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The child's performance at school, how school rules/situations/other issues may affect the child, etc.

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Teenage daughter refusing to go to school

For the last term and a half our 13-year-old daughter has been refusing to go to school. This currently consists of not getting up, or not getting dressed, or ripping her school uniform so she has ...
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Should I allow or forbid my son to visit the education of a religion that I do not share?

I'm an Agnostic. When the topic comes to religion, I try to explain to my seven-year-old son what religious persons believe and why I don't share that belief. Until recently, he shared my scepticism. ...
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Should I buy my college child a vehicle when I can afford to or make him earn it on his own?

I never got things handed to me growing up. I know what it means to have something. To earn something. I also want the best for my child. I want to provide a better life than what I had. What's a ...
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My daughter's friend faked having cancer - our daughter found out via Facebook and is devastated. What do we do?

Our daughter Angela (not her real name), who's 15, showed us a Facebook message she received from her friend Lauren (not her real name), who's 15, it said basically that Lauren had been faking having ...
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What's the motivation behind school uniforms {or} Why can't my daughter wear a dang princess on her shirt? [closed]

I just registered our daughter for Kindergarten at a school that has amazing ratings online - Great Schools ranks it at a 10/10 (for whatever that's actually worth, I'm not really sure). So I'm super ...
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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?

Suppose father XXX holds a college degree, usually comes home late and suddenly one fine day, stays at home. He lost his job. His son sees this happening. The father is a hard-working man, always ...
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How can I teach a teenager to plan better and procrastinate less in his studies?

The teenage boy of my girlfriend is starting his first year of senior high school next September. As a gifted teenager, he does not do a lot but still gets good grades -- very good grades actually. ...
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How much should you buy for your child to keep up with their peers?

How should you go about balancing the possessions you buy for your child against peer pressure from other children (particularly at school) and parents? Many parents feel the need for their children ...
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The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?

The school has assigned The Hunger Games as a literature reading assignment for my 11 year old. I read the books and enjoyed the ride, but feel the brutality is too much for this age group, in this ...
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How to encourage children to do their homework?

I'm pretty sure no children like doing the majority of their homework. As a child, I resented it deeply because I felt that once I'd left school, I should also have left schoolwork. So I have every ...
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Why do I have negative feelings about my mother?

I am a 16 year old boy. My parents are divorced, my father didn't treat my mother well; he beat her and he thought she was cheating on him when she in fact never did. My mother tried to cope with him ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old son being allegedly caught cheating at school

My son, 12, is a good student who always gets A's. He takes his schoolwork very seriously and does his homework on time. Today I received a shocking call from his teacher that he was caught cheating....
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What should I consider when deciding whether to homeschool my child?

This is an often-controversial topic, one where it's easy to find conflicting or misleading information. What are the important points to consider when making the decision to enroll in a mortar and ...
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What are some options for helping my child continue learning while schools are closed?

My children will be home for a few weeks (at least) while schools are closed due to the Coronavirus/COVID-19. What are some good strategies or options for helping them continue to learn while at home?...
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How do you handle a teacher that teaches pseudo science?

It is not uncommon, that some teachers or schools introduce pseudo-science, like creationism, as a part of curriculum. Given that it is hard to change school quickly, how to deal with such situation?
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How to deal with a 6 year old who was “caught” cheating?

This is regarding my son who is 6 years old and is studying in Grade 1. We got a call from his class teacher that he was caught "cheating" during dictation assessment. Actually, we revise the words at ...
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How can I convince my child to write?

Recently my child(3.5 Years old) has joined a pre-school class. A couple of months passed and he participated in all types of activities and events. He has also learned oral words. Sometimes feel he ...
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What can be done to help bright children stuck in a boring school?

My kids (grades 2 and 4) are very bright and very active. The traditional school setting does not seem to be working for them. This is evident by their perpetual visits to the principal's office for ...
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Autistic child constantly mobbed by other children - what can be done?

The autistic child (Asperger Syndrome, age: 12) is constantly mobbed by other children, both in school and on the way home. It includes calling him names, mocking, showing faces, pushing, threatening, ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...
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How can I help a child who won't talk to anybody at school? Selective mutism

Although I am not a parent, I am interning in social work. I am currently working with a student in an elementary school who does not speak. The parents have explained that she does speak at home (I ...
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Where is the line on helping with homework?

Here's something I know a lot of parents with school-age children struggle with. What's the line between "helping" a child with their homework versus out-and-out doing it for them? At what point is ...
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How to restrain my 13-year-old pubescent sister?

Just to understand my position: I, as her older brother (she is without father, 13 and I'm 24), have to sometimes act like her parent, because mom just can't restrain her, when she starts yelling or ...
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At what age should my child start schooling (formal education)?

What is the best age to start schooling for my kid. In India, some start schooling at 3 few at 4-6. So, I just want to know what is the age come out from research which is the best age for schooling. ...
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How should I respond to a child asking to have as much spending money as her friends do?

When a child has some close friends at school, but some of them come from relatively richer families, so they get maybe twice my child's pocket money, how should I answer when he complains and asks to ...
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How to make a 6-year-old stop being too competitive for his own good?

