Questions tagged [parents]

About the parents themselves, and not (only) about the children.

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"Never punish in anger" - How far does this extend?

I've heard the phrase, "You should never punish your child in anger," before, and it makes logical sense. However, how far does this extend? If a child, let's say a four-year-old, does something ...
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Options when you feel your child is unsafe around another child?

We are in the awkward situation where new neighbors have moved in and it would seem they have a very different parenting style to our own, which in our opinion has begun to affect the safety and well ...
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How much can I and my parents help my wife directly after giving birth when she wants to only rest and breastfeed?

My Korean wife and I are expecting our first child in a couple of months and I am curious how things normally go directly after birth. My assumption was that both my wife and I would need to be ...
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How to handle the situation with a 1-year-old preferring dad over mom with her suffering emotionally?

I am the proud father of a 1-year-old boy. My wife and I love him to pieces! A few months after his birth I suffered through a terrible bout of anxiety attacks. Turns out it was just my way of ...
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What constitutes verbal abuse of one's child?

I frequently see parents engaging in behavior that I perceive to be verbal abuse. However, with so many parents falling in different places with regard to the strictness of their discipline, the ...
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How to react to an indecisive 2.5-year-old?

I have a 2.5-year-old son. It happens mostly when tired but I'll ask him if he wants something and he will say no. Then when I go to put it away or do something else, he freaks out that he wants it. ...
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How to cope with my guilt about the way I punished my child?

My 9-year-old child is afraid of swimming, although he is good at parts of it. In just 6-7 days, he is now able to float and can swim a half of the length of the pool. But he doesn't go into the pool ...
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What is Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) and is it helpful?

I am wondering what Parent Child Interaction Therapy (pcit.org) exactly is and if someone is here who has some experience with it. I have a 3-year-old son and I am considering to take on a therapy to ...
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What is the minimum amount of structure and rules that a child needs?

My wife and I have very different ways of handling our children (almost 3 and 5 years old). We agree about the rules we want to set, but we are complete opposite when it comes to implementing the ...
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How should we support 16 year old step sister who ran away from home

We're in Canada, if that's relevant. My partner and I live by ourselves (late 20's), and my partner's 16 year old step-sister has recently fled an emotionally abusive home life (no physical abuse so ...
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How to minimize the negative impact on our child when we parents argue?

My wife and I have an 8-month-old baby boy. Having a fight, for example debating, is something that we don't want to do. But sometimes, we can't avoid having a fight in front of our son. When the ...
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How to deal with my parents frequently getting mad at my life choices?

I’m 26 and I find both of my parents get mad at me for very bad reasons. For example, I was visiting my mom. In a mad tone she told me to stop playing a game on my phone. Just realizing it now, I find ...
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How can I be more sympathetic towards my children when they are injured?

I have a 3-year-old son who throws tantrums a lot. I told him not to stand in front of the door as someone may open from the other side and injure him. Someone really opened the door and the door ...
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How to make my parents stop interfering with my life in every way?

I am 21 years old and came to my home country, Azerbaijan, after studying in the US. I have changed my beliefs and built my own set of rules to live my life. The life brought me a phase where I had to ...
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What can I do when my parents want a divorce? [duplicate]

My mum and dad want a divorce and I don't know what I can do. My dad likes another woman and my mom already asked three lawyers for the divorce. My BFF has heard some things about this. My life is ...
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Why is it so hard teaching your own children and how to improve the process?

I have two children, 6 and 9 years old. I find it very hard to teach them skills or school subjects and I wonder if there are any tricks or methods to it? It seems my children are much more eager to ...
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How to deal with a separated family as an adult child when my parents want me to spend more time with them?

I am a 23-year-old male, my father is working in Town B (for about 2 years now) and he tries to come home every weekend (Friday night - Sunday night), so it's just me and my mother at Town A during ...
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Why am I hurt by my toddler saying she wanted to throw all her toys in the garbage?

My 2-year-old was throwing a fit tonight. I got home from work and my father said my daughter would not put her toys away. My daughter told me she wanted to throw all her toys in the garbage. I don't ...
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Is a parent expected to be emotionally and socially supportive for the child?

I'm 26, and feel the need to sort and process my childhood. I grew up in Norway. I have always felt a bit low, passive and lacking self-confidence growing up. I was polite, kind, and quite normal; I ...
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Is it normal that father kisses his teenager son on the lips?

I just watched the new episode on Britain's Got Talent 2018, featured a singing act between a father and son. The act was really great, and I really love the special and deep bond between the father ...
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Bringing work organizational effectiveness practices home to the family?

Has anyone tried to bring practices from work (around organizational effectiveness or culture management) home to the family? For example, developing a value statement or providing performance reviews ...
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Which way is correct to keep your kids on the right path: love or strict discipline? [closed]

Recently I had very serious conversation with my married friend regarding parenting of kids in which way need to deal with them love or Strict rules and descipline. I am in side of love and ...
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How do I limit the time my neighbor's kids spend at my home?

My neighbor’s children (9, 10, 11 and 12 years old) frequently pop over to my house to play. They get permission from their parents and me. I love that we have young kids on our street, but they stay ...
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Can wife and I handle pre/post our baby birth problems without our parents' help?

I currently work in an IT firm and my wife stays at home. She is thinking of going back to her hometown in 8th month to stay and give birth to our first baby. She thinks it requires her parents' (...
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How should staff deal with loud children in oral surgeon office lobby?

