Questions tagged [relationships]

This refers to relationships between a child or group of children and other children, their siblings, or their parents. This could also refer to a relationship between parents in regards to the rearing of a child.

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What to dow when my 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand?

My 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand. Holding his dad's hand has been drilled into him since he was able to walk as a safety thing and I assumed as he got older he would not want to anymore,...
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My 4-year-old daughter's father doesn't want to be a committed dad, yet keeps her hopes alive. How to deal with the situation in her best interest?

My daughter's father is a good "part-time" parent who makes his own schedule. If he doesn't want to show up, he won't. If being a parent is a hassle at the time, he will step away from that role. And ...
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What to do about our 2-year-old attaching to another parent?

Our 2-year-old child just started preschool and is attaching to other kids' parents. Stuff like: Wants to hold the other parent's hand, but not ours; gives the other parent a hug at pick-up from ...
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How can I fix our relationship after falsely punishing my son?

I am a bad father. I punished my son for something he did not do as it turned out that his friend broke the china plate. Because I punished my son he did not get to go to his favorite band's final ...
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How do I change my son's views, after he confessed to me that he rather be with prostitutes over having an actual girlfriend?

Last weekend, me and my 18-year-old son, who just recently enrolled in college, were having a conversation about dating and relationships. I would have never expected this from him in a million years, ...
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How to talk to my 8-year-old daughter about her absent father?

My 8-year-old daughter hasn’t seen her father since she was 5 months old. It was an mentally and physically abusive relationship, so we moved to a different province and he hasn’t attempted to see her ...
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What to do when my 3.5-year-old says “I don’t love you, I love mommy.”?

Recently, my 3.5-year-old daughter started saying, “I don’t love you, I love mommy.” Also the same phrase with "like" instead of "love". It’s killing me to hear her say that. But, I know she’s little,...
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Should I make contact with my son's dad after 3 years?

My 6 year old son's dad hasn't been in his life for over 3 years now. He is getting older now and asking questions about daddy. Me and his dad have had a volatile relationship, we were both young and ...
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How do I tell my father-in-law that I don't feel comfortable kissing as a greeting?

I grew up in a family that usually hugs to say hello after not seeing each other for a while. I don't feel comfortable kissing anyone apart from my husband. After we got married, my father-in-law ...
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As a father, how to improve my relationship with our 2-month-old baby?

My son is coming to 2 month+. I have been doing the housework (pooping, bathing, wet cloth cleaning, feeding and etc, laundry). I still fail at putting the baby to sleep after feeding and can't ...
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How can I talk to my family about spending less time with them? [closed]

I'm 23 with goals and dreams I want to accomplish. I used to see my family almost every day and not staying focused on what I want to do with my life. I've been in a relationship with an awesome woman ...
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How to build a relationship with my 14-year-old son I was stopped from seeing and who now just looks for money from me?

My wife cheated on me right after our son was born and she decided to start a life with her lover. I tried to keep seeing and supporting my son, but she got pregnant a year after and asked me to stop ...
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What is Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) and is it helpful?

I am wondering what Parent Child Interaction Therapy (pcit.org) exactly is and if someone is here who has some experience with it. I have a 3-year-old son and I am considering to take on a therapy to ...
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How to make my 15-year-old daughter want to meet her 39-year-old sister?

Background 39 years ago, a good friend and I had sex and she got pregnant just before I went into the Navy. After three months, I came back from boot camp. I found out she also had slept with my best ...
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8-year-old girl very keen on her uncle and not on her aunt, a matter of age?

My wife and I are in our thirties. She is the "godmother" of a nice 8-year-old girl (her sister's single child). As her husband, she has become increasingly interested in me lately (I'd say since ...
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How to teach tact and empathic understanding based communication to an INTJ (overly honest) child?

My daughter is in her early 20's. She has proven to be "overly honest" time and again. She has pretty much remained at an even level since around 10 years old, though, in terms of this issue. While ...
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Does a child's resemblance to a parent affect attitudes of other family members?

When a child strongly resembles one of his/her parents it can create a reaction in people who meet the child. Can a strong physical resemblance to a parent affect relationships with both close and ...
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My 16-year-old daughter has new personal items she hides - how can I make her to be more open?

I am a single mother of one 16-year-old daughter and I am very attentive to how my daughter develops as a person. We both work on it with constructive approaches. But from time to time I discover in ...
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Four year old started calling me by my first name. Is this problematic?

My four year old daughter recently started calling me by my first name. She's only doing this to me, not her mother. I found this to be a little strange and don't want to encourage it for practical ...
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How do I refresh my children's memory after long time of being away from me?

I have not seen my children since the beginning of October. There was no goodbye and they have moved to another city. They are 4 and 6 years old, both have mild autism, both non-verbal. What is the ...
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How do I tell my 13-year-old son I am his biological father?

I have a 13-year-old son and now that his mother and I get along well, we want to tell him that I am his biological father. I had an on and off girlfriend at that time and when we were off I met my ...
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Should I try to reconnect my 16-year-old daughter with her father?

My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart. She is against of having any relations with him. I was ...
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How can I help my nieces who suffer under their mother's behavior?

My brother-in-law (let's call him Mark) has 3 kids but it turns out the mom (let's call her Alice) is not very "maternal". She is clearly bothered by the kids and tries in every way to avoid her ...
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How do I get my parents to let me vacation by myself?

I'm planning to take a vacation next month. Since I started planning for it, my parents have continually expressed doubt and concern and generally interfered in the plans. They want to know where and ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?

