Questions tagged [relationships]

This refers to relationships between a child or group of children and other children, their siblings, or their parents. This could also refer to a relationship between parents in regards to the rearing of a child.

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My partner let my children be around a pedophile

My partner and I have been together for years and we have 2 sons! His mother and father owned a house with their friend and lived there with him for 20 years and in those years this man had been ...
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?

I have been married for over 20 years and have been a stepparent for all of these years since my stepdaughter was just 3 years old. My husband's ex-wife despises my husband and myself and has always ...
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Son 22 asks me how to deal with a friend with benefits, so that she does not get hurt [closed]

So my son is seeing a girl as of a couple weeks ago. They go out salsa dancing a lot, which both like, and take salsa classes together. He told me he made it clear to her that a relationship is not ...
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What to do when my 3.5-year-old says “I don’t love you, I love mommy.”?

Recently, my 3.5-year-old daughter started saying, “I don’t love you, I love mommy.” Also the same phrase with "like" instead of "love". It’s killing me to hear her say that. But, I know she’s little,...
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I'm getting distant from my father

I'm 25 years old, my parents got divorced when I was 22 years old. I've been staying with my mother since. My father has moved out and lives quite far from me, so occasionally about once every 2 weeks ...
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Are my parents to break my relationship apart?

I am 19 years old, and am currently in a relationship. My parents can't seem to understand the fact that I am now old enough to make my own decisions and to know right from wrong, that I have the ...
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When the three year old tells two unmarried, unrelated adults to hug and kiss goodbye - What then?

I baby sit a three year old regularly. When I leave he is asked to choose between a hug and kiss, a high five, or a fist bump as a way to see me off. So, the other morning, when his Dad was leaving ...
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How do I make a decision about a precedent for my child going to sleepovers?

My daughter is seven and has been invited to her first sleepover by a classmate. My experience (Male ango saxon) is that I grew up going to sleepovers from age 7 to age 18 so I think it's normal. ...
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Single parent having behaviour issues with son (11) not wanting my partner around

My son is 11 and I have been single with him since he was 1 aside a few short-term relationships. His nature is that he wants to please, however he is also a strong character that can ben quite ...
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How do I explain to my five year old daughter that I am seeing someone?

My daughters father and I broke up 2 years ago. I am now dating a wonderful man who I am very happy with, but I am not sure how to explain this to my five year old daughter. She is very good friends ...
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Should I continue to allow my ex extra visits with his daughter when he is so unhelpful to me?

I am a single parent (no family around to help) and I have been struggling to raise my daughter alone. I'm also having problems with my ex. Holding down a job is difficult due to constantly calling ...
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How do I tell my 13-year-old son I am his biological father?

I have a 13-year-old son and now that his mother and I get along well, we want to tell him that I am his biological father. I had an on and off girlfriend at that time and when we were off I met my ...
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Mother won't let me buy a new car (cultural clash in parent-child relationships)

I am 37 years old male, married with kids (5,3,1). My parents are from the Indian subcontinent but I have lived in the US for most of my life. I have always been very close with my mom, ever after ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?

I'm trying to decide if I should intervene and would very much appreciate some feedback. I am Japanese btw and my English may not be perfect, sorry. My son and his best friend are both 13 years of ...
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“Mommy doesn't like daddy” - What to do about my 4-year-old daughter crying for 20 min everytime I pick her up from my ex-wife?

I have had a shared parenting agreement for nearly 2 years now for my soon to be 5-year-old daughter. She switches houses every other day during the week and every other weekend. This has been going ...
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What to dow when my 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand?

My 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand. Holding his dad's hand has been drilled into him since he was able to walk as a safety thing and I assumed as he got older he would not want to anymore,...
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Boy Crazy at Seven

My seven year old daughter is fascinated with boys already and has 28 of them lined up to "marry" her. She flirts like crazy and frankly, it is amazing to watch how she can get these boys to do just ...
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I fled my emotionally abusive husband, leaving my children. I returned but they don't want to know me

My husband and I married 18 years ago. He suffers from a particularly difficult personality disorder which has become more pronounced with time. We have five children, aged 8 - 17. As he became more ...
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Discipline and how to properly address a 7yr old with behavior/stubbornness & crying for everything

I have had this issue with my girlfriend's daughter, mind you I have been with her for approx 3 years and I seem to have a discussion on how her daughter does not obey or respect what she is told or ...
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My 4 year old daughter doesn't love her Dad and sometimes rejects him

My daughter (4) is very close to me. She wants everything from me, and I certainly do her whatever she wants (within limits), however sometimes I tell her ask her Dad to do. When she does ask him, ...
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How to deal with a 4 year old child who doesn't like parting with his friends?

Our 4-year old son is unpacifiable when it comes to saying bye-bye to his friends after playing. He would cry like anything and doesn't mind lying on the street, adamantly not wanting to part with his ...
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How do I tell my 9-year-old son that my now ex husband is not his biological dad?

I'm in a situation where I became pregnant with the wrong person and decided to raise my child by myself. Since before his 3rd birthday the biological dad disappeared and hasn't had anything to do ...
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How to become closer to a religious parent as a non-religious child

My mom is a devout Christian, and she holds tightly to her beliefs since that is what kept her hopes up when she suffered a kidney disease. Since I was a child she has always tried to get me more ...
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What are effective strategies against social phobia?

