Questions tagged [parents]

About the parents themselves, and not (only) about the children.

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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

Before I start this, I just want to let everyone know that even though my parents can be completely clueless about parenting at times, I still love them very much, so don't go commenting that I'm "...
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Why is trying to talk children out of how they feel a bad idea?

The article 7 Parenting Essentials says, Accept your children’s feelings. ... Instead, comfort your children and let them know you love them, rather than try to talk them out of how they ...
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At what age should I tell my daughter that her real mother is dead?

Long story short: my first wife passed away while giving birth to my daughter. Two years later, I've remarried, but I am concerned over when should I tell my daughter the truth about her mother. My ...
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Methods for reducing or coping with sleep deprivation

Sleep deprivation is a major problems for parents of a newborn child. Are there methods which could help young parents cope with sleep deprivation or reduce it? Have you tried any of them? What is ...
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Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?

Before our girls were born, I told my husband that I didn't want to go through "crying it out" because I knew I wouldn't be comfortable with it. At the time he agreed with me. However, after close to ...
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How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

I have been going to church my whole life and faithfully following the Christian religion for 18 or so years. I'm 20 years old, and I have been having doubts about my faith for about 2 years now. My ...
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What constitutes verbal abuse of one's child?

I frequently see parents engaging in behavior that I perceive to be verbal abuse. However, with so many parents falling in different places with regard to the strictness of their discipline, the ...
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How do I tell my nine year old that his dad isn't his dad and that his biological father died before he was born?

My son's biological father passed away when I was three months pregnant. My now husband stepped into the picture when my son was eight months old. My son has always known my husband as his dad but I ...
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How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity?

How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity? I asked this question here Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which needed to be ...
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Balancing children's needs with a parent's own needs

For me, as a new parent I found it difficult to find a balance between meeting the needs of my son and my own needs. I was inclined to view my own needs as being selfish and an inadequacy within me ...
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Is it appropriate for parents to cry in front of their children?

Sometimes a parent may be feeling sad (for whatever reason) and needs to cry. Is it harmful, or could it even be good, to cry sometimes in front of your children? What does research say?
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Sharing parenting/custody duties with an ex-partner

My son is 1.5 years old. I am no longer with his dad but he is an active part of my son's life and I would like his dad to help parent him half of the time and he has agreed to do so (keep him Mon-Sun ...
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Is it considered harmful in the longer run to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want?

Not sure if there is a cultural difference. In our family it is considered normal to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want. Example- Parent: Eat that quickly or the God will punish ...
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When should parents stop changing clothes in front of children?

Baby is 2 years 2 months old. What will happen if we don't stop and at what age should we stop? Why? From: What to Expect The Toddler Years (Arlene Eisenberg, ‎Heidi Murkoff, ‎Sandee Hathaway - 2009)...
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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?

Suppose father XXX holds a college degree, usually comes home late and suddenly one fine day, stays at home. He lost his job. His son sees this happening. The father is a hard-working man, always ...
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Long-term preparations for becoming a parent?

I don’t have any immediate plans for a child. At the earliest (probably), I’ll become father in 3 years. I can imagine that the time will become stressful as soon as the child is on the way, not to ...
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Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?

I recently came across a photo on my 14 year old daughter's iPod of a letter from a girl friend of hers that expressed her feelings for my daughter. Words like "I do melt in your eyes" and "I can't ...
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For the benefit of the child: what's better - no father or bad father?

What's best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
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Should I try to protect my son from hearing that his father wants nothing to do with his two boys?

My ex husband, who was near 30 when we had our first child, and 33 when we had our second, hasn't seen his children since 2008.. We broke up when the youngest was 6 months but as his girlfriend was ...
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How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
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How to manage to get more time for ourselves when we have Kids?

