Questions tagged [relationships]

This refers to relationships between a child or group of children and other children, their siblings, or their parents. This could also refer to a relationship between parents in regards to the rearing of a child.

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Can it be appropriate for a 9 year old to hang out with a 17 year old?

Note: I want to try not mentioning sex/gender to see how answers may depend on this. Consider 2 children Ashanti Smith, 17 years old, and younger sibling Bidatz Smith, 9 years old. Ashanti has ...
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what do i do if he says i'm harder on her because she isn't my biological daughter

My boyfriend of 2 and a half years loves my daughter and my daughter loves and looks up to him as a father figure, but he said that “i'm harder on her because she isn't my biological daughter” and ...
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I just learned my 15 year old daughter has come out to her friends - should I say anything to her...OR to my wife?

This past weekend I learned that my 15-year-old recently came out to two of her friends. I learned this in a couple of ways: The two of us just traveled alone for a weekend, and she let me use her ...
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How to teach tact and empathic understanding based communication to an INTJ (overly honest) child?

My daughter is in her early 20's. She has proven to be "overly honest" time and again. She has pretty much remained at an even level since around 10 years old, though, in terms of this issue. While ...
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How to tell my parents I want to marry my girlfriend

Background info I'm a 20 y/o guy living with my parents in the Netherlands. When I was 16, I unintentionally met an American girl online whom I fell in love with and we have had a great relationship ...
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How to respond to 17 year old daughter going out with a 25 year old man?

I have just found out that my 17 year old daughter is going out with a local 25 year old. I feel the age gap is way too big at her age. We're in the UK, so it's perfectly legal. He does seem a very ...
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Absent Father of 6 years from birth with alcohol, drugs and gambling addictions

My child's father has been completely absent since the first week of my child's life. There has been no contact until now (6 years later). He lives around the corner and passes us everyday, he has not ...
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How to tell my son to uninvite a friend without lying or giving the real reason?

I'm a single mother raising a son. My son is 17 years old and is planning a small week-long vacation to Las Vegas. He is bringing just his close gay male friends from high school on the trip. My son ...
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How can I mediate intense sibling rivalry?

My daughters, aged 6 & 3-and-a-half, go through phases of intense rivalry. I generally hold an attitude of not getting involved, but sometimes the fight either requires intervention as tempers ...
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How do I deal with my college-age son's celebrity crush?

I reveal many details already, and for privacy, I don't want to reveal any more like ages. My son currently attends university in USA. Since Son was 14, he's had huge crush on Tiffany Young, a ...
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Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out

Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her. I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?

I'm trying to decide if I should intervene and would very much appreciate some feedback. I am Japanese btw and my English may not be perfect, sorry. My son and his best friend are both 13 years of ...
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As an adult, how to react when parents try to micromanage

I’m 26 and have a turbulent relationship with both my parents (who are now separated). For example, my dad was just helping me move some boxes and my bike with his car. Parts of it were nice, he ...
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what should I do with my stepfather [closed]

It all started when I first meet my stepfather when I was 11 years old. at first, I thought he was a good person and I can trust him. After one year I meet him again when he already married my mother. ...
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5 year-old (divorced parents) tells dad he doesn't love him

My 5-year old son lives with his mum, 20 minutes down the road from me. Our arrangement is he comes to me Fridays to Sundays. We've been living apart around 1 year. He always tells me he hates coming ...
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My father just gets mad when there's a problem instead of trying to resolve it

I think it's best to tell the story before asking the question. I live on my own now and my dad said I could have a spare bed he has. I didn't ask he offered. I am very grateful for this, beds cost a ...
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?

This is the setting: I'm with my 6-7 years old son in a dinosaur park (in a day not busy at all, so he will not behave as a good boy just because there's people around him who could make him feel ...
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Avoiding kids calling me Daddy when playing without making a big deal about it?

I'm a known sperm donor, meaning I've donated sperm to a few women to help them have children, and I'm lucky enough to get a chance to visit and play with some of the children I donated for. Most of ...
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Get around peer's mind games gracefully

What shall my 2.5-year-old son do in the situation when his peer plays naughty games with him? My son meets regularly with a toddler girl (3yo); his friend, our neighbor and a follow-mate in ...
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Is placing my child in the same class as a close cousin a bad idea?

My son is going to be starting preschool this Fall. He has a first cousin close in age that's going to be attending the same school. Is it a bad idea for close cousins to be in the same class? Does ...
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Earning your kid's trust and getting them to confide in you and "complain" about getting bullied

How can one get their kid to trust them and confide that they are getting bullied when the kid knows the parent is dead serious, earnest, direct and will vigorously seek to resolve the matter with the ...
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How to be a good listener when problems occured?

I recently have a quarrel with my kid who is about to get in his youths. The arguments happen more and more frequently. So I don't want to spoil the relationship with him. I love my kid. How can I ...
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My 4 year old daughter doesn't love her Dad and sometimes rejects him

My daughter (4) is very close to me. She wants everything from me, and I certainly do her whatever she wants (within limits), however sometimes I tell her ask her Dad to do. When she does ask him, ...
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I'm tired of living a double life with my parents. How can I set boundaries with them?

I am very stressed and tired. I feel this weight on my shoulder, and recently because of several factors have built moderate fibromyalgia and am anxious, with weekly crying spells. One of those ...
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How to overcome a broken relationship with my son?

My son is 20 years old. He is about to be father soon. He lives with his girlfriend and is doing very well for himself. He is in college, works fulltime and is a great partner. Now here comes the ...
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What to dow when my 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand?

