Questions tagged [middle-childhood]

Age specific questions from about 8 years to about 11 years. Younger: primary-schooler. Older: pre-teen.

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What are some good games, books (or any suggestions) to teach my 10 year old more patience and persistence?

My 10 year old gets frustrated very easily. When I ask her if she'd like help or suggestions she says "no!". She'll often become angry and then give up. I have some of these tendencies (except being ...
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How to teach my people-pleasing daughter to balance between helping others and accounting for her own needs?

My younger daughter is a people pleaser. She always wants everyone else to be happy, often to her and her older sister's emotional detriment. She lets people take advantage of her generosity, buying ...
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How to deal with my 8-year-old son's behavioural problems at school and at home?

My 8-year-old son has just started his classes in the 2nd Grade and within a month I have received guardian calls from his teachers three times. After meeting with them, I got to know that he talks a ...
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What to do about my future wife's 8-year-old son who does what he wants with no regard for anyone else?

I have a son and getting married with the mother of three children in a few weeks. She has an 8-year-old son, whom this question is about, and an older son and a younger daughter. All is well with ...
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What are some healthy ways to control the speech of a child when parents are absent?

In Pakistan, according to Wikipedia, there are blasphemy laws which can even result in death. In the USA, where I am, we have a constitutional right of free speech, which does extend to children (all ...
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How to make my 7- and 10-year-old nephews eat more healthily?

I am a single gay man and earlier this year I moved in with my disabled parents to help them care for my Nephews (7 and 10). I have been very active in their lives and was always aware of their eating ...
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Ten year old is lying and seems to believe her own lies

My ten-year-old stepdaughter has recently developed a habit of telling bold-faced lies to avoid getting in trouble/having to do something she does not want to. How do we respond to this? Some ...
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How to deal with cussing from our 10-year-old son?

My 10-year-old son sent a message on his iPad through a word game to a family friend that was beyond inappropriate and had cuss words in it. She told her parents, who told us. We are both upset and ...
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Is it healthy for children (aged 8-14) to play with toys from for R rated film franchises?

Obligatory: not a parent. I was wandering through Walmart the other day when I came across toys, designed for kids (aged 8-14 is my guess) from the Alien franchise. (Lanard is the company, for those ...
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Girlfriends Daughter

I recently started dating an on again off again friend of mine back in May. We've been living together in our new house since October. We're both in our mid thirties and have known each other since ...
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When do kids stop holding their parent's hand?

At what age do kids stop holding their parent's hands? My 8 year old daughter ALWAYS holds my hand whilst outside. I don't mind, but my partner and older daughter (16) thinks she is too old to be ...
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Should I worry About My 10yo Nephew's Interest in Violence?

I have a 10yo nephew who is obsessed with violence. It's all he talks about. He asks me and my father things like; If I had a gun and you had a knife, could you kill me? If I start doing weights now, ...
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Is it possible to control iPad message language without my 10-year-old daughter hating me?

A few weeks ago I found my 10-year-old daughter using inappropriate language on her iPad. As it was the first time I caught her swearing, and the message was more in her own defense of another's ...
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How should I help my 9years old son to get back on TAG program

My 10-year-old boy loves to play a lot. Although he is smart and was in the TAG (Talented and Gifted) program, I have now discovered that the play is getting over him and distracting him. He is no ...
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How to react to my 9-year-old excessively pouting and trying to get away?

My son is 9 years old. I would describe him as emotionally immature for his age. He gets upset easier than other kids and tends to pout when he is especially upset about not getting his way. I do ...
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Will “positive parenting” techniques work with my children?

I have two children (age 8 & 6). Both are very strong-willed. The stress of the pandemic and remote learning have taken their toll and caused their behaviors to escalate. They are now more ...
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acting instead of the teacher against bullying

I live in Israel. Here bullying is not as much on the radar as it is in the United States. For example, there don't seem to be special "bullying policies" in the schools. In fact, when I ...
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How to talk to my 8-year-old daughter about her absent father?

My 8-year-old daughter hasn’t seen her father since she was 5 months old. It was an mentally and physically abusive relationship, so we moved to a different province and he hasn’t attempted to see her ...
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Should children decide with which parent to stay after friendly divorce [closed]

In case of a friendly divorce, should the children (say 8 year old) be able to choose with which parent to mainly live or should this decision mainly rest with the parents?
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How to help my 8-year-old daughter cope with being unable to execute something new other than crying?

My daughter will be turning 8 in a few days, and I have been unsuccessful in trying to get her to stop crying when she becomes frustrated. Examples are: She is currently in dance and takes 8 classes ...
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My son turns 10, what can I do for him that will be special?

January 2012, my son turns 10. I want to do something special with him, just me and him. A male bonding session to celebrate his double-digits. I've spoken to my wife and she thinks it's a great idea, ...
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How do I explain racial slurs to a 10-year-old?

I've got a 10-year-old daughter. She gets very good grades in school (sometimes even A+, rarely Bs). She already has quite a healthy knowledge of sexual education (the Birds and The Bees). She came ...
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What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment?

What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment, at UK primary school level (age approx 4 to 11)? In the UK, most pupils have a single teacher for all subjects at this age (rather than ...
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How to help son overcome stress over the time limit in first exam?

My son is in the 2nd grade (8 y/o) and at school, he doesn't have any exams at all yet. He passed the first stage of a gifted education project, that would greatly help him if he gets into it. The ...
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My 9-year-old daughter is a wallflower around friends. How do I help her?