I'm trying to decide if I should intervene and would very much appreciate some feedback. I am Japanese btw and my English may not be perfect, sorry. My son and his best friend are both 13 years of ...
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My 3 year old daughter has stopped speaking to me when her mother is around. How can I improve my relationship with her?

I have two kids - a nearly 7 year old boy and a just turned 3 year old girl. For the past 12 months, my 3 year old daughter essentially refuses to speak to me unless it suits her: When she comes ...
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How can I help my 2-year-old son adapt to his biological father?

I found out today, that my soon to be ex husband is not my son's biological father (which is what I was hoping for, as he is mentally, emotionally and physically abusive). The BF (biological father) ...
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What should I do if my mother belittles me?

I see an unpleasant situation between my younger sisters, V - 8 and K - 2 years, where V is guilty. I try to teach V and say that she is not right but then my mother starts speaking from another ...
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How to handle the father of my 11-year-old son who just met him for the first time in our son's best interest?

I have an 11-year-old son. His father wanted me to abort him. Now, he has seen him for the first time on Saturday. The father has never seen him prior or reached out to ask about him or try to see him....
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What to do about the incestuous relationship between my daughter and her cousin?

I walked in on my daughter having sex with her cousin. They are both 14 years old. It happened in my sister's house in her double bed. I wasn't sure on how I should react but I told my sister and she ...
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How should children be treated with regards to meeting their sperm donor?

How should children/teens/young adults be treated with regards to meeting their sperm donor? As in, should they be allowed to do this, encouraged to do this or discouraged from it. This is assuming ...
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Can a “magic answer box” backfire? Is it ok?

I’m a fresh father (4 months old daughter) and I’m sometimes visualising the future. I was thinking of implementing a system for when she’ll be a little older (7+ years old) in which: she posts a ...
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As an adult, how to react when parents try to micromanage

I’m 26 and have a turbulent relationship with both my parents (who are now separated). For example, my dad was just helping me move some boxes and my bike with his car. Parts of it were nice, he ...
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?

I have been married for over 20 years and have been a stepparent for all of these years since my stepdaughter was just 3 years old. My husband's ex-wife despises my husband and myself and has always ...
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How to help my 7-year-old son socialize in school and learn to fight for his rights?

My son is 7 years old. He's very polite, shy, sensitive and honest. Unlike other kids in his class who tend to be more selfish and mean. I wonder why don't they like to play with him. Although he's ...
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My 21-year-old adult son hates me

My adult son, who is 21, expects me to do everything he wants. He takes no responsibility for his actions, instead always finding a way to put the blame on me and or others. For example, he brought ...
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Friend kid problem

My friend and I have been friends for about 9 years. She has a son who has severe ADHD and my daughter is 5 and she has mild autism. When my friend is around with her son, her son is very ...
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How to get my 1-year-old child to like me?

My 1-year-old son likes his mom a lot. He never wants to leave her side and this is kind of a problem for her and sort of for me. She has to do domestic work but he doesn't like to stay with me. It's ...
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If a baby is accidentally dropped by a parent, does the baby lose trust in the parent?

This should not have happened but it did happen. I'm the mother to a 14-month-old girl. We were going for our usual morning walk in our garden. Suddenly I felt something fall on me from above. Without ...
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How do I tell my 9-year-old son that my now ex husband is not his biological dad?

I'm in a situation where I became pregnant with the wrong person and decided to raise my child by myself. Since before his 3rd birthday the biological dad disappeared and hasn't had anything to do ...
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My partner's pregnant with her second child (my first) and shows no emotions. How can I help bring that excitement out of her?

I'm a 32-year-old man expecting my first child in September. I imagined having my first would come with all the joys of that experience. My partner already has a son of 2, who I've taken as my own ...
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I'm tired of living a double life with my parents. How can I set boundaries with them?

I am very stressed and tired. I feel this weight on my shoulder, and recently because of several factors have built moderate fibromyalgia and am anxious, with weekly crying spells. One of those ...
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Seeking research on possible outcomes for children who are overly criticized

I did a search & can't find what I need. I need reading material on what the likely outcome is for a child who has been overly criticized. Someone very close to me has 3 kids, 2 are grown. It ...
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How to deal with my 6 year old son is who “over attached” with a girl?

Here are some facts: My son (1st grader) does not have any boys of his age to play with in my community. Most of the boys are either too small or too big for him. So, he has made friends with 3 ...
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Strong-willed child? What am I missing?

My 6, almost 7 year old is so strong-willed that it's crushing me and destroying our relationship, as I'm getting to the point that I dread being around her. She can be so fun and nice one minute but ...
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How to help 3-year-old stop playing so hard with 1-year-old?

My 3.5 year old son most of the time loves his 1 year old sister a lot. However, he can get very aggressive in playing with her, sometimes treating her more like a doll than a person. Examples ...
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I just learned my 15 year old daughter has come out to her friends - should I say anything to her…OR to my wife?

This past weekend I learned that my 15-year-old recently came out to two of her friends. I learned this in a couple of ways: The two of us just traveled alone for a weekend, and she let me use her ...
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How can we help our son deal with his girlfriend's emotional issues?

So our son is only 15, but he has fallen pretty heavily for a girl who apparently comes with a lot of "baggage". She comes from a broken home and is constantly having issues. Our son spend a lot of ...
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How to help parents cope with me moving out

Let me preface by saying I'm not entirely sure if I'm asking this in the right place and I'm very emotional right now, I apologize if my post is in disarray or if this question is not within scope of ...
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How do I make a decision about a precedent for my child going to sleepovers?

My daughter is seven and has been invited to her first sleepover by a classmate. My experience (Male ango saxon) is that I grew up going to sleepovers from age 7 to age 18 so I think it's normal. ...