My 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand. Holding his dad's hand has been drilled into him since he was able to walk as a safety thing and I assumed as he got older he would not want to anymore,...
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My 4-year-old daughter's father doesn't want to be a committed dad, yet keeps her hopes alive. How to deal with the situation in her best interest?

My daughter's father is a good "part-time" parent who makes his own schedule. If he doesn't want to show up, he won't. If being a parent is a hassle at the time, he will step away from that role. And ...
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What to do about our 2-year-old attaching to another parent?

Our 2-year-old child just started preschool and is attaching to other kids' parents. Stuff like: Wants to hold the other parent's hand, but not ours; gives the other parent a hug at pick-up from ...
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How can I fix our relationship after falsely punishing my son?

I am a bad father. I punished my son for something he did not do as it turned out that his friend broke the china plate. Because I punished my son he did not get to go to his favorite band's final ...
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How do I change my son's views, after he confessed to me that he rather be with prostitutes over having an actual girlfriend?

Last weekend, me and my 18-year-old son, who just recently enrolled in college, were having a conversation about dating and relationships. I would have never expected this from him in a million years, ...
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How to talk to my 8-year-old daughter about her absent father?

My 8-year-old daughter hasn’t seen her father since she was 5 months old. It was an mentally and physically abusive relationship, so we moved to a different province and he hasn’t attempted to see her ...
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What to do when my 3.5-year-old says “I don’t love you, I love mommy.”?

Recently, my 3.5-year-old daughter started saying, “I don’t love you, I love mommy.” Also the same phrase with "like" instead of "love". It’s killing me to hear her say that. But, I know she’s little,...
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Should I make contact with my son's dad after 3 years?

My 6 year old son's dad hasn't been in his life for over 3 years now. He is getting older now and asking questions about daddy. Me and his dad have had a volatile relationship, we were both young and ...
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How do I tell my father-in-law that I don't feel comfortable kissing as a greeting?

I grew up in a family that usually hugs to say hello after not seeing each other for a while. I don't feel comfortable kissing anyone apart from my husband. After we got married, my father-in-law ...
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As a father, how to improve my relationship with our 2-month-old baby?

My son is coming to 2 month+. I have been doing the housework (pooping, bathing, wet cloth cleaning, feeding and etc, laundry). I still fail at putting the baby to sleep after feeding and can't ...
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How to build a relationship with my 14-year-old son I was stopped from seeing and who now just looks for money from me?

My wife cheated on me right after our son was born and she decided to start a life with her lover. I tried to keep seeing and supporting my son, but she got pregnant a year after and asked me to stop ...
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What is Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) and is it helpful?

I am wondering what Parent Child Interaction Therapy (pcit.org) exactly is and if someone is here who has some experience with it. I have a 3-year-old son and I am considering to take on a therapy to ...
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How to make my 15-year-old daughter want to meet her 39-year-old sister?

Background 39 years ago, a good friend and I had sex and she got pregnant just before I went into the Navy. After three months, I came back from boot camp. I found out she also had slept with my best ...
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8-year-old girl very keen on her uncle and not on her aunt, a matter of age?

My wife and I are in our thirties. She is the "godmother" of a nice 8-year-old girl (her sister's single child). As her husband, she has become increasingly interested in me lately (I'd say since ...
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Does a child's resemblance to a parent affect attitudes of other family members?

When a child strongly resembles one of his/her parents it can create a reaction in people who meet the child. Can a strong physical resemblance to a parent affect relationships with both close and ...
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My 16-year-old daughter has new personal items she hides - how can I make her to be more open?

I am a single mother of one 16-year-old daughter and I am very attentive to how my daughter develops as a person. We both work on it with constructive approaches. But from time to time I discover in ...
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Four year old started calling me by my first name. Is this problematic?

My four year old daughter recently started calling me by my first name. She's only doing this to me, not her mother. I found this to be a little strange and don't want to encourage it for practical ...
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How do I refresh my children's memory after long time of being away from me?

I have not seen my children since the beginning of October. There was no goodbye and they have moved to another city. They are 4 and 6 years old, both have mild autism, both non-verbal. What is the ...
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How do I tell my 13-year-old son I am his biological father?

I have a 13-year-old son and now that his mother and I get along well, we want to tell him that I am his biological father. I had an on and off girlfriend at that time and when we were off I met my ...
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Should I try to reconnect my 16-year-old daughter with her father?

My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart. She is against of having any relations with him. I was ...
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How can I help my nieces who suffer under their mother's behavior?

My brother-in-law (let's call him Mark) has 3 kids but it turns out the mom (let's call her Alice) is not very "maternal". She is clearly bothered by the kids and tries in every way to avoid her ...
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How do I get my parents to let me vacation by myself?

I'm planning to take a vacation next month. Since I started planning for it, my parents have continually expressed doubt and concern and generally interfered in the plans. They want to know where and ...
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My 3 year old daughter has stopped speaking to me when her mother is around. How can I improve my relationship with her?

I have two kids - a nearly 7 year old boy and a just turned 3 year old girl. For the past 12 months, my 3 year old daughter essentially refuses to speak to me unless it suits her: When she comes ...
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How can I help my 2-year-old son adapt to his biological father?

I found out today, that my soon to be ex husband is not my son's biological father (which is what I was hoping for, as he is mentally, emotionally and physically abusive). The BF (biological father) ...
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What should I do if my mother belittles me?

I see an unpleasant situation between my younger sisters, V - 8 and K - 2 years, where V is guilty. I try to teach V and say that she is not right but then my mother starts speaking from another ...