We have 1.5 years baby. We are proud parents. But after my baby entered in our life every thing has changed. Day by day we are getting less time for ourselves. we are even getting less time to sleep. ...
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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Effects on children and parents of marriage breaking up

Me and my wife have a two year old son and he is amazing and I love him wholeheartedly. Unfortunately the relationship between my wife and I has frayed to the point where I no longer see a good ...
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My husband and I have different opinions on parenting

We have a 3 year old cautious and sensitive boy. My husband and I often have different opinions on parenting and sometimes it led to arguments. For some reason, my husband tends to listen to third ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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Is it ok to let my 3 month old drop her head a few inches during 'tummy time'?

My daughter is 3 months old and has just learned how to roll over a few days ago. She's doing it all day long and is now spending a considerable amount of time on her tummy (a dramatic increase in ...
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How can I be more meaningful in my thanks to my parents?

I see a lot of posts about people requiring help with their children/parents/grandparents, and I'm blessed to say that I have none of these problems. My issue is that I was a terror as a child. I ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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What kind of impact have parental quarrels on children?

What kind of impact (permanent or temporary) can parental quarrels have over a child on the short-term and on the long-term? I wish to know if some studies have been done on the matter. Answers with ...
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How do you keep up with a toddler?

My son is 2, and is seemingly a perpetual motion machine. He constantly wants me to "play cars" (we stand at a window sill and smash matchbox cars into each other), play "tag" or "chase me" around ...
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How to deal with my parents frequently getting mad at my life choices?

I’m 26 and I find both of my parents get mad at me for very bad reasons. For example, I was visiting my mom. In a mad tone she told me to stop playing a game on my phone. Just realizing it now, I find ...
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Suggestions for a father daughter activity that explains me omitting my son [duplicate]

I have a set of twins.. A boy and girl who are 5 years old. I love them both equally and want to have some one one time with each of them.. My son and I go for a haircut every month (or so), and we ...
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Formal curriculum for infants first few years?

In the context of independent behavioral, developmental and psychology fields (regarding people of any age), there appears common revelation about the first few years of life... and their impact on ...
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Is my wife an over-protective parent and how does this influence my child?

My daughter is 10 months old. Since her birth, my wife has never even once left the baby with me alone. First it was breastfeeding, then other excuses. She's constantly around me. Constantly ...
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How to help my wife cope w/ being a stay-at-home mom

My wife stays at home with our 4yo and I work full time. We moved to our current city a year ago and do not have many friends or family in the area. She feels isolated and depressed, and also guilty ...
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How do I help my husband see that his feelings of being a terrible parent to his son are unfounded?

My 15-year-old stepson, who has recently moved in with his mother 4 hours away, has left my husband with feelings that he is a terrible parent. My stepson was abusive - physically, mentally and ...
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How can I avoid ugly arguments with my wife?

I was recently playing a board game with my 12 year-old son and wife of 18 years. We reached a point in the game where it was my turn to play while my wife could win the game with her next move. ...
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Is kissing my son on lips a bad thing?

What can be the reason why some cultures and societies look down upon a parent kissing (peck) their toddlers on lips ? I kiss my 3 year old on his lips. Have been doing it since he was very little. ...
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Working mother but unemployed father

I can't stop thinking about this. I hope someone can help me. Just as the title says, my mother is the one who struggles to make money while my father just "eats, sleeps, repeats". He worked across ...
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I have a negative parent. How do I tell her to stop being my counsellor?

First off, I'd like to start by saying I love both my parents very much and I have great respect for them and what they've done for me these last 24 years. One of my parents is very negative. She ...
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How can we find a compromise about screen time for our daughter?

I am personally very strict with my daughter (2.5 years old). After she comes home from kindergarten, she sleeps and after she wakes up, my wife lets her watch TV. Anytime I am home, I don't allow ...
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Should bad feelings of a child not be mirrored? [duplicate]

Considering: Why is trying to talk children out of how they feel a bad idea? and My son started kindergarten and doesn't like writing his name. How should I think about this? I do not agree with the ...