Questions tagged [middle-childhood]

Age specific questions from about 8 years to about 11 years. Younger: primary-schooler. Older: pre-teen.

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How to help my 10-year-old daughter who is upset because her dad is not in her life?

The last time my 10-year-old daughter saw her dad she was 6. He would come and see her whenever he had time or when he wanted to show off to his friends that he is a dad. When I got married, he ...
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Six and nine-year-olds will not stop having accidents

I have two boys, just turned six and nine. While occasional #1 accidents are not that uncommon in Kindergarten, both of my boys started off their Kindergarten years with lots of them, including #2 ...
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How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?

Crazy sports parents. How do you deal with them? I've heard of everything from parents screaming obscenities at players on the opposing team, their own team, or even their own kids, to actual fights ...
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My 8-year-old daughter was bullied at school. What should I do and advise her to do?

My 8-year-old daughter is a soft and gentle girl. She hardly has any friends at school and most of the time plays with no one at break time. Yesterday a guy in her class hit her, punched her and ...
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What to do about an 8-year-old who will suffer silently until a breaking point?

We have an 8-year-old son. He has no intellectual or developmental disabilities. However, we are concerned about the following. He will not speak up in protest for himself. For example: He tripped ...
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11-year old having recurring nightmares about killing people she knows. Should I be worried?

She says it's like she's a different person in her dreams, cruel and almost sociopath, and the people she loves in real life are out to get her, and to escape she has to kill all of them (and ...
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Should I seek a medical professional when the school says my 10-year-old has a learning disability?

I have a 10-year-old daughter who has been struggling with school for the past 3 years. She struggles in reading and math and just seems to not get it. There was a time she would even cry when it was ...
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

My 10 year old son has ADHD. He has some severe issues with focus and memory. We've tried various things to help him focus and remember but they all seem to arbitrarily stick or fail. For now he ...
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Overcoming an irrational fear of long guns

My 10 year old daughter has developed an acute fear of long guns. This is problematic because we go shooting at the range where I've been showing her guns bigger than our little revolver. This is ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?

We have a 10-year-old child who is generally not interested in doing homework. He prefers to play games and watch TV. He's bored by homework which requires some patience and concentration, like ...
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How to handle a 10-year-old boy who has fallen in love?

My 10-year-old nephew is doing 5th standard schooling. He is normally doesn't do too much, mostly playing video games and watching movies. His education progress is also good. Yesterday, I heard ...
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How do I tell my 9-year-old son that my now ex husband is not his biological dad?

I'm in a situation where I became pregnant with the wrong person and decided to raise my child by myself. Since before his 3rd birthday the biological dad disappeared and hasn't had anything to do ...
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How can I talk my son through his competition anxiety?

This year my son tested into our district's Math Field Day competition. He was very excited to show us the results and we all agreed to commit to the weekly practice sessions after school. He enjoys ...
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A boy at school told my 8-year-old daugther she had fat thighs. How to boost her self-esteem and make her eat healthier?

My 8-year-old daughter is very quiet and isolated at school. She has almost no friends. Besides, she doesn't like sports at all. Yesterday she told us that one of the boys at school told her she has ...
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How to help our 9-year-old, who struggles with math, to focus?

My 9-year-old son is quadrilingual (fluent in all), education is in the language that both my husband and I are not speaking. He is our only child. We live in the Dutch speaking part of Belgium. We ...
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How to answer child's hard questions

I have recently found myself facing my sweet 9-year old cousin, who looked at me with those big naive eyes, and knowing me as the geeky aunt who knows everything, asked "why did the Germans do this to ...
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How to deal with children succeeding because of their parent's efforts rather than their own?

It's that time of year again: Pinewood Derby! The Cub Scout motto is "Do Your Best". But it's also important to recognize true excellence. Our pack does a good job of balancing those values by giving ...
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Why is it so hard teaching your own children and how to improve the process?

I have two children, 6 and 9 years old. I find it very hard to teach them skills or school subjects and I wonder if there are any tricks or methods to it? It seems my children are much more eager to ...
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How to help my 8-year-old who has selective mutism and doesn't say a word at school?

My 8-year-old has selective mutism. She is very talkative at home, but when it comes to school she will not say a word. She went the whole school year without her teacher hearing her voice. When I go ...
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How should screen time be treated to balance the pro of education resources on the internet and con of decreased involvement in other activities?

Screen time is a tricky subject. Around middle school age there are very good uses of technology that emerge where can child can develop healthy hobbies fueled by self-motivation (which may later turn ...
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How to get schizophrenia and bipolar kids to take medication?

I have a friend, who has a child ( who is about 12-13 years old) who is diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar symptom. Now, dealing with a child who can't think straightly and suffer from ...
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How to improve the relationship between my misbehaving 8-year-old stepchild and me?

I've been with my other half for nearly 4 years and have been known to his now 8-year-old daughterfor a little longer than that. She has been aware of our relationship for around 3.5 years. When we ...
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My 3-year-old-son and his 4-year-old and 8-year-old cousins: He hits the younger and gets picked on by the older one. How to deal with that?

