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Questions related to the topic of giving rewards in the home to either children or parents.

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What are tested ways to teach kids about self-discipline?

I have made my 6.2-year-old kid aware of the experiment on delayed gratification (+ video) and its results. It seems to have worked. Now we write what she wants to buy and associate possible (days) ...
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How to get over self-consciousness when using praise and positive reinforcement?

I feel quite bad about this, but I often don't praise my 4 year old son for good behaviour because I feel self conscious about it. I am not entirely sure why, but I feel awkward around saying "good ...
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What to do when an 8-year-old is not motivated by rewards?

When I want to get something done by my 8-year-old, I offer rewards for that activity, but still the rewards don't motivate him to do that task. The rewards are something that he loves the most, for ...
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Occasional Gift or Daily Reward?

TLDR Is there a valid argument for not giving a child a present/reward daily or am I thinking to hard about this and it is perfectly fine to give a child a daily present/reward? So my daughter ...
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5-year-old $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5-year-old brother's Lego messes. Good or ...
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Should we use a smiley chart to reward/punish our toddler?

Possible Duplicate: How to operate a successful “Star Chart”? Our nanny came up with an idea today to create a sort of table for our daughter, where they would draw a sun or smiley ...
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How do you operate a successful “Star Chart”?

So, one of the techniques for improving behaviour that you often hear about is the "star chart". You put the focus on good behaviour by adding stars (I nearly said "badges") for the good stuff and ...
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Getting out of rewards for what kid does

My 6-year old, 1st grade son started taking some language classes past August. This is a language we speak about 50% of the time home. These classes are pretty tough, teach reading, writing and ...
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Reward system for toddlers + older kids?

I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. We have a basic reward system where you get a star for basically any behavior we want to reinforce (sharing, hygiene, trying new foods, etc). 5 stars gets you a ...
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Why should children be rewarded for good behaviour?

I have been reading about star charts and other reward systems for children, and wonder whether rewarding what I would call normal behaviour (e.g. do your chores, don't hit your little brother, etc) ...
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What are the good approaches to gamify for kids of elementary school age?

Obviously, the kids of, well, my age are suckers for reputation points and badges. What are the good approaches as far as rewards for kids elementary school age if you want to incentivize them via ...
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Should I praise my oldest child infront of their siblings?

Sometimes my oldest(8yo) shows good character and leadership in choosing not to do what she knows she should not do. I know her other siblings(6yo,3yo) look up to her. I have been praising her ...
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Is rewarding hard work for chores with money necessarily a bad idea?

Growing up my parents had a system where harder chores like mowing the lawn, shoveling the driveway, and vacuuming meant that you got more money in your allowance every week. It worked great for our ...
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How do I teach a younger child to wait, or earn, future reward?

I have a very stubborn, strong headed 3 year old. How do I teach him about earning privileges? I hope I do a good job explaining myself... For example, I don't want to give him a treat (present, tv ...
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What potty training goals should I use for my son's reward chart?

We've promised my 3 year old son an aquarium for when he completes potty training. Progress has not been as good as we'd like (he pees on the potty almost every day, but has only pooped once). Our ...
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How to get children to participate in housework without using reward/punishment

This is sort of an exploratory question, as I haven't really been confronted with the issue (yet). I've been looking around for ways to get kids to do chores. I'm a bit put off by the fact that ...
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Credibly backing out of a condition for a reward

My five year-old son has been having behavior issues at school. To encourage him to improve, I promised to take him out to a movie whenever he had a full week of "greens" on the behavior chart his ...
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Looking for a daily/weekly chart that awards a child's behavior and Chore completion

Currently I'm trying to create on in excel, but I'm wondering if I'm re-inventing here. I would like the option to customise the chores and behaviors and the rewards and assign different score values ...