Questions tagged [relationships]

This refers to relationships between a child or group of children and other children, their siblings, or their parents. This could also refer to a relationship between parents in regards to the rearing of a child.

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My girlfriend has mentioned disowning her 14 y/o transgender daughter

My girlfriend's 14 year old daughter came out to me as a girl on a bike ride when her mother wasn't there. I fully accept her and gladly refer to her by her chosen name ('Emily' for the purposes of ...
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My wife wants a homosexual child

We are planning to have our first child in about a year. My wife is very much into raising them genderless (or "post-gender" style) while my take on it is that we should raise them in a non-...
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How to respond to 17 year old daughter going out with a 25 year old man?

I have just found out that my 17 year old daughter is going out with a local 25 year old. I feel the age gap is way too big at her age. We're in the UK, so it's perfectly legal. He does seem a very ...
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Four year old started calling me by my first name. Is this problematic?

My four year old daughter recently started calling me by my first name. She's only doing this to me, not her mother. I found this to be a little strange and don't want to encourage it for practical ...
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Is it bad being a “bad influence” for my younger cousin?

First some background information: I am a young woman in my early 20s, I lived alone since I was 18 relatively far away from home. I graduated top of my class and I am studying and working in IT. (...
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My 21-year-old adult son hates me

My adult son, who is 21, expects me to do everything he wants. He takes no responsibility for his actions, instead always finding a way to put the blame on me and or others. For example, he brought ...
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What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?

So the other day I walked in on our teenager and caught his girlfriend with her pants down. It is quite clear what they were intending to do. Now he claims he had no intention of having sex with her,...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

I'm 16, and I don't know what to do. My parents are controlling everything I do and watching everything I do. I think I'm going insane. I thought a counselor or psychiatrist could help me but it ...
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My partner's pregnant with her second child (my first) and shows no emotions. How can I help bring that excitement out of her?

I'm a 32-year-old man expecting my first child in September. I imagined having my first would come with all the joys of that experience. My partner already has a son of 2, who I've taken as my own ...
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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

My 4 year-old daughter keeps saying to her mom that she doesn't like/love her, and refuses to retract the comment or say sorry. Is this "normal"? A "phase"? It's pretty hard for mom to take. For ...
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How to tell my parents I want to marry my girlfriend

Background info I'm a 20 y/o guy living with my parents in the Netherlands. When I was 16, I unintentionally met an American girl online whom I fell in love with and we have had a great relationship ...
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My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her

Alright, I guess a little back story would help. I am a single mother and an only child, I will be 21 in a few months. I've graduated high school with honors and have been raising my daughter on my ...
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Helping teenage son to get over his crush

Our teenage son (17) likes this girl, but he allegedly doesn't have chances with her (*). While we do think that this is something he has to deal with himself, it did affect his mood visibly over the ...
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I don't want to be a father [closed]

I feel awful about this, but I can't keep my silence about it anymore. I'm a 25 year old man. I am a piano teacher and have a lot of entrepreneurial/artistic dreams and goals. I met a girl about two ...
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I just learned my 15 year old daughter has come out to her friends - should I say anything to her…OR to my wife?

This past weekend I learned that my 15-year-old recently came out to two of her friends. I learned this in a couple of ways: The two of us just traveled alone for a weekend, and she let me use her ...
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How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity?

How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity? I asked this question here Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which needed to be ...
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What to do about the incestuous relationship between my daughter and her cousin?

I walked in on my daughter having sex with her cousin. They are both 14 years old. It happened in my sister's house in her double bed. I wasn't sure on how I should react but I told my sister and she ...
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Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?

Your son is 27 and due to financial problems, you've invited him to move home. His 30 year old girlfriend is coming to stay. Should you oppose them sharing his double bed during her visit? This ...
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When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?

I'm afraid to let my children get into relationships(i.e. girl-boyfriendships) too early just in case it did them no good. At what age would it be safe to allow our children this liberty?
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Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out

Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her. I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents ...
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How can we help our son deal with his girlfriend's emotional issues?

So our son is only 15, but he has fallen pretty heavily for a girl who apparently comes with a lot of "baggage". She comes from a broken home and is constantly having issues. Our son spend a lot of ...
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Parent's in law who can't be trusted to baby-sit want to - how do we figure this one out without hurting them?

My in-laws have tried to give our baby who is only just beginning to eat solid foods, candy, soda, and other adult foods because they think it is funny to "irritate daddy and mommy." My daughter has ...
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My 15-year-old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend who is a drug dealer

My daughter is 15 and her boyfriend is 17. They are having sex and I'm not sure if I want her to. On top of that, her boyfriend is a drug dealer, but she thinks that he is cool because he makes a ...
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Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc

She's getting in very deep very quickly with a boy who has been in social care a fair bit over his life and has anger management issues, she's not even fully part of our household yet. Please help (...
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How should the parent respond when a teenager tells about their ended relationship?

http://www.eruptingmind.com/the-effect-of-parents-on-a-childs-psychological-development/ Or perhaps as a teenager they confided in a parent about the pain they felt regarding a relationship which ...
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How to go about regaining the trust of my child?

