Questions tagged [primary-schooler]
Age specific questions from about 5 years to about 8 years. Younger: pre-schooler. Older: middle-childhood.
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How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home?
We're having problems with our 3.5 year-old boy concerning potty training:
Since his birth it seems, that being cleaned is much more unpleasing to him than running around with brimful diapers for ...
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How do you feed a picky eater?
Dinner with my 5-year-old is an ordeal. I do not want to cook separate meals. How do I stop the fighting at dinner and get them to eat?
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My son is 5 years old and sexually active
I am a 20 year old female student and I have a 5 year old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
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When should kids get a cellphone?
It seems everybody and his cat has a smartphone today. (I'm guilty too.) My son will probably demand his own phone somewhere between the age of 7 and 12. I know I can't compare to when I was a kid ...
asked Sep 26 '12 at 19:21
Torben Gundtofte-Bruun
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Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?
Our son (now nearly 6.5 years old) has problems with potty training for years now. (The long history is described here: How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? ).
Remarks:
We are ...
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How can a pre-schooler improve her handwriting skills?
My brother's daughter is 6 years old. She is very smart and picks up things very easily. But when it comes to handwriting, she is not doing good.
What techniques or tools can we give her in order to ...
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Does a child need to apologize and how should I react while it does not?
Our son is 6 years old and often quite "bullheaded". If something does not go the way he wants, he is very frustrated and quickly shows a tantrum, cries, screams and insults us.
We then send him to ...
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What can be done to help bright children stuck in a boring school?
My kids (grades 2 and 4) are very bright and very active. The traditional school setting does not seem to be working for them. This is evident by their perpetual visits to the principal's office for ...
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How do you operate a successful “Star Chart”?
So, one of the techniques for improving behaviour that you often hear about is the "star chart". You put the focus on good behaviour by adding stars (I nearly said "badges") for the good stuff and ...
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How to make my 5-year-old focus on the task-at-hand?
My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes, she's able ...
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Established methods to help fussy/picky eaters at late primary age
Our 8 year old daughter has always been a picky eater - even as a baby we had a hard time convincing her to try different baby foods. We assumed she'd grow out of it, but it hasn't happened and it's ...
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How do I motivate my 8-year-old to practice the piano regularly?
I end up offering TV time as a reward but he complains so much while practicing, tracks time by calling out every 2 minutes, and practices without respecting the piano or the music (bangs it out). He ...
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Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn
Our 5 (nearly 6) year old son has had problems with potty training for a long time now.
When he sleeps at night, he wears diapers, as he is not aware of peeing during the night yet and does not wake ...
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How do I solve my brother's fear of a creepy video game character?
I was playing a creepy little indie video game the other day (Undertale) and my brother (who is 9 years old) happened to watch me play for a while, despite my warnings that it might be scary or ...
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As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?
I have two competing interests here and I'm not entirely sure how to handle this. On one hand I feel that the short answer, to questions about gods, of "some people believe that, but it's not true" is ...
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In what ways can you help a child develop self-control and delayed or deferred gratification?
Children, especially young children, are creatures of opportunity. They see a lesser prize within their grasp and a much greater prize that they may have to work for, and they will take the lesser ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk.
If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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How do I help my third-grader focus on homework?
My child just entered third grade, and the homework load is much higher this year, with a lot of writing and math drills. It is all work that she can do easily, but it's causing the whole family a lot ...
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How should my 8 year old son deal with a girl who hits him?
My kid is 8 yrs old. This morning he asked me, "Mummy, you told me if a girl hits you don't strike her back. Should I continue to get hittings from her just because she's a girl?"
I was unable to ...
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How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?
About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
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How do you stop a child from using bad language and profanity?
My child has started to use swear words. This is shocking because he is using words that we don't use. I'm not sure how to react! How do I get this to stop?
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How to break the cycle of lies?
My six year-old son has recently started lying almost constantly. This is somewhat puzzling to us, because:
He almost never gets away with it. Fortunately for us, he isn't very good at it yet, but ...
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Are there things to watch out for after a tongue-tie operation?
My son is going in for a Tongue Tie clip, basically to do a small snip under his tongue to free it up, he fed well when he was young so it never came up until our dentist noticed it with his teeth and ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?
I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO.
We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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When do kids usually stop believing in Santa Claus?
My 7-year old son treats Santa as a real person. He probably suspects something, but me and my wife always find a way to persuade him.
What is the normal age when children realize that Santa is not ...
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How long do children normally read without comprehending?
My son is six years old, nearly finished with his first year of school. He reads pretty well, on par with his age I believe. What concerns me is he has difficulty answering basic questions about a ...
