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Questions tagged [primary-schooler]

Age specific questions from about 5 years to about 8 years. Younger: pre-schooler. Older: middle-childhood.

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What's the motivation behind school uniforms {or} Why can't my daughter wear a dang princess on her shirt? [closed]

I just registered our daughter for Kindergarten at a school that has amazing ratings online - Great Schools ranks it at a 10/10 (for whatever that's actually worth, I'm not really sure). So I'm super ...
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Boy defending himself from sister, or fight back?

I've read this question, but I don't think that is the solution for my situation. My son is 6 years old, and has a 5 year old step sister. The sister is able to get under his skin very quickly - ...
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Unsportsmanlike behaviour from my 7 year old son

My son is 7 and loves sport - and is good at it. However he often behaves badly e.g. lying on the ground when tackled in football, going in the huff and standing at the sidelines, rough-riding ...
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Fastest way back on schedule for a child that is past the age to nap

Recently due to a pretty minor illness (that was sleep disrupting) I have a kid that is going to bed excessively early but then rising excessively early. So what I need him to do is to stay awake ...
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Should I reach out to my 5-year-old's absent father?

My 5-year-old son is starting to ask questions and comment on the fact that he "doesn't have a dad". His biological father and I have not spoken in years, he last saw my son when he was 6/7 months old ...
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12 year-old son doesn't want to move to a new city

I was recently offered a job in another city on the other side of the country. I was attracted to it because it represents a new adventure for the family and my wife is excited by the prospect. ...
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How to help my 6-year-old son, who is being bullied by my roomate's 20-year-old son?

I have 6-year-old twins, a boy and a girl. My son is being tormented by my roomate's 20-year-old son, with very vulgar name calling. This 20-year-old is over 300 lbs and acts out as a very ...
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8 year old daughter distressed at throwing anything away (packaging, tags etc)

My 8 year old daughter has always had an issue with permanent loss but recently has begun getting distressed when packaging and clothing tags are thrown away and attempts to rescue them from the bin, ...
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How would a child view a move based on materialism?

I am a husband who has been married for the last 9 years and have 3 daughters (7,3,1). Recently I told my wife that I want to move to another state because my new job lets me work remotely and the ...
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How do I teach patience to my 7 year old son?

I want to teach patience to my son. How do I teach him? He always wants things done NOW. If I tell him that we will go to a restaurant at night, as soon as I am back from office in the evening, he ...
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What is the best investment of time & money for extracurriculars in primary school age? [closed]

I am trying to research what extracurricular activities are most valuable for grade school aged children and really not finding anything that's compelling. I have a few months before I have to choose,...
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My children's Mother's new boyfriend is potentially abusing my child

I have two sons, the eldest is 6 as this question is about him. I am separated from his mother, she has a new boyfriend and is pregnant. My son lives with her during the week and I get him 3/4 ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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How to teach my 7-year-old daughter to not be so melodramatic when dealing with bullying and any stressful situation?

I am a single dad with a 7-year-old daughter. Her mum disappeared when she was 2. She had borderline personality disorder. My daughter has some behaviour in common with BPD such as 'black and white' ...
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What are the options when the mother of a 7 year old is imprisoned?

What are the options for explaining a (divorced) mother's absence to a 7 year old? Should the child be told the truth? (Assume the crime is non-violent and financial. Also assume the child has had a ...
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How to tell my mother that the way she handled my little brother's try to hurt a kid disappoints me?

My little brother is 7 years old, and he along with two other kids were on our trampoline out back. The girl who was with them is 8 years old and told my brother to push the other boy off the ...
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How to get my 5-year-old to stop whining and crying about everything?

My 5-year-old whines and cries about anything and everything. I've tried everything from time out, putting her in her room by herself. She is so rebellious and she cries if I tell her no. She does ...
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Five year old successfully built a Lego set meant for 6-12 year olds. Does this mean anything?

Five year old son successfully built a Lego set meant for 6-12 year olds over 3 to 4 days. He did it with very little help. Is this common? If not, what does this mean? Should we do something ...
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Tips for school bus driver at private schools?

How typical is it for parents to give an end-of-school-year tip or gift to the bus driver at a private school (for a kindergarden student, 5 days a week)? If it is usual or frequent, cash or gift? ...
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Do I enforce a punishment/retribution promised some time ago?

Three weeks ago while visiting relatives, my seven year old nephew (who is generally terribly behaved) was particularly nasty to my two year old daughter. Amongst the issues was him refusing to ...
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Gifts for teachers at private schools? [duplicate]

How typical is it for parents to give end-of-school-year gifts to teachers at a private school? If it is usual or frequent, what types of gifts and how expensive? (My 6 yo has 4 teachers for his ...
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How do I make a decision about a precedent for my child going to sleepovers?

My daughter is seven and has been invited to her first sleepover by a classmate. My experience (Male ango saxon) is that I grew up going to sleepovers from age 7 to age 18 so I think it's normal. ...
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My 7-year-old doesn't want to go to before-school childcare - how do I engage her with the opportunities in this situation?

When I talk to my 7-year-old daughter about before school childcare, she says it is "boring" and "doesn't have friends to talk to". My personal thoughts (not that this is necessarily helpful in a ...
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Getting out of rewards for what kid does

My 6-year old, 1st grade son started taking some language classes past August. This is a language we speak about 50% of the time home. These classes are pretty tough, teach reading, writing and ...
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How to figure out which of my children is lying to me? [duplicate]

I'm looking for advice on how to determine which of my children is lying. I have 4 kids, 12, 12, 8, 6. About once a week, something bad will happen, (this last incident, somebody poured a bowl of ...
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What are age appropriate projects for 5-year-old interested in electronics?

