Questions tagged [motivation]

For all questions pertaining to motivation, like motivating children to do something (e. g. chores, homework, learning) or dealing with a child's lack of motivation.

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How can I discourage doing a poor job without being a nitpicking perfectionist?

A (from what I can tell) somewhat common contributing factor to children growing up with a lack of self-confidence, or being people-pleasers, is parents who were very strict, perfectionist, and/or ...
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Should we make a 13-year-old without any interests/hobbies do something?

My 13-year-old daughter has absolutely no interests or hobbies and never had. When she was younger we tried to force her to do some sport but she constantly refused and cried whenever it came up. We ...
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My 9 months baby doesn't like to move, what should I do?

My son is 9 months old. He cannot sit up by himself when lying down, nor can he lie down from sitting. He cannot crawl, and didn't even show any intention to move his body. If he can't reach what ...
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My kid slops through her chores or takes forever to do it. I've tried everything

My 10-year-old daughter has a problem with doing her chores correctly in a timely manner. For instance, she's famous for taking 3 hours to wash the dishes. She wants to go outside and play or get on ...
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How do I motivate my 6 year old son to practise speech therapy at home?

My six-year-old son needs speech therapy. The diagnosis is firstly a myofunctional disorder with a lack of lip closure, impaired orofacial sensitivity and coordination, non-physiological tongue rest ...
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Formerly nappy-free 3 year old started to poo in the diaper again but still pees in the toilet

My daughter was nappy-free even before she turned 3. She is now 3 years 3 months. We went camping for a few days and she did poo in her undies all the time but never peed in her pants. This continued ...
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How handle a 5 year old who delays going to the toilet and soils his pants?

My 5 year old son goes to kindergarten. When it's toilet time he is the show-off. He was toilet trained but now delays going to the toilet for play or TV watching. He once said monsters are there so ...
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When to give up learning an instrument with a 6-year-old?

My daughter has been practising the violin with the Suzuki method since she was 3.5 years old and she is now 6 (so 2.5 years practising). However she's never really wanted to. She has struggled ...
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Adult son living at home what to do

I am a single mom and my son is 30 and living at home. He does not pay rent. He has a bad case of social anxiety and lack of motivation. Unfortunatly his dad was a narcissist and emotionally ...
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Encouraging the love for dinosaurs in 3 years old

My son is three years old and he is an extreme fan of dinosaurs. He managed to remember the name of most of them by listening to his teachers in day care and watching cartoons. I know this is most ...
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How to help my son improve without being discouraging?

I am building and painting miniatures, and have been doing so for many years. My son is showing more and more interest in building and painting them with me, which is great. I let him build a ...
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How to encourage a child to learn a distant language and culture?

I want to motivate a child of High school age to learn a new language from far away like Japanese and learn about other cultures and civilisations like - Zen and ancient Japanese culture, for example. ...
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How to encourage my 5-year-daughter to become a Medical Doctor?

I have a 5-year-old daughter. She has expressed a desire to be a Medical Doctor several times. Are there games, books, something on TV she can watch that will ground this idea or give her more ...
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How can I encourage my 5-year-old to learn to swim?

My son is five years old and simply does not want to learn to swim. We've had him in swimming lessons, but he won't go in the water and if put in the water will not make any effort to swim. He is ...
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How to encourage our 6-month-old baby to play on his own?

My baby is 6 month old (8.4 kg). He has a fancy play gym with plenty of lots of toys. We also have plenty of books to read to him. We make him play with our dog (poor doggy!). He also loves playing ...
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How to encourage our 2.5-year-old to tell us when he needs to go to the potty?

Our son is 2.5 years old. We have been potty training him since his 2nd birthday. It's been a long haul but we're getting there. When he is outside in his underwear he knows when he needs to go pee ...
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How to make my 18-year-old son get a job while in college?

My 18-year-old son has just entered college as a freshman. He has a workstudy as part of his scholarship and he has been hesitant following up on job leads. Beyond baby sitting a few kids in our ...
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How to motivate my extremely lazy 12-year-old?

My 12-year-old son is a good kid, but he is extremely unmotivated to do literally anything unless I or his mother are constantly riding him the whole time. As a young child, he was "easy" to raise ...
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Should I intentionally lose a game to make my daughter happy?

My daughter is very clever at playing chess. At 5 years of age, she could win against her mother and grandparents, but still couldn't beat me. She kept playing with me and tried to win, but always ...
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How to help a 20-year old with interest but lack of motivation for school?

(This is actually my problem, but I ask it from the perspective of my parents.) I'm a 20-year old in second year of undergraduation in Computer Science (I wasted the first year though due to alcohol ...
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How to make my 3.5-year-old learn at home?

My 3.5-year-old recently started school. He never shows willingness to learn anything from me, never colours with me or does tracing or learns poems. I just take down everything needed and sit with ...
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How to help a 13-year-old, who has no motivation to learn and shows signs of Asperger's, to succeed at school?

My friend's 13-year-old child is suspected of having Asperger's syndrome. He shows lots of signs of it, but doctors aren't sure. They say he's rebelious or has ADHD. He doesn't take changes well. For ...
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What do I do to get my daughter interested in presenting her science experiments at the science competition(fair)?