I am the office manager at an oral surgeon's office and the staff is telling me that there is a problem with the patients being annoyed by loud children in the lobby. This is when the patient is in ...
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What should I do? My parents kicked me out of their house because it took my iPad back from them [closed]

I know “my house my rules”but I am 18 and I pay for everything except for food and board. I bought my own vehicles pay the insurance for both of them, and bought my iPad. I work and go to school the ...
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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What is a good approach for asking friends in a sensitive situation to be legal guardians?

We have a 1-year-old child. We've decided to ask two friends of ours to be the legal guardian of our child (i.e. godparents). By "legal guardian/godparent", I'm meaning that, in the case of our death, ...
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How to explain to my children their mother's cancer?

My wife is surviving (so far) an aggressive form of cancer called leiomyosarcoma. She's just had a second test after sugery removed the tumour, and we are waiting to find out whether the cancer is re-...
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Embarrassing experience with my nephew; Should I tell his parents?

The experience and my actions at the time: Three years ago, my nephew was three years old, in the middle of his potty training. After lunch with the family everyone went outside, he and his older ...
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Is my 14 y/o brother’s abusive behavior something that I should be concerned about?

To start off this question I should mention that I am currently 17 years old and since we are homeschooled and my parents have jobs in which they have to work for one or two hour blocks all day, I get ...
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What to tell an 8 yo when his mother is incarcerated for 1+ years?

The press of the moment is arriving. It is highly likely that the mom (divorced) will be incarcerated for 1+ years (first incarceration). (She has been in jail for 3 weeks now with no bail allowed. ...
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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?

Suppose father XXX holds a college degree, usually comes home late and suddenly one fine day, stays at home. He lost his job. His son sees this happening. The father is a hard-working man, always ...
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Toddler misbehaves a lot less with dad, than with mom

My 2-year-old is misbehaving a lot less with me, than with his mom. He goes to bed without issues, stops watching TV when it's time for bed, no tantrums in the super market (mostly), no problems with ...
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Our 8 year old son saw us having sex [duplicate]

Our 8 year old son saw my wife and I having sex the other day. Now I don't see anything wrong with it, yet my wife is unsure. What should happen here?
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Options to have a child but not giving birth

My wife and I want to have a child, but my wife does not want to bear a baby. We know we can adopt one from an orphanage. But what about child transferring from another family? Or bearing from ...
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How can I forget children toys riffs?

Our 7 month old daughter is starting to play with toys that play music. Some of them play pieces of songs, often sung with children's voices. They are cool, but after a while the repeating riffs get ...
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Should I start learning Braille now in preparation for teaching my blind baby how to read someday?

My daughter, now five months old, has been recognised as "severely blind" (until she herself can tell us different) from some completely unknown disorder (literally, one in 7.4 billion!). Anyway, I ...
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How can I help my parents to not waste their lives?

I am posting this here because I feel like it's time to become a "parent" for my parents... I'm 26, my parents are 50 years old. A few months ago when I visited them, it hit me, that they have "empty"...
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What are some techniques to raise a problematic son like Bart Simpson?

The son hates school. He loves to play games on the computer and smartphone. His grades are bad enough that the teacher called up the parents to have a one-to-one meeting. However, the son is not ...
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How to not to feel igry for children's behavior? [closed]

Examples: Approaching strangers in public places and talk to them also if they show hints they do not want to Going to nursery school in pyjama This makes parents feeling so much igry and full of ...
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My 3 year old daughter has stopped speaking to me when her mother is around. How can I improve my relationship with her?

I have two kids - a nearly 7 year old boy and a just turned 3 year old girl. For the past 12 months, my 3 year old daughter essentially refuses to speak to me unless it suits her: When she comes ...
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A stranger's child throws a piece of garbage onto the ground, out of sight of their parents. Should I say or do anything?

I am a male childless adult living in England. I rarely interact with children. Last weekend, I observed how a boy (perhaps 8 years old) threw a piece of garbage onto the ground, despite being ...
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My parents are upset that I don't visit enough. I live four hours away and I do not want to spend time with them. What should I do?

I am 26 and I moved out of my parents' house almost three months ago. I am happy that I am finally out on my own, supporting myself financially and starting my life as an independent adult. My ...
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How do I help my college age daughter who has gained too much weight at college?

My daughter is now a sophomore in college and I am very concerned about her weight. Prior to starting college, she had always been a healthy weight and athletic and loved playing sports. By the end ...
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What should I do if my mother belittles me?

I see an unpleasant situation between my younger sisters, V - 8 and K - 2 years, where V is guilty. I try to teach V and say that she is not right but then my mother starts speaking from another ...
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Formal curriculum for infants first few years?

In the context of independent behavioral, developmental and psychology fields (regarding people of any age), there appears common revelation about the first few years of life... and their impact on ...
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How to handle value mis-alignment between parents and kids?

I'm (kinda) asking this question for my parents and family. My parents and I share very different values. For example, I think we should replace our old washing machine with a new, energy-efficient ...
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How to convince mom to throw out large amounts of garbage she brought home? [closed]

We live in the 3-room apartment in a big story building. A few years ago, mom started to collect large amount of clothes and different useless items, that other people were throwing out of their home (...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?

Me and my wife are in our late 20s and considering having children. I am personally excited about starting a family, however I'm not looking forward to all the unpleasant parts of the first few years ...

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