My 3-year-old son is hitting his 4-year-old female cousin. He is bigger than her. I am constantly on him, I have tried time outs, I always make him apologize and give her a hug, which he loves doing ...
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Backed into a corner with 9-year-old and tablet confiscation

My 9-year-old son spends as much time as he can get away with using his iPad (in this case watching Youtube videos). His iPad is also required for school. This evening, after giving him ample warning ...
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Building credit history for a child

I just came across this suggestion on Facebook that was talking about building credit for my children, I basically pay them (the company) a month for a period of years, under my child's name and they ...
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What age to teach a child about fairness?

At what age do you or can you teach a kid about fairness? I helped my cousin watch after her 17 yr old and 11 yr old. I had to pick up the 17 yr old from softball practice. She hinted she wanted to ...
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Is school punishment for mediocre test results reasonable?

My daughter is 9 years old, she's just started grade 4. We've had her in a school for gifted kids since kindergarten. It's been great so far because they understand the challenges that gifted kids ...
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How do I instruct my openly defiant son?

I don't know for sure if my 8-year-old son actually enjoys creating conflict, but he does it a lot. I could go on and on with examples, but one in particular prompted me to ask this question. We were ...
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How to remain unaffected by my 10-year-old son's angry outbursts?

My son is ten years old now and I feel that over the past year or so he has become increasingly irritable and prone to angry outbursts. He is easily frustrated by the smallest things and tears up and ...
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How to help my antagonistic 10-year-old learn necessary skills when he doesn't want to participate in any classes?

My 10-year-old son is in grade four. He doesn't like to participate in any classes. To him doing practice sounds unnecessary and boring and he likes to have all skills on his own. He is active and he ...
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8-year-old girl very keen on her uncle and not on her aunt, a matter of age?

My wife and I are in our thirties. She is the "godmother" of a nice 8-year-old girl (her sister's single child). As her husband, she has become increasingly interested in me lately (I'd say since ...
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How to talk about a historic suicide in the family to young kids?

My brother took his own life in 2000 at age 23. My kids - 10-year-old girl, 8-year-old boy and 4-year-old girl - know that I had a brother and that he died, but I have not told them anything more than ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

My 8-year-old son has been wetting and soiling himself for a long time now. We have been referred to hospital specialist nurses who are helping retrain his bladder. This was over 18 months ago and we ...
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Framework for letting 9yo get access without hard time limits

My 9-year-old is in this situation concerning media: She has limited access to a family PC (restricted account with a time limit of X minutes per day). She uses that for Youtube and Minecraft. She ...
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What to do when a child gets angry while trying to lead a group?

On a children's camp we have a group of 4 boys (around 12 years old) with no appointed leader. One of the boys is naturally trying to lead the others, but they are lazy, so it's not easy for him. The ...
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What to do when an 8-year-old is not motivated by rewards?

When I want to get something done by my 8-year-old, I offer rewards for that activity, but still the rewards don't motivate him to do that task. The rewards are something that he loves the most, for ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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Why is my eight year old daughter trying to hurt my feelings - and how should I respond?

I am the father of two children - an eight year old daughter and a four year old son. I have been very close to them, in that they both play,share and trust me. Both also have special activities ...
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How to help my 9-year-old daughter with an eating disorder (comfort eating)?

I am divorced and have custody of my children. I noticed that my 9-year-old daughter is eating much more food than she usually does and she has gained so much weight. She eats more during meals and in ...
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What do you do to help an ADHD kid get along in the classroom or with school work better?

Rather than always trying to change the child, what are some techniques for ways to help a "wiggly kid" function in the classroom better without it just being about "sitting still"? The methods I ...
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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What do I do to get my daughter interested in presenting her science experiments at the science competition(fair)?

In my state we get the primary school aged kids (8-12) to enter a State Science competition. (In other states and countries - the equivalent may be a school science fair.) My daughter (9) has some ...
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How to instill sensitivity in kids?

I am new to the site and don't know if this question exactly falls into the domain of this site. We have a group of volunteers in our university who go to a school in a nearby village to teach. Some ...
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How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation?

How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation. I separated from my ex wife about 4 years ago. My son has been living with her for around the ...
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My kid slops through her chores or takes forever to do it. I've tried everything

My 10-year-old daughter has a problem with doing her chores correctly in a timely manner. For instance, she's famous for taking 3 hours to wash the dishes. She wants to go outside and play or get on ...
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How to deal with two 10- and 12-year-old brothers fighting?

I am a father of 10- and 12-year-old boys. Both used to play happily and regularly and fought on occasions. The younger boy used to complain about his older brother with some deep cries and proof of ...
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What are the pros and cons of having an advanced student skip a mid-elementary grade?

At the end of third grade, our daughter's teacher approached us (and our school's principal) and suggested that with her test scores (high-school level) and level academic mastery, we should put her ...
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How do I teach my son to manage his anger when he is unwilling?

My 8-year-old son has difficulty managing his anger in a healthy way. When he gets angry at his sister, sometimes he hits her or pulls her hair. Sometimes he hits himself. Sometimes he screams and ...
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How to deal with my 8-year-old son's behavioural problems at school and at home?

My 8-year-old son has just started his classes in the 2nd Grade and within a month I have received guardian calls from his teachers three times. After meeting with them, I got to know that he talks a ...
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What to do about my future wife's 8-year-old son who does what he wants with no regard for anyone else?

I have a son and getting married with the mother of three children in a few weeks. She has an 8-year-old son, whom this question is about, and an older son and a younger daughter. All is well with ...