After divorce, the mother got custody of our now 12-year-old daughter. The mother has committed at least 9 (provable) acts of transgressions indicating active application of parental alienation, ...
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Can a Stepfather and Stepson relationship work well?

I am in relationship with a woman with a 6 year old son. I entered his life when he was 4 and so far we have had a very close relationship. He seems to listen to me, enjoys activities with me, and ...
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How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?

I just found out that my daughter wrote in her diary that she loves a boy - and she is only 10 years old. How do I deal with the situation? How do I discipline her?
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Why does my mother expect me to behave like others and herself?

I am 30 years old married. My mother (50 years old) keeps on telling me that *"Your cousin didn’t have problems with that then why are you having problems with the same thing/situation!"* *"I (...
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Unhealthy Teenage Relationship

My just-recently-turned 16 year old son has a girlfriend for 1 year now. They live a 1/2 hour drive from each other, so don't see each other much at all. However they talk everyday without fail online,...
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How to stop parents from interfering with my love life?

Well - I am not entirely sure if this is the right forum, but if you know any, I would really appreciate if you could recommend me some. This is about parenting... from the son's perspective. I am ...
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Physical affection around young children from previous relationship

How do you introduce young children from a previous relationship to the idea that you are becoming seriously involved with a new person? I am dating a woman with two little girls, 2 and 4 years old. ...
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How to help 3-year-old stop playing so hard with 1-year-old?

My 3.5 year old son most of the time loves his 1 year old sister a lot. However, he can get very aggressive in playing with her, sometimes treating her more like a doll than a person. Examples ...
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What to do about our 2-year-old attaching to another parent?

Our 2-year-old child just started preschool and is attaching to other kids' parents. Stuff like: Wants to hold the other parent's hand, but not ours; gives the other parent a hug at pick-up from ...
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How to help a seven year old with unrequited love?

My son turned seven two months ago, and will begin his second year in elementary school after this summer. Yesterday he received a love letter by one of his class mates, a girl of the same age. She ...
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Confused 5 year old

My daughter who is 5 and usually very happy and loving recently told my husband and me she wanted to shoot us and run to Noni. After talking with her, we later realized this anger is directed at me. ...
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Should a 6 year old's grandmother be kept away if she is abusive to her father?

My daughter loves her grandma and the feeling is mutual. But on occasion when my mom comes to visit, she loses her temper and she starts yelling at me. Sometimes my daughter overhears this despite my ...
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Does reunification therapy work with 15 year old?

I'm going to provide more detail than maybe is needed to narrowly answer the question, in case it's relevant, and to solicit any broader advice which the moderators will allow. If it is TMI, you can ...
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My 16-year-old daughter has new personal items she hides - how can I make her to be more open?

I am a single mother of one 16-year-old daughter and I am very attentive to how my daughter develops as a person. We both work on it with constructive approaches. But from time to time I discover in ...
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How do I stop hiding things from my overprotective parents?

My parents are...protective. For context, I was 18 before I was allowed to go to someone else's house without their parents being home, and 12 when I was allowed in the back yard alone. ...
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How can I help reunite my mother and little brother?

So the title says it all, but let me give you a short rundown of what has been going on. My parents are divorced and have been for 15 years now. They live relatively close to each other to make life ...
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How to help parents cope with me moving out

Let me preface by saying I'm not entirely sure if I'm asking this in the right place and I'm very emotional right now, I apologize if my post is in disarray or if this question is not within scope of ...
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My 3 year old daughter has stopped speaking to me when her mother is around. How can I improve my relationship with her?

I have two kids - a nearly 7 year old boy and a just turned 3 year old girl. For the past 12 months, my 3 year old daughter essentially refuses to speak to me unless it suits her: When she comes ...
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Helping a child cope with a parent's relationships

First- if anyone has a better title suggestion after reading this feel free to edit. I had a hard time formulating a brief description. My oldest son is the result of a failed relationship that ended ...
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My partner let my children be around a pedophile

My partner and I have been together for years and we have 2 sons! His mother and father owned a house with their friend and lived there with him for 20 years and in those years this man had been ...
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?

I have been married for over 20 years and have been a stepparent for all of these years since my stepdaughter was just 3 years old. My husband's ex-wife despises my husband and myself and has always ...
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Son 22 asks me how to deal with a friend with benefits, so that she does not get hurt [closed]

So my son is seeing a girl as of a couple weeks ago. They go out salsa dancing a lot, which both like, and take salsa classes together. He told me he made it clear to her that a relationship is not ...
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I'm getting distant from my father

I'm 25 years old, my parents got divorced when I was 22 years old. I've been staying with my mother since. My father has moved out and lives quite far from me, so occasionally about once every 2 weeks ...
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Are my parents to break my relationship apart?

I am 19 years old, and am currently in a relationship. My parents can't seem to understand the fact that I am now old enough to make my own decisions and to know right from wrong, that I have the ...
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Should I let my adult daughter know that I am her biological father?

My daughter is 33 years old. She has grown up in a normal loving family and knows me as both a family friend and godparent. Her parents had fertility issues so I helped them have a child. All ...