what is acceptable, but the act of copying itself (and usually ...
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How to make our 3-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daughter from a previous marriage was 8 when our son was born. Pretty much since the day he could move he has been hitting his sister with his hands or objects, biting, scratching etc. He is now 3 ...
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How to read to a 4-year old and a 2-year old at the same time

I often have to do the bedtime routine for our two children on my own (they go to bed at the same time). They each choose a book and I read to them together, but the older (4 years) frequently ...
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Encouraging older brother to play with younger brother

I have two children, 33 months and 14 months old. They're both tall for their age, very physical types; climbing, running, etc. They both like to play with vehicles of all sorts, balls, ride on ...
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How do I deal with my out of control 3-year-old?

My son will be 4 in a month, and he is very aggressive toward his brothers. He hits, kicks, bites them and takes their toys. He screams at my 1-year-old constantly when he touches anything or ...
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How to stop 5-year-old hitting?

My 5-year-old sons' behaviour has deteriorated over the last 9 months but mostly in the last 4 months has it been more noticeable. He will hit and lash out at both myself and my partner's children ...
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How to deal with jealous and stubborn twin girls?

I have 19mo old twin girls. Recently we have been noticing a change in their behavior to each other. They are jealous to each other about getting our attention. Whenever we are near, they fight with ...
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When the new baby arrives how do you help the oldest sibling adjust? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: How do I cope with my toddler’s jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister? Sibling rivalry will occur, but there must be preventative things that can be done to help the ...
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Arguments for/against same birthday for siblings?

My son is born on October 1st three years ago. My wife is pregnant again and the calculated delivery date is October 22nd. Both children are boys, 3 years apart. We might end in a situation where the ...