My colleague's 6-year-old son has just started elementary school. He is a bright boy, however, very competitive, so much so that he started resisting going to school, even attending any activities, ...
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What do I do about the fact that my child can already read, write and do math before entering Kindergarten?

My nearly 6 year-old son is going to first grade next year. He's already reading quite fluently and writing. He does basic math (without writing). He has great sense of humor, and he loves to make ...
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What do I tell my child about her Learning Disability?

My daughter is 10 years old. Shes in the fourth grade. She was held back this year because she is having difficulties in Math and English Language & Arts (ELA). She was suppose to go into fifth ...
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How can I handle a situation with a faulty, cruel teacher that does not like me and takes it out on my child?

Let me start by offering to explain my situation. It is a lot more challenging to handle than the title presents, so I should definitely elaborate, then I'll ask my question. My child is in 1st ...
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Should I send my child to Kindergarten early?

My 4 year old daughter desperately wants to go to "big kids" school like her big sister. She's currently in preschool now and seems to enjoy it. She's bright enough that she should pass all the ...
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My eldest is aware of “an f-word” but doesn't know what it is, should I tell him?

My eldest son is 6 years old. He's mentioned a few times that there are boys in the playground who "know what the f-word is" (his words). He knows it's a bad word and not to be said, but doesn't know ...
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How do you evaluate schools before a cross-country move?

Unfortunately, for those of us in the US, the school our children attend is determined by geography. So, before choosing to accept a far-away job offer, or selecting a home in a new region, we need ...
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How should I react when my child is being teased at school?

If I have a child who is consistently made fun of at school, what should I do to help my child learn to cope, ignore, or respond to the situation. What should I do to help prevent the situation from ...
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What are the pros and cons of having an advanced student skip Kindergarten?

I have a 5 year old boy who is supposed to start Kindergarten in the US this year. He is advanced in many academic areas already, and we are worried he would be bored in Kindergarten. He is reading ...
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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?

My 9 year old girl is currently going through a phase where she isn't getting her homework done by herself. I'm trying to find the right balance between encouraging her to get her homework done, yet, ...
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Is it better to send your child to school with lunch, or lunch money?

I remember my school cafeteria food as being, well, not what I'd consider "food". At the same time, I know how hard it is to consistently pack lunch as an adult without getting bored with the same ...
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How do you decide when it is time to change schools?

My son's school is not a good fit for him. I want to move him but minimize the disruption. When is the best time (grade) for boys to change schools? EDIT: "not a good fit" = not responsive to his ...
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Are same-gender classrooms better for girls, or mixed-gender classrooms better for boys?

I've heard that girls learn better in an all-girl classroom setting, but that boys learn better in a mixed boy/girl classroom composition. Is there any statistical evidence that this lends merit to ...
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How can we make the most of Parent-Teacher consultations?

We attend parent-teacher consultations once a term and we sometimes come out feeling as if we've just received the the boilerplate script. Little X is doing fine, reaching all appropriate milestones ...
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Classmates choosing soccer tournament over my sons birthday party

After kindergarten class my son started first grade this fall in a new class, which was a mixup of children from the previous kindergarten classes. There are 15 boys and 10 girls in the class. 10 of ...
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How should a child respond to peers who ask about their adoption?

Our child has always known they are free to ask about the circumstances of their adoption and we have always given open, honest, age-appropriate answers. However, this "free to talk" attitude may not ...
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How do I accustom my students to interact with children of a higher economic class?

I recently took my two high school students to a physics laboratory at UCLA where they could work on a lab project with other high school students. My students are minority students from a low-income ...
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I can't motivate my 13 year old twins to get school work turned in

We have tried grounding them, taking all their privledges away, we have tried reward systems and nothing works. They have started lying about getting the work done and turned in when they know we ...
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What are some documented objections to the montessori methodology of education/parenting?

I married into a family that is incredibly steeped in Maria Montessori's methods and teachings to the point where my mother-in-law has taken extensive trainings and is considered one of the more ...
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16yo works TOO MUCH?

We have a lovely child who is very motivated in their schoolwork. They are getting straight A's, and are loved by all their teachers. They are autistic, and it seems that schoolwork is their new '...
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Does the Montessori method allow a child to choose the same lesson every day without guidance?

My 7-year-old daughter goes to a Montessori school. For at least 3 months now, she has been choosing the same lesson every day. There have been new lessons given by the teacher, but it seems the level ...
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My child doesn't want to be seen in public with me… what should I do?

I drive my 10 year old child to school each day. However, lately he has been complaining about my dropping him off at school. He says it is embarrassing to be seen being dropped off by his father, ...
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How can I help my son be more independent with his homework?

I'm concerned because my son didn't do the work he's given from school. The work is tough but I think the problem might only be in one of his classes. I pushed him today to do the homework he's ...
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How can I deal with my son's refusal to go to school?

When my 13 year old son decides he doesn't want to go to school, it's difficult issue to negotiate, as I cannot force him to go to school. By this I mean, he is not a toddler and cannot be picked up ...
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Are netbooks appropriate for school age children?

So, my school gives kids who do well and turn in all of their homework in 5th grade a laptop. I'm not sure what I think of this, me being raised that computers should be kept in public areas so as to ...