My daughter is almost 9 and entering the 3rd grade. She has a lot of friends at school from being in sports and girl scouts. However, when we see them at a public place our daughter pretends she ...
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How can I help a ten year old girl not to be frightened of feeling sick?

My daughter was quite recently ill with a virus, which caused vomiting and lengthy periods of feeling very sick. This seems to have made her frightened of the sickness feelings. Now when she has a ...
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Supporting pubescent daughter's curiousity about “normal bodies”

Along with others in her peer group she has begun developing breasts and today asked if she could see her grandmother's breasts to contrast them to her mother's. This seems like quite normal curiosity ...
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How can I stop bad language in the home? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: What do we do when timeouts are not effective? My children are aged 6-10. The consistent use of bad Language including the F word is way out of control. Things like idiot, ...
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How to help my 11-years old sister, who is terrified after watching a horror movie?

Context: at a birthday party my 11-years old sister watched Annabelle and Annabelle 2. She told us later that even though she was frightned the whole time, she didn't want to stop watching, mainly for ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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How do I stop my son picking at his scabs

My 9 year old son has developed a habit of picking at a scab on his forehead. Unfortunately plasters just do no stick there for more than an hour or three (sweaty). How can I get him to stop this as ...
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Annoying kid at the park

My son is 9. He goes to a neighborhood park where he runs into an older kid (11) every now and then. Let's call this kid J. J is an extremely outgoing kid, who almost lives in the park. He has been ...
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Can a “magic answer box” backfire? Is it ok?

I’m a fresh father (4 months old daughter) and I’m sometimes visualising the future. I was thinking of implementing a system for when she’ll be a little older (7+ years old) in which: she posts a ...
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How do I limit the time my neighbor's kids spend at my home?

My neighbor’s children (9, 10, 11 and 12 years old) frequently pop over to my house to play. They get permission from their parents and me. I love that we have young kids on our street, but they stay ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son repay for a broken item?

My eight-year-old son mistreated an iPad and broke a screen protector. It was an accident but very easily preventable. Had the impact been much worse, it would have been ruined. The way I was raised -...
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Is “slapping a badly-behaved child” against the law in US? [closed]

I heard a violent argument between a mother and her child. Obviously it was the child's mistake and he said something really really bad that must have hurt mother's feelings. His words made ...
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How do I get my 8-year-old, who was diagnosed with ADHD, to be respectful and do her chores?

I have an integrated family and I have 3 children in total: My husband's 14-year-old daughter, my 8-year-old daughter and our 5-month-old son. My 8-year-old has ADHD which I'm having difficulty with ...
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What is a suitable bedtime and sleep pattern for an 8 year old?

What is a suitable bedtime and sleep pattern for an 8yr old? My 8yr old Gabrielle goes to bed at half 7 but can read or watch for an hour which means she goes to sleep at around half 8. In the ...
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How to encourage 9 year old boy to start learning new skill

I have a 9 year old son. He loves doing things he is good at but is not very open to start trying new things. For ex. he is doing Karate since he was 6 yr old and now he is intermediate level and good ...
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Why does my 10-year-old still urinate in bed?

My 10-year-old pees in the bed every now and then. Is this just a "I'm too lazy to get up and use the bathroom" issue or is this caused by stress?
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Deal with child in self-destruct mode with sibling

My partner and I have each a kid - an 8 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. The girl believes that anything the boy gets, she should get as well - no matter how it was obtained. This is how she views ...
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Friend kid problem

My friend and I have been friends for about 9 years. She has a son who has severe ADHD and my daughter is 5 and she has mild autism. When my friend is around with her son, her son is very ...
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How to help kids remember to keep track of their own stuff and keep it together when not at home

My six year old daughter is just transitioning into attending classes and activities more independently. As this is happening, she may get dropped off by her dad and picked up by me (and vice versa). ...
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Looking for a daily/weekly chart that awards a child's behavior and Chore completion

Currently I'm trying to create on in excel, but I'm wondering if I'm re-inventing here. I would like the option to customise the chores and behaviors and the rewards and assign different score values ...
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Why is my 9-year-old making up new illnesses/injuries every day?

My 9-year-old daughter is a sweet, talkative little girl who has a tendency to exaggerate things, but within the past two years her claims of different illnesses and injuries have steadily increased ...
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How to encourage 9 year old to stop whining and independently practice their math?

I live with my 9 year old cousin who dislikes and has been doing poorly in math. (New Canadian education system likes to have "no homework" because apparently this will be good and reduce stress in ...
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Exercising visual spatial intelligence using interactive storytelling

What is the best way to exercise visual spatial intelligence for my 8 year old in regards to interactive story telling? I currently have her describe the surrounding environment she envisions in as ...
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10 year old avoiding school as parent criticises and changes school texts

My 10 year old grandson has been avoiding school because his father (my son) doesn't support some material in schoolbooks which he believes is political, not information. My grandson is embarrassed ...
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How to bring my 10-year-old, who is convinced that she can go to heaven, back to reality?

I have a 10-year-old daughter. Apparently, one of her friends can go to heaven and talked with angels. Out of curiosity, she found out 'how' to be like her. It has been a year now, only now I realized ...
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What can we do to get my cousin's 8-year-old to behave, instead of destroying things and blaming others?

My cousin's 8-year-old son seems to be one of the worst kids I know. We have tried so many different angles of punishment and tried to compromise... First to start with, he likes to get into things. ...