Our 5 years old (in a month) daughter has excessive apprehension about being immerged in new environments with people (especially children) she doesn't know. Basically, she will cry her heart out ...
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How best to take advantage of a child's extended vacation

This is a little more complicated than it might seem, so I'll give some back-story. We have 2 kids: The oldest, 11, was born to us during my first year of college, and I was only intermittently in ...
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Father of my children wants to live together and have more kids, but does not want to commit to me. What should I do?

My first child was an unplanned pregnancy, and before he was born, his father and I decided to try living together. After our son was born, he told me he wanted to have more kids, and when I asked if ...
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Allowing teen daughter to take two day trip with her girlfriend?

My daughter is 17. Her girlfriend is the same age. Long story short, my daughter asked me today if she could take a camping trip with her girlfriend before the school year started. The camping grounds ...
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How to handle a mother who is becoming unkind to the adult child?

I am in the low 30s and my mother used to be very kind and caring but in the last decade she turned out almost the total opposite. She has a much better wealth then she used to but her attitude ...
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Should I try to reconnect my 16-year-old daughter with her father?

My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart. She is against of having any relations with him. I was ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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How can I ensure my 14-year old's safety on a major trip away from home?

Brace yourselves, it's going to be a long one... I hope this is an acceptable question here; if not I wonder if the Interpersonal Skills board might take it? TL;DR: My 14-year old daughter wants to ...
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How can I mediate intense sibling rivalry?

My daughters, aged 6 & 3-and-a-half, go through phases of intense rivalry. I generally hold an attitude of not getting involved, but sometimes the fight either requires intervention as tempers ...
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How is my relationship with the siblings of my kid with special medical needs?

I have 3 kids. Boys ages 9 and 7, and a daughter age 4. Early in her life she was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder that has been causing varied complications in her life. Her mental capabilities ...
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Can living with my father be a detriment to my ability to parent and be a father figure for my own children?

My parents are very from an Asian culture where family is very important and parents are always meant to be close and respected. That is why when I got married they insisted that my wife and I come ...
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8-year-old girl very keen on her uncle and not on her aunt, a matter of age?

My wife and I are in our thirties. She is the "godmother" of a nice 8-year-old girl (her sister's single child). As her husband, she has become increasingly interested in me lately (I'd say since ...
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19 yr old niece lives with us and is upsetting family relations

My 19 yr old niece has come from overseas to study, and lives with us. I have two small sons, and my niece one minute loves them the next minute shuts them out. She has come from a not so loving ...
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How to get my 1-year-old child to like me?

My 1-year-old son likes his mom a lot. He never wants to leave her side and this is kind of a problem for her and sort of for me. She has to do domestic work but he doesn't like to stay with me. It's ...
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How do I tell my father-in-law that I don't feel comfortable kissing as a greeting?

I grew up in a family that usually hugs to say hello after not seeing each other for a while. I don't feel comfortable kissing anyone apart from my husband. After we got married, my father-in-law ...
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My parents never believe what I have to say or believe in me (trust issues around amount of effort being put into schoolwork)

I admit I did not do well at my first year of exams at A level... but I have changed it around and I am working so much harder than I have ever done! I also have a girlfriend who I see once a weekend ...
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Handling husband’s 15-year-old daughter with Reactive Attachment Disorder

Two years ago, I met my husband. We are both in our 30s. He’s been married before. I have not been. He has a teen daughter from a relationship he had in college. The mother of the girl abandoned the ...
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Family stress due to unemployment, ways to help my family?

TL;DR Dad's unemployment causing a lot of stress on my mum, who works a few part-time jobs and also manages the household. I want to offer help, but now sure how to. I want to know ways to alleviate ...
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How can I encourage my 3-year old daughter to respond to her younger brother's affection

My daughter is 3.5 years old and, naturally, sometimes has tantrums, gets upset and frustrated, and wants a hug. Her brother (22 months) adores her and, imitating us, will often try to hug her or give ...
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How do I get my parents to let me vacation by myself?

I'm planning to take a vacation next month. Since I started planning for it, my parents have continually expressed doubt and concern and generally interfered in the plans. They want to know where and ...
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How does a parent cope with an opposing disposition to his/her own?

So I have never been one of those women that gets super dramatic or excited about seeing people (except for when my brother came home from the Gulf War). If I see the person regularly, I'm glad to ...
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Seeking research on possible outcomes for children who are overly criticized

I did a search & can't find what I need. I need reading material on what the likely outcome is for a child who has been overly criticized. Someone very close to me has 3 kids, 2 are grown. It ...
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Family wants my 2.5 year old daugter to visit my declining grandmother

My grandmother is currently sick and at hospital. Basically, she has Alzheimer's disease and she has not much time left. The last time I saw her, a few weeks ago, she was very thin and not able to ...
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As a father, how to improve my relationship with our 2-month-old baby?

My son is coming to 2 month+. I have been doing the housework (pooping, bathing, wet cloth cleaning, feeding and etc, laundry). I still fail at putting the baby to sleep after feeding and can't ...
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How can I fix our relationship after falsely punishing my son?

I am a bad father. I punished my son for something he did not do as it turned out that his friend broke the china plate. Because I punished my son he did not get to go to his favorite band's final ...
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Suggestions for a father daughter activity that explains me omitting my son [duplicate]

I have a set of twins.. A boy and girl who are 5 years old. I love them both equally and want to have some one one time with each of them.. My son and I go for a haircut every month (or so), and we ...
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My father just gets mad when there's a problem instead of trying to resolve it

I think it's best to tell the story before asking the question. I live on my own now and my dad said I could have a spare bed he has. I didn't ask he offered. I am very grateful for this, beds cost a ...