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How to build self-confidence / reduce social anxiety in a 7+ yr old boy?
Summary: I am looking for strategies and parenting best practices on how to boost self-confidence & reduce social anxieties in a 7+ yr old boy.
Context: We have a little boy who seems to be ...
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My 6 year old son does not listen when I tell him to stop something immediately. Should I beat him?
At times when I ask my son to stop doing something immediately he does not stop. Should I beat him in that case? I know the answer might be no but I need an alternative in which he listens and stops ...
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How can I help my child handle peer pressure regarding television?
I feel there is a conflict between these two aspects:
Kids talk about current trends, and they talk about what's on television right now. I'm guessing that if a child can't participate in this, he ...
asked Sep 12 '11 at 20:07
Torben Gundtofte-Bruun
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What's the motivation behind school uniforms {or} Why can't my daughter wear a dang princess on her shirt? [closed]
I just registered our daughter for Kindergarten at a school that has amazing ratings online - Great Schools ranks it at a 10/10 (for whatever that's actually worth, I'm not really sure). So I'm super ...
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How can a parent encourage their child to talk more about what they did at school?
My son's just started school, and it seems to be exceptionally difficult to get him to talk about what he did during the day. The responses are generally, "I don't know", or "I can't remember". ...
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My 8 year old son won't fall asleep
We put him to bed at 9pm and he stays up til 1am or later. When I go to check on him he is always playing with his hands and sometimes talking. I ask him why he is awake and not trying to sleep and he ...
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How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?
I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler. Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach.
Her little daughter is lovely ...
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9 year old son brought a toy gun to school – how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?
My well behaved, bright, popular, naive 9 year old son brought a plastic toy revolver (the kind with the bright orange barrel to indicate that it's a toy) to school yesterday. He snuck it into his ...
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How to avoid corporal punishment?
I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself.
We have two boys, one's five and the other's two.
Due to their age ...
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My 7-year-old is “in love” with a girl in his class. How should I deal with this?
He tells me regularly that she's so nice and kind to everyone, how beautiful she is, how pretty her hair is, and this, that and the other. Now he's asking me what he should say to her, and if he ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early
This is a struggle every night, and every morning.
We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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How to inspire a 7 year old to accelerate reading efforts?
I have a seven year old son who is having a hard time "getting inspired" to read regularly. This is somewhat of a struggle for me as his older brother was reading Harry Potter at around his age and ...
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Teaching mathematics to young children
When I was a child, I learned basic mathematics (addition, subtraction) through practice and memorization of basics (6 + 7 = 13). However, while I was visiting a child (5 yrs. old) over New Year's, I ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?
My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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How to encourage a child to self-edit and take criticism positively?
Our eight year old daughter writes well for her age, and has produced some really spectacular pieces in class. She's not terribly interested in writing for fun at home, though. When she does, what she ...
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How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?
Our daughter thinks she has an equal say in any of our decisions. She only does the things we tell her to do if she thinks they make sense, otherwise we have to threaten her, which makes her threaten ...
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When should a child begin to learn knife skills for use in the Kitchen?
Helping in the kitchen is something my child thoroughly enjoys. Now that she is in elementary she has a handle on most of the "safe" kitchen skills from kneading dough to reading a recipe and even ...
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How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?
My 5 year old niece who is 'kind of' smart, (i.e. was playing solitaire online before her 3rd birthday and is now doing 4 digit addition/subtraction and multiplication up to 5's; and reads chapter ...
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What do I do about the fact that my child can already read, write and do math before entering Kindergarten?
My nearly 6 year-old son is going to first grade next year. He's already reading quite fluently and writing. He does basic math (without writing). He has great sense of humor, and he loves to make ...
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How can I encourage my 5-year-old to learn to swim?
My son is five years old and simply does not want to learn to swim. We've had him in swimming lessons, but he won't go in the water and if put in the water will not make any effort to swim. He is ...
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How does one go about determining if a child, adolescent or teen is capable of understanding a given book?
This question was inspired by one posed on the Science Fiction Stack Exchange by a parent wondering about The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Through some commentary and discussion, he did clarify ...
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How can I deal with my unreasonable 8 year old with ADHD?
I have two kids, 8 and 5 years old. My first boy has ADHD he is on medicine, but the medicine will stop working after 4pm, or some times works good or some times so-so.
The problem I have with him ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?
My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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When my kids don't get along; what are some options besides punishment that can be effective beyond 5 minutes?
I have an 8-year-old daughter and a 5-year-old son. Sometimes my kids get along great, but like most sometimes they clash. I've been trying to work on substitutions to my usual model of rewards and ...