In my state we get the primary school aged kids (8-12) to enter a State Science competition. (In other states and countries - the equivalent may be a school science fair.) My daughter (9) has some ...
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How to motivate a 3.5-year-old to use the potty when she knows how to, but is strongly opposed to it?

My god daughter is about 3.5 years old. She has demonstrated she is aware of when she needs to pee/poop and if naked will ask for a pullup to be put on just so she can use it. I believe if she ...
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My 17-year-old daughter gets excellent grades but shows little interest in socializing or getting a job

My 17-year-old does outstanding academic work in high school. She ranks #3 or #4 out of 160 students. She sings in school and church choirs and has taken part in game-show type activities at the ...
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How do I help children who think they don't need to know math, still learn math and have fun doing it?

I am teaching mathematics for students from elementary school to senior high school. I advise the students to learn mathematics (as the language of nature) as well as English (as the international ...
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What to do with a disinterested 12-year-old boy?

My 12-year-old grandson does not have any interests other than video games. He can be a good student, but he does not turn in work and always complains about not having friends and nobody liking him. ...
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How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?

Unlike most of the teenagers, my 13-year-old niece doesn't care about her appearance at all. She does what is necessary hygiene - shover, teeth brushing - but not a bit more. She wears sweatpants and/...
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My 14-year-old is refusing to attend any schooling, even online

I have a 14-year-old daughter who has suffered from mental health issues since puberty. She has been through 4 middle schools and several residential behavior programs. I got her enrolled in an online ...
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How do I inspire creativity for my child?

My 7-year-old son loves Lego and video games. He plays Minecraft on his tablet all the time, building various things, but apparently nearly everything he made was something he replicated from a ...
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How to inspire a 7 year old to accelerate reading efforts?

I have a seven year old son who is having a hard time "getting inspired" to read regularly. This is somewhat of a struggle for me as his older brother was reading Harry Potter at around his age and ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?

My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk. If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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How to confront a young adult about his lack of motivation

Someone I know has an adult son (20 years old) with almost no motivation. Earlier this year he dropped out of his university far from home and moved back home into his parents house and enrolled at ...
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My 13 year old doesn't care about school?

He has done ZERO homework and is getting straight F's in class. His highest grade is a 52. He just doesnt care, and if I take anything away from him he drives me so insane I just have to give it back. ...
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I can't motivate my 13 year old twins to get school work turned in

We have tried grounding them, taking all their privledges away, we have tried reward systems and nothing works. They have started lying about getting the work done and turned in when they know we ...
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How to foster t-ball enthusiasm in a five year old

Background facts: My son is almost five. This is his first season playing t-ball. I am an assistant coach on the team, first time too. I'm not really athletic, but am a baseball fan. I know all of ...
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How to motivate yourself to read stories to a kid whom you know cannot understand and respond accordingly?

From: How to read an English story book to the kid when we don't talk in English at home? If you start immediately, it won't matter what language you're speaking; either way it will be babble :)...
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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?

I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc. She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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How do I convince my eleven-year-old to practice her dancing?

My eleven-year-old daughter who has been in dance classes since she was four. She loves ballet, and she loves to perform. However, she does not care for the stretching and practicing that are part ...
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Why do people have kids? [closed]

I always thought people had kids so as to make their life more meaningful in the following manner: they know that when they die they will leave something about themselves: their genes, and perhaps ...
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Getting child to focus

I have an 8 year old daughter that has a hard time focusing in everything she does. Don't get me wrong, she can focus when she wants to and if it's something that's she is interested in. The other ...
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Motivation for my 25 year old daughter

How can I get my 25 year old daughter to be motivated to finish her degree, get a job and start looking after her appearance? She still behaves as if she is 15 years old. All she wants to do is ...
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How to find fitting sports to introduce one’s kid to?

Different sports afford different body types, in team sports even a particular position may favor certain physical properties in a player. Much of this does not develop before puberty hits of course, ...
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How can I show my appreciation for my wife?

I have 3.5 month healthy baby girl and my wife and I seem to manage very well. I do not rely on other people and I am quite aware what others are able to do and how much effort goes into something. My ...
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How do I motivate my 8-year-old to practice the piano regularly?

I end up offering TV time as a reward but he complains so much while practicing, tracks time by calling out every 2 minutes, and practices without respecting the piano or the music (bangs it out). He ...
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How do I motivate my ten-year old to take responsibility and to do his best?

I worry that my ten-year old son is developing (has developed) a mindset that will come back to bite him as he gets older. He is a very bright and active kid, but does not like to extend himself and ...
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How to escape vicious circle of dawdling - no outdoor activities - conflicts ...?

I'm very frustrated at this moment. I have 2 sweet sons (7 and 2 years old), and especially now during the winter holidays (we're all at home together, no school/kindergarden) we could do a lot of ...
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How do I get my primary-schooler to love learning?

I do not know what to do anymore with my 6 year old daughter's lack of appetite for learning. She does not like to read anything. She would learn all the sight words and forget most of them, or can'...
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How do I get my 5 year old to be more appreciative and thankful for what she has?

Lately, my 5 year old daughter keeps focusing on things she doesn't have (some game that her friend has or some doll that she saw on a commercial that she "needs") and although she has plenty of dolls ...
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How do I motivate a primary schooler to practice musical instrument?

There is a question for an 8 year old, however for a younger child it might be different. My child can not get through all the excercises and after 3 minutes walks away from the piano. Should I bribe ...