I have a 5-year-old boy who's very into electronics and Ghostbusters in particular. So far, I've had pretty good luck with snap circuits. We started to build a homemade Ghostbuster Proton Pack but it ...
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How do you help a primary schooler who is struggling after a death in the family?

My mother-in-law recently passed away. It was rather sudden; the funeral was less than 2 weeks after she first went to the hospital, and it was several days in the hospital before we realized the ...
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How do I help the neighbor's kids not be so scared of me?

My husband and I are in our early thirties and have no children. I don't really have much experience with kids. I am happy to talk to them but have never had any of my own so don't feel super ...
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How to talk to my 6-year-old son about his biological father?

My husband and I have been married for 10 years, and we have three kids. He is not the biological father of my oldest son, who is 6. I am confused about the best way to talk to my son about his ...
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My daughter repeats the same 2 numbers and when asking me questions tells me what to say and how to say it. Is this just a phase?

I'm looking for some advice. My daughter has just turned 5 and from her being very young she has always known how she wants things and what she likes and dislikes. She's been repeating the same ...
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My 5 year-old son is defiant, especially at school. How can I improve his behavior?

I’m struggling to find ways to influence my 5-year-old son's behavior. What we’ve done at home seems to result in only short-term effects. He is the middle child between a 10- and a 2-year-old sister....
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How to stop a (seven-year-old) child from constantly making silly, nonsensical noises and actions?

I am step father to a seven-year-old boy (let's call him H). H's father is very much involved in his life. He sees him every night for a couple of hours and they (Mother and Father) alternate weekends....
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Am I giving a bad example to other people's children by buying junk food in supermarket?

I'm an adult woman with no kids and no intention of having any, but I am a bit concerned about other people's kids. Today in the supermarket I decided to buy some potato chips, among others. While I ...
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How to address with a child that a deceased actress appears in an upcoming movie?

My 7-year-old daughter is a big Star Wars fan and has loved Princess Leia through all of the movies she has appeared in. In discussing it with her, she already knows that the woman who played ...
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6 year old takes too long to do anything

We have a 6 year old son, attending 1st grade. He is doing well academically, socially and physically. However, we have a major problem that he takes too long to do anything by whiling time away. He ...
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Mindfulness Meditation for 6 year old with ADHD, ASD

I have a 6 year old boy with somewhat severe ADHD. He also has been diagnosed as being on the Autistic spectrum at a low level ( my sense is that the ASD symptoms are primarily driven by the ADHD ). ...
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How can I help my 7-year-old deal with anxiety?

My son suffers from anxiety and is constantly worrying about all sorts of different things. It can be quite debilitating causing him to get worked up and upset easily and he often has trouble getting ...
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What are tested ways to teach kids about self-discipline?

I have made my 6.2-year-old kid aware of the experiment on delayed gratification (+ video) and its results. It seems to have worked. Now we write what she wants to buy and associate possible (days) ...
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How can I help my 8-year-old to learn calmly?

My 8-year-old daughter finds learning anything hard. She's bright, but with some moderate issues identified around sequencing and visual memory. But she resists any kind of teaching from her parents, ...
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How can I explain the concept of strike (labor strike) to a 6 years old?

My daughter is 6 years old, and going to primary school. Sometimes there is a strike, meaning no school. (sometimes the teachers are going on a strike, sometimes the municipality itself, doesn't ...
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Will a child understand what's wrong about asking for things costing money and then not wanting them, when you confiscate some of their money?

Similar to this question, but not about behaviour. My son is 5 years old now, and I give him lots of choices that he is free to make on his own. A while ago, he started asking for certain foods (that ...
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How to help an 8 year old to be honest?

My elder daughter (8 years old) is in 3rd grade. Couple of girls bullied her during the end of 2nd grade. This year has been uneventful since last weekend. She told us an elaborate story involving one ...
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Why is my 5-year-old son always interested in baby toys?

When I take my son to the store and we take a look at the toy section, he always goes straight to the baby toys. And when he picks out a toy that he wants it's always a baby toy. He has toys for his ...
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Angry 7 Year-Old

My son is 7 years old and he gets angry very easily. When he gets angry, he will hurt himself (like bumping his head). He has also taken to saying bad words such as f**k. What can I do? Is this ...
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How can I, as a father, help develop my 5-year-old daughter's self-esteem?

I was was distant from her when she was a baby till 1.5 years old because of struggling through my own problems, and eventually separated from her mother for a year. And even though I have gotten ...
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How to tell kids about divorce when only one parent still loves the other?

Imagine a scenario in which parents are fighting because one is no longer in love with the other. They eventually decide to divorce, instead of living together but no longer as a real couple. The ...
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6-year-old is crazy only with us

My wife and I are pulling our hair out. Our 6-year-old daughter behaves very well at school and with others, yet at home, when it's just us, she is the complete polar opposite. We have had to restrain ...
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What to do when the school principal breaks our confidence?

My 5-year-old son had been coming home for several days (eight at that point) in distress because one political candidate was "evil" and the other was "good". The views he was embracing did not match ...
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My child spit water in another kid's face - now what?

At a Cub Scout event, my 7-year-old slurped water from a fountain and then squirted at another kid, thinking it was funny. The other child told me about it. My son's reaction has been stoical, he ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

I have a 5-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. My daughter is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all. Lately